I need some advice..
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Topic: I need some advice..
Posted By: MissCandice
Subject: I need some advice..
Date Posted: 31 May 2010 at 9:49pm
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If you separated from you partner whom you had been with for 5-6 years, do you think its a bad idea to move in with another mum of one?
If it would make paying the bills a lot easier, and having support close to you. Would you do it? One child is a DD3 and the other a DS5 Do you think its better to move to a cheaper house and settle in there by yourself? |
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 31 May 2010 at 9:52pm
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you would have to have some very firm ground rules about how you would treat each others childrens. and have lots of space... 2 women together can be hard but if they are both mothers that could be harder. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 31 May 2010 at 10:03pm
| I would want to live by myself first i think |
Posted By: jaz
Date Posted: 01 June 2010 at 1:19pm
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It makes sense from a financial and practical point of view but I agree with Bizzy that you would need to establish some ground rules first. Probably more around minding the other persons child while they pop out. I could see this being taken advantage of quite easily. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: RinTinTin
Date Posted: 01 June 2010 at 4:50pm
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I considered it when I left Mac's Dad but decided to live on my own. I think parenting is a very personal thing and being jammed in a house with another mother would be hard for me. Especially if their child was a little turd! Or if I disagreed with their parenting style. Or visa versa. Also, I'm a real giver. When I move in with people I always do the dishes, cleaning, vacuuming, etc, then they tend to take it for granted that I'll just do it. I didn't want this to happen with the other mothers child IYKWIM. Didn't want to end up being the babysitter out of kindness and then end up HAVING to do it cause the other mother just kind of expected it. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 01 June 2010 at 5:19pm
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It depends on your relationship with the other mother, I could probably cope living with my SIL or cousin, but don't know about someone who is a friend - probably a sure way to kill the friendship as I don't always agree with the way they parent. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |