Palmerston North friend needed
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Topic: Palmerston North friend needed
Posted By: nomates
Subject: Palmerston North friend needed
Date Posted: 29 March 2010 at 2:03pm
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This is going to sound very desperate but I'm in need of a friend or 2. My bestie lives in a different city and I'm too shy and pathetic to talk to other mums at the groups I go to with my two children. I've made a few friends in Palmerston North but they each have their own busy little lives. I really need some support and I want to give some to someone else, as this parenting thing is hard and often lonely.
I'm 30married and have two children. One is one the other is three. When/if I ever manage a moment to myself I love to sew wee kiddies clothes, quilts etc. I'm passionate about breast feeding and love to bake muffins... Nom nom If you think I don't sound like a total nutter and you are in need of a friend too please contact me. This isn't my real OhBaby account as I don't want people I know, to know I'm doing this as I feel like a total loser! Lol I hope to hear from you soon :0) |
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Posted By: myfullhouse
Date Posted: 29 March 2010 at 2:33pm
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Didn't want to read and run. Sorry I am not in PN but hope you find someone, it can be a lonely job sometimes. Good luck ------------- Lindsey 
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Posted By: nomates
Date Posted: 29 March 2010 at 2:58pm
| hey thanks. And thanks for making a post so that I don't look like a total nomate hehehe. |
Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 29 March 2010 at 3:02pm
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Have you been to any of the Palmy meet ups? Maybe we should have one before I go and when Becks gets back, they're great fun for meeting other mummies. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: M2K
Date Posted: 29 March 2010 at 3:22pm
Aw I feel your pain, being shy is horrible!! I have only just started meeting people where I am now, and now that I have, I wished I had of when we first moved here! Funnily enough my partner might get posted up there soon, but I was also going to suggest the meet up thread.  ------------- 
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Posted By: mumzrule
Date Posted: 29 March 2010 at 3:28pm
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If I was in Palmy (or had a way of getting there) I would put my hand up. I find it very hard to put myself out there.
Best of luck.  -------------  
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 29 March 2010 at 3:51pm
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I've been sitting here trying to think who you might be... lol but theres so many more palmy mums on here these days.
I'm much the same, I don't do the coffee group type things so I don't meet many mums and my bestie is in wellys |
Posted By: nomates
Date Posted: 29 March 2010 at 6:16pm
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Hey thanks for all the encouragement. It's taken me a while to get the balls to do this.
Yeah meet ups are good but I just don't do well in large groups. I keep thinking that one day I'll meet someone with the same friend needs as me but it just ain't happening. Everyone seems to have their close friends already. |
Posted By: myfullhouse
Date Posted: 29 March 2010 at 6:36pm
I know how you feel, I am not too good at small talk and find it hard striking up a conversation with people. I am very lucky that I have a few friends from coffee group, although one of them moved back to the UK last December  ------------- Lindsey
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Posted By: KiwiL
Date Posted: 29 March 2010 at 7:15pm
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I am not in Palmy either, but I really do know how you feel. I was never one to have a lot of friends and have kind of drifted away from my best friend as our lives have gone in very different directions. My other best friend did the dirty on me and so that changed our relationship heaps.
I find it hard to make close friends. I have lots of acquaintances now, but noone special as such. You're right, it can be really lonely. It's really nice to have a bestie or someone you can have really girly chats with. I hope you find someone who can be that person. xx |
Posted By: nomates
Date Posted: 29 March 2010 at 8:25pm
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hey thanks. you have made me feel alot better about not having a really close friend where I live :0)
I love all of your tickers. such beautiful wee kiddies. |
Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 29 March 2010 at 8:26pm
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Unfortunately your situation is one of the reason's I'm so keen to move to Akl, to be closer to my friends and family.
I don't really know anyone down here that I can relate too I have found Palmy a difficult place to make friends and meet people in general, we don't go to church and we're not from around here, I actually find Akl people friendlier and more sociable. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: RinTinTin
Date Posted: 29 March 2010 at 8:27pm
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I'm nt in Palmy either but just wanted to say I know how you're feeling. I live in Tokoroa and I have no real friends here. I don't have problems talking to people but like you say, everyone seems to already have THOSE friends and there never seems much room for little ol' me. I hope you find someone you're looking for. Is there anyone that you DO talk to, that can help you strike up conversation with some new people. Sometimes it takes a helping hand with things like this. Best of luck. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: oscarboo
Date Posted: 29 March 2010 at 8:28pm
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I'm in Feilding if that heaps you at all. I have a 14 month daughter and don't have much time for socialising at the moment. I do work full time during the week but wouldn't mind catching up a the weekends. PM me if you want to. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  
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Posted By: nomates
Date Posted: 29 March 2010 at 8:45pm
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Great idea Mum2Mac! I do have a friend who seems to know everyone at two of the groups we go to. Asking her might be a great step in the right idea. Thanks :)
thanks CaliandJack you have filled me with such hope. lol. nice to know that I'm not alone though. I have been starting to wonder if maybe I'm strange or something? but I think I'm pretty normal. But then, I spose everyone thinks that. hehe Thank you Ocsarboo. I really need a friend who can socialise during the week. Playdates, playing with each others kids while the other one does their washing, going out for fluffies, that kinda thing :) |
Posted By: mumoftwins
Date Posted: 29 March 2010 at 8:56pm
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I'm in Palmy!!!! And in a semi-same situations to you. We moved here in August 08, and since then I have meet a few people, but very few who I would call my friends. We meet at playgroups and might get along well, but it stops when playgroup is over. I am slowly collecting a few phone numbers and visits outside of playgroups......I am quite shy myself, but having an outgoing DH has helped me to push myself out there!
I have 3 yr old twin boys and a 18mth old boy. My big boys are at kindy in the mornings, but we have most afternoons free, so if you're feeling brave, send me a PM and maybe we could arrange a wee meeting somewhere?? Which part of Palmy are you in? There is a small coffee group just starting out in the Westend/Awapuni plunket rooms on Wednesday mornings. If you are close by, pop in on a Wednesday (not on this week, then a 2 wk break for school holidays). Starts at 9.30am.
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Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 29 March 2010 at 10:35pm
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Hey there,
Yeah Palmy sucks for meeting people! The people i've met have been through ohbaby or via ohbaby friends!!! I went to the Highbury library 2 weekly jumping jellybeans on friday just been. There was only me & my 2 14 month olds & another lady who has a son in my daughters class who had 2 3 year olds there. So nice quiet group. Oh there was one other baby who was the grandchild of the librarian. Didn't seem to bad eta: the session I mean LOL I'd love to get out a little more & hopefully that will happen after the school hols cause I will have a double buggy. I am going to try & get to the St Davids music group on a thursday but think that these two are a little too young for it yet. I'm in Awapuni North. We should all plan another palmy meet up. ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com"> 
A = 01.02.04 & C = 16.01.09 & G = 30.03.12 |
Posted By: SBM
Date Posted: 29 March 2010 at 11:58pm
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Wish I was in Palmy I need a new good friend and you sound just like my kinda person!
Good luck in your friend search!
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Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 30 March 2010 at 7:32am
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Are you on FB??? ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com">
A = 01.02.04 & C = 16.01.09 & G = 30.03.12 |
Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 30 March 2010 at 8:58am
| Feel free to pm me too. Daniel and I are home most of the time, I don't work and he only spends 9hrs a week in daycare the rest of the time we are just mucking around. |
Posted By: kat_hutch
Date Posted: 30 March 2010 at 11:04am
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i'm not from palmy, but live in feilding so i'm close to you. and mumoftwins i know what you mean about how at playgroup its all friendly, then it kinda stops once playgroup finishes. ------------- 
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Posted By: nomates
Date Posted: 30 March 2010 at 3:03pm
| it sounds like there are a few lovely mums out there in need of some friendship. Maybe we should have a nomates playdate? hehe |
Posted By: nomates
Date Posted: 30 March 2010 at 3:06pm
| have you guessed who I am yet Stacey?? |
Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 30 March 2010 at 3:32pm
| Have I met you before? if thats a yes then yes I think I might have. If its a no, then I have no idea hahaha |
Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 30 March 2010 at 5:30pm
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I'm all for meeting up. Got school hols starting up so outside where Alia can run free would be great! ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com">
A = 01.02.04 & C = 16.01.09 & G = 30.03.12 |
Posted By: nomates
Date Posted: 30 March 2010 at 6:04pm
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Yes you have met me Stacey :)
Childen running wild and free sounds like an early night in the making 
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 30 March 2010 at 7:16pm
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hehehe I thought so.
Feel free to message me if you didn't think I was a fruit loop 
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Posted By: T_Rex
Date Posted: 06 April 2010 at 11:57am
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Just bumping for anyone who hasn't looked in the meetup thread - we will be at mcdonalds on princess st (the new one) from 11 tomorow. All welcome ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 06 April 2010 at 12:44pm
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hmmm do I know you too??? If so get in contact with me and we can catch up again now I am back here. I will be there tomorrow all going well and I remember. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: nomates
Date Posted: 07 April 2010 at 12:38pm
| bummer. i have only just cheked my emails! :( hope you all had a great time :) |