Taking a break
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Topic: Taking a break
Posted By: Oxy
Subject: Taking a break
Date Posted: 01 March 2010 at 10:13am
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I will pm you shezzey ------------- http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/250ed1" rel="nofollow">  TTC#1 Jan 2009 |
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Posted By: Oxy
Date Posted: 01 March 2010 at 3:17pm
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Im not going to take a break I change my mind
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Posted By: GuestGuest
Date Posted: 01 March 2010 at 4:18pm
| I think you really should take a break Oxy. It's clear that you need one and I think a few of us aren't going to find it easy to forgive and forget IYKWIM. |
Posted By: jazzy
Date Posted: 01 March 2010 at 5:08pm
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Oxy you need a break. This is the second time in a week you have said you are having a break & stomped off.
You need a hobby or a group you can go to instead of being stuck at home day in day out. We have all been very supportive of you & I am one of those who will not forget quickly. |
Posted By: freckle
Date Posted: 01 March 2010 at 5:14pm
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Oxy - I too would find it hard to forget but had you made an effort to say sorry and maybe explain yourself I would've forgiven... ignoring something doesn't make it go away... ------------- mum to 3 lovely girls :D |
Posted By: Red
Date Posted: 01 March 2010 at 5:20pm
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I don't know what was said originally - but all the best Oxy, it sounds like it has been a long road for you so far. Good luck with your decision, TTC can be very stressful especially when it is taking a bit longer than anticipated. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: MaeBeeBaby
Date Posted: 01 March 2010 at 5:30pm
Oxy I genuinely hope you are okay but I do think you need to get away from the computer hun, and find the happy Oxy we all know you can be. 
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Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 01 March 2010 at 5:33pm
I think quite a few ladies on here would appreciate some honesty from you, hun. We all make mistakes, people are usually happy to forgive and forget if you're happy to man up to the issues (or should that be woman up  )
Whether you take a break or not, do take the time to look after yourself. It's sometimes a really good idea to talk to someone about any issues you're struggling with, and sometimes the best person to talk to is someone trained in that kind of thing. It sounds like you're going through a tough time - surely a little extra help couldn't go astray? -------------   
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Posted By: Shezzey
Date Posted: 01 March 2010 at 5:39pm
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Oxy... its your choice doll ... if you want to come back to OB, you can.... i will be there for you.... see you in the charting thread |
Posted By: Oxy
Date Posted: 01 March 2010 at 7:59pm
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I am angry with alot of people on here. I will not be going anywhere I have just as much right as any of you to be on here
I cant win can I you all you still think im you know who So we sound a like a lot of people sound the same doesn't mean I am that person I have been on ohbaby a long time. So dont you ever think you cant push me out I shouldn't have to explain myself I have made some good friend and some not so good friends At least I still have some friends I can turn to ------------- http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/250ed1" rel="nofollow"> TTC#1 Jan 2009 |
Posted By: Babykatnz
Date Posted: 01 March 2010 at 10:49pm
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Oxy, noones pushing you out of here, YOU are the one who keeps saying you are going to take a break but comes back before the day is out saying you have changed your mind... this business with kat_girl just sealed peoples opinions either way. If you are being honest, and kat_girl really isnt someone you have created, then there really is no need for you to get your back up about it.
Most people come on here to get advice/support from people who know what they are going through either from being there before, or currently in the same place too, but every time anyone offers you advice, you refuse it, or ignore it, or more or less tell people to butt out... yet you are the one saying those problems are getting you down... I guess what I am saying is, some of us just dont understand what is going on with you, and think you could benefit from getting some professional help, be it someone to talk to, or a doctor to see whats going on that could be preventing a baby coming... but I think you should talk to someone professionally before taking any more steps TTC... you seem to constantly be down about anything and everything, and thats not a good mindset to be in when you bring a new baby into the world. Whether you agree or not, whether you appreciate, or even take any notice of what I say or not... at the end of the day, its up to YOU to do something about how you are feeling... but if it were me... I'd start by taking some of the advice of the ladies on here who really do mean well.... ------------- Brandon - 05/12/2003  
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Posted By: MissCandice
Date Posted: 02 March 2010 at 7:32am
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I can understand why she would get her back up, if she is not Kat_Girl.
Can you imagine being accused of being someone who lied about being pregnant and got a picture of the net? I mean can you really prove it? Innocent until proven guilty. However, I very much doubt anyone will own up. ------------- ~ Mummy to a beautiful girl ~ |
Posted By: MaeBeeBaby
Date Posted: 02 March 2010 at 7:36am
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So how come Kat_Girl's posts disappeared - that is proof in itself that is is a fake persona, no matter who the culprit is.
And Oxy is on OB every day ALL day, she posts about every 5-10 mins - she was very quiet yesterday - that is typical behaviour of a guilty party IMO - I have seen it all before. |
Posted By: MissCandice
Date Posted: 02 March 2010 at 7:44am
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Yes so Kat_Girl disappeared. That does not say it is Oxy, and ok, she spends all day on Ohbaby. That also does not prove it is her.
I think you should leave her alone until you have proper proof. I mean how would you feel if we were jumping on you? If there is something i have missed, other than the other thread, the fact shes online all day, and that she was quiet yesterday. Let me know. But from where i am standing, that is not enough. Yeah it is very coincidental but at the moment that is all i can see. Just my opinion guys. OhBaby is a supportive place, are we being supportive? No, we are jumping to conclusions that Oxy is Kat_Girl and treating her like a criminal. ------------- ~ Mummy to a beautiful girl ~ |
Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 02 March 2010 at 7:48am
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I think Kandice does have a fair point. Even if we do make assumptions (and yes, we do), we're not a judge and jury.
I'm sure the mods will look into this - with ISP addresses and everything, they have a lot more info available to them. -------------
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Posted By: minik8e
Date Posted: 02 March 2010 at 7:49am
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There's a little more history to it Kandice, and it's a combination of many things that has lead people to that conclusion.
But I completely understand what you're saying, and in some respects agree. I think, if you believe it's Oxy etc. than just ignore her in future, instead of jumping on her. Then again, if you say you're going to have a break, then have a break, instead of changing your mind a couple of hours later. And if you're serious about TTCing, then you would go to the doctor to get checked out when it doesn't happen for over a year... |
Posted By: MissCandice
Date Posted: 02 March 2010 at 7:50am
Exactly, then you can jump up and down. But what if its not her? What if you have just accused someone, and told her that she needs help, simply because she is on OhBaby alot and went quiet. Yeah be my guest to jump on Kat_Girl i mean she was outright busted. ETA: My quote thingy ------------- ~ Mummy to a beautiful girl ~ |
Hopes wrote:Posted By: jazzy
Date Posted: 02 March 2010 at 7:52am
There is more to it than that & if you were in charting everyday & read every post you would understand |
Posted By: jazzy
Date Posted: 02 March 2010 at 8:15am
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Babykatnz said it well & spot on.
Oxy you were the one that brought kat to us, we made the connection from you, not a guess. We would never of know it was you or cared. You used her to get at us. I could write a list of the things that are the same. No one is telling you to leave, you do that all the time. Pity kat deleted a lot of her posts as the information she provided was the same as yours. If you want this to go away then let it go. I know you will never apologise or own up. You are angry at us, how do you think we feel. As for the ISP addresses, it can easily changed if you know IT, but in this case I think they would find it the same. |
Posted By: _H_
Date Posted: 02 March 2010 at 8:38am
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Babykatnz i think you said it all.
Im not saying Oxy is kat_girl but i still think you should see someone Oxy- we all know how TTC can get on top of you and that may help you feel better ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: Oxy
Date Posted: 02 March 2010 at 9:01am
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The reason I have not been on here much is because. No ones is talking to me. A part from a few
I sure no who my friends are now. The ones that have stick by me through all of this and not cared if its true or not And that thread has now been deleted Let bygones be bygones And move on from all of this And lets all just go back to the happy thread we all know and love When I say im taking a break I mean a few hours away from ohbaby I know a number of people want me to take a break so they feel better not so I feel better but im not going to cause I was here way before kat_girl was ------------- http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/250ed1" rel="nofollow"> TTC#1 Jan 2009 |
Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 02 March 2010 at 9:07am
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Is it possible to get this thread locked, as its clearly not going any where and kinda pointless. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: jazzy
Date Posted: 02 March 2010 at 10:02am
Oxy I will still chat to you. It is up to you if you chooses to chat to only a few & ignore the rest of us. Next time you want to take a break, just take one, don't ask for your chart to be removed, or PM someone to pass a message on to us or start a topic about it. |