Evenings
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Topic: Evenings
Posted By: Rb73
Subject: Evenings
Date Posted: 18 December 2009 at 9:50pm
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I need to get this one off my chest.
My DD will feed pretty constantly, with 10 mins breaks in the evenings. Tonight she's feed at 6.30 and from 7.15, with two 10 mins breaks till 9pm. She's tired so I feed in her room with the lights off and put in the cot during 10 min breaks.She's 4 1/2 months but was 1 month premmie. She's not a great eater at other times, so I try and go with it listening to the radio with headphones on etcv to give myself something to do. I have had no luck getting her to take a bottle, (she gags and refuses to drink) so that's out of the question. She won't settle for the night until she is full, but when she is she goes to sleep straight away and either wakes once or sleeps through. It probably sounds selfish, but sometimes I really struggle with not being able to do anything on my evenings. I can't organise to go anywhere, as I'm never sure when she'll go to sleep and nobody else can feed her...and after that feeding period, i'm tired. I'm get the feeling that some bottle feeding mums and my child free friends think I'm being over protective etc. I thought about filling her up more during the day by if she's not hungry she refuses to drink. Does anyone else have something similiar? Will she grow out of it? I'm so hoping I'm not doing this for another year. I keep telling myself that its only a short time in my life, but missing family weddings, and having to feed through Xmas dinner doesn't sound like much fun. |
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Posted By: Nikki
Date Posted: 18 December 2009 at 10:00pm
Morgan did that as a newborn (well fed every 40-60mins til 9 or 10pm before she crashed) so I started doing a bottle of expressed milk - which meant maybe 1 or 2 bf's (instead of about 5 or 6) and a bottle then she slept ... so if I was you I'd persist with the bottle. If you don't want to do that, then at least she should be on solids soon, which will fill her up (and give your boobs a break) in the evening so she should hopefully go down earlier. So yes ... I think she will grow out of it, once shes having solids for dinner.  ------------- DS (5yrs) and DD (3yrs) |
Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 18 December 2009 at 10:24pm
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Yeah i also think she will grow out of it. I can understand how hard it is though, with each baby I didn't feel normal until I got my evenings back, everything does seem better once you can have a few baby free hours.
With the bottle if you are keen on going that route, have you tried different nipples? they all have different flow rates so she might just need one that is slower and you get ones that are suppose to feel more like nipples. Does she take a dummy? some of the bottle nipples you can get are shaped like dummies so one of those might work as well. It will get better, honestly, and you are right when you say it is such a short time because it really really is. My youngest is coming up to 1 and I don't know where the year has gone  ------------- 
 
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Posted By: first
Date Posted: 19 December 2009 at 8:28am
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I don't have too many suggestions on how to change her behaviour other than riding it out cause it sounds like she needs it but I wanted to say don't be afraid to take her to the family dinner and just feed her while you eat. Its only one night and you need to have a little enjoyment too. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 19 December 2009 at 8:51am
lots of babies go through a stage of having a feeding frenzy in the evenings. it is very normal and will change. Dont hide yourself away tho, feeling isolated isnt good for new mums. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: Katep
Date Posted: 19 December 2009 at 5:16pm
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Leah used to feed for 2-3 hours at a time when she was brand new. I honestly thought it was normal! I gave in a she has had a bottle of formula from 8 weeks before bedtime.
I had help for a lactation consultant and plunket as she wasn;t actually feeding for all that time...she was just pising round and enjoyed being on the boob. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
Mum to the Gorgeous Leah! 7 months |
Posted By: ChrisW
Date Posted: 19 December 2009 at 9:50pm
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Libby was exactly the same until about 5 months - my midwife got me right from the beginning to express after my morning feed and top her up with this at night - she would breast feed at about 5.30 then she would have her bottle at about 6.15 and then she would breast feed again at about 7 - 7.30 before going to bed worked a treat as DH would spend this time with her while I cooked dinner and it gave my boobs a chance to refill lol ------------- http://pregnancy.baby-gaga.com/">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: catisla
Date Posted: 19 December 2009 at 10:29pm
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Same here - feeding was pretty much all evening. It does pass though
Have you tried the Tommee Tippee bottles? My DD would only drink out of them, and not the other kind like Avent. Hang in there, cos you will get through it, and believe it or not, you will even miss it when your DD is a wriggly little toddler who refuses to snuggle up for more than 5 minutes! ------------- |
Posted By: kathamill
Date Posted: 21 December 2009 at 7:51am
Totally agree, my DD did the same as yours. She's great now, I just persisted with the BF, and learned to eat one handed! 
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first wrote:Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 21 December 2009 at 11:11am
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my dd did exactly the same, till she was about 12 weeks old then from then on it was just the odd occasion. We still went out a little bit and I found drinking complan in the afternoons and making sure i drank loads of water helped heaps.
DD never took a bottle either we tried for months but she just flat out refused and would scream until hysterical 
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Posted By: millymollymandy
Date Posted: 22 December 2009 at 8:13pm
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Thanks all great advice. I think things are starting to improve. She chomping thru a bit faster and actually sleeping for a while between evening feeds. So hopefully on Thursday I be able to have most of chirstmas dinner with the family. 8.20 and she's been down for an hour!
I have also tired leaving it as long as I can before feeding her in her room, which is helping me heaps. I have tried about 4 different types of bottle, tommy tippee, infantil, one for the hospital and another one, she will suck but gags on all of them. This baby is a BF advocate. Bit of bummer, as you get told that bottle feeding is so easy! |
Posted By: Rb73
Date Posted: 23 December 2009 at 1:58pm
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