Dislike of Granma
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Topic: Dislike of Granma
Posted By: KazS
Subject: Dislike of Granma
Date Posted: 04 November 2009 at 11:10am
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my very nearly 6 month old girl has an intense dislike of my MIL
MIL is an extremely lovely person but for some reason the minute bubs gets too close to her she goes MENTAL - bubs is very placid so it is very odd - she had her first day at daycare yesterday and didnt cry once! Any things i can do to help her get over this - it would be nice to leave daughter with MIL as she is keen and we want her to be able to spend less stressful time with her! |
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Posted By: FreeSpirit
Date Posted: 04 November 2009 at 11:38am
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My daughter had the same thing with Grandpa (FIL). I had to growl at him and inform him that he couldn't invade her personal space with out her permission - just like any other person. So when he came over, he'd sit down on the other side of the room and ignore her - it sounds strange but it worked really well, within half an hour she's be over there playing with his feet and trying to get his watch. Because it was on her terms, she now adores him, squealing and dancinmg whenever he turns up (he's still not allowed to get to close for the first 10 minutes, but that's fine by him). She was the same with my dad, and we used the same technique, now he can pick her up and go exploring without me. ------------- http://www.babysfirstsite.com"> 
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 04 November 2009 at 11:42am
| Does she wear any strong perfume or anything like that? Daniel used to take a dislike to people who stank of it lol. |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 04 November 2009 at 12:34pm
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i think at 6 mths old it is probably a smell she dislikes not the person. or maybe she holds her funny or too tight! ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: JD
Date Posted: 04 November 2009 at 12:43pm
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I have heard that if you get MIL to do some of the same games or songs as you do with her, then she will start to see her as a 'familiar' person. e.g action songs
Also, if your MIL picks her up and holds her with baby's back to her front and quickly has a toy or book to distract her, this can be a way for them to bond without it being so 'in your baby's face'. Things will change in time regardless of what you do... Good luck ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: KazS
Date Posted: 04 November 2009 at 1:06pm
actually she will start to go nuts if MIL holds her away from her also - just not as quick But interesting about the perfumme as i often find her scent a bit strong for me - wonder if Ashley is the same? |
JD wrote:Posted By: FionaS
Date Posted: 04 November 2009 at 1:20pm
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Gabrielle was like that with 3 types of ladies:
1. Those wearning perfume (oddly enough I hated all perfume when pregnant with her and she reacted very poorly to anyone wearing any) 2. Those who were extroverted "in your face" types 3. Those who were naturally tense She grew out of it eventually but it took time. Now she loves everyone LOL. ------------- Mummy to Gabrielle and Ashley |
Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 04 November 2009 at 1:52pm
Jack used to do it with old people  So my grandparents, and all the oldies that we'd bump into that wanted to say how gorgeous he was - he'd just cry.
We did nothing, except purposely expose him MORE to those people. Now, Jack loves his grandma (my grandma actually) so much and loves all old people in general. Probably just a phase, when they start getting more attached to the people they know vs. 'strangers' |
Posted By: Daizy
Date Posted: 04 November 2009 at 1:57pm
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Keira used to be like this with her Nana, until we discovered it was her Glasses she didn't like. ------------- 
 
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Posted By: KazS
Date Posted: 04 November 2009 at 2:06pm
oh cr*p we might be doomed then - First thing she says before she picks up Ashley is "she is just going to cry" |
Posted By: rachndean
Date Posted: 04 November 2009 at 2:19pm
Daizy that is really interesting, DD was the same and couldnt be near anyone with glasses!  ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
DD Savannah 18.01.04 DS Austin 04.09.08 |
Posted By: Babe
Date Posted: 04 November 2009 at 2:28pm
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Jakes always refused to bond much with my mum. No strong scents, glasses, 'old people' (LMAO shes only just turned 50 so I think she'd spaz at that!), etc he just has never been keen on her. We're starting to notice why now though with some of her behaviour so for him I think it was his baby '6th sense' picking up something he wasn't comfortable with. Even now he refuses to acknowledge her by name, won't say hi but happy to say bye, very rarely likes to hug her but absolutely adores my dad and wants to do everything with him. I dunno its weird... -------------   
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Posted By: frangipanigirl
Date Posted: 04 November 2009 at 4:00pm
| my niece was like this with my hubby, she didnt see him often but when she did she would just scream, she was about 6 months, we ended up just ignoring her and carrying on as we were and she would end up coming round to him and be playing with him and all, then next thing you know she be screaming again. No idea why it happened but we got over it by him feeding her her favouriste snack and now she is absolutly fine with him! |
Posted By: xLUCKYx
Date Posted: 05 November 2009 at 10:46am
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My Daughter has been so friendly and got on with EVERYONE she has met so far in her 2 years. BUT just this last month she has developed what I interpret as a fear of MIL's partner. He is such a nice man and has heaps of grandchildren of his own and I am 100% sure (have to say this) he has never done anything untoward to Gabrielle but she has this intense fear of him now. She will scream and cry if he is ever in the same room and we went there yesterday and Gabrielle went running in to see her Nanny and then when she saw him she started screaming and ran to me and then kept her eyes slosed for AGES (he left - he was going out anyway) and Gabrielle slowly started peaking to make sure he wasn't there before hse opened her eyes again. Sorry a bit of a novel but so majorly random. I just thought we had made progress as when we saw him on the weekend she was upset but when we left she waved and said bye. So so wierd!
sorry for the novel lol |
Posted By: flakesitchyfeet
Date Posted: 05 November 2009 at 11:11am
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Hollies like that with glasses too, unless it's her Dad, and she's fine. Go figure! -------------  http://lilypie.com"> |
Posted By: Tastic
Date Posted: 05 November 2009 at 11:26am
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Aidan is like this with my fil. heaven help him if he gets picked up before he's allowed to!
the other day fil went up behind aidan and picked him straight up, then fil got all pissy cause aidan just screamed and screamed Im like hello he didnt flippen see you to start off with and second of all you know you have to give aidan a chance to 'warm up' sorry not much help am I lol |