Well Baby #4
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Topic: Well Baby #4
Posted By: toniellis
Subject: Well Baby #4
Date Posted: 30 August 2009 at 2:20pm
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What a freaking shock! How did everyone find going from 3 kids to 4? ------------- Mum to Alex (11), Blaire (10) & Erika (8) and Damien (6) Successful HWB VBA2Cs! Soon to be surrogate |
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Posted By: toniellis
Date Posted: 30 August 2009 at 3:01pm
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Anyone? I'm going to be doing this by myself so any suggestions would be a huge help... ------------- Mum to Alex (11), Blaire (10) & Erika (8) and Damien (6) Successful HWB VBA2Cs! Soon to be surrogate |
Posted By: LouD
Date Posted: 30 August 2009 at 3:42pm
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Sorry i cant be of much help, im just going into number 3 and number 1 doesnt live with me so affectively number 2 (if that makes sense)
I think going from 2 - 3 or even 4 isnt as hard as going from 1 - 2, but im only speculating........i only say this because when you have one its easy to find a babysitter (well it should be easier) and you pretty much can carry on having a social life and no set routine........when number 2 comes along you need to get some sort of structure and order into the house so things run a bit smoother.......and so forth with number 3, so if my guessing is right, you should already have a routine about your house having 3, so the 4th one pretty much should just slot right in??? I hope im right for you....... My old neighbour has had 8 children, 2 of those have left home but 6 of them still live at home........the youngest are twin girls who just turned one........and then 2 year old then a 6 & 8 and a 12 year old.........shes awesome, i dont know how she does it, cos she pretty much does it by herself....... Goodluck and I hope you get some better advise than mine soon :) |
Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 30 August 2009 at 4:21pm
Oh wow....no advice I'm sorry but big Congratulations!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 30 August 2009 at 4:23pm
| congratulations.... felt only like the other week you were having no 3!!! no advice either, 3 is my lot... but i think the more you have the easier it gets! |
Posted By: susieq
Date Posted: 30 August 2009 at 4:31pm
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lurker congratulations ------------- susie |
Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 30 August 2009 at 4:34pm
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OMG holy smoke! and sorry to hear you are going it alone. Big hugs to you and I hope the shock setltes down soon! XXXX ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: weegee
Date Posted: 30 August 2009 at 4:51pm
Big congratulations from me too! Sorry no advice really, except to say I was one of 4 and I think actually Mum found it easier than 3 because we naturally paired up to play/look after each other. With 4 nobody gets left out  ------------- 
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Posted By: my4beauties
Date Posted: 30 August 2009 at 6:54pm
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I'm going from 3 to 4 as well, but I won't have any suggestions until baby arrives in January!
Congratulations though!! How far along are you? ------------- My babies: R (9),G (7), J (5) http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: LeahandJoel
Date Posted: 30 August 2009 at 7:40pm
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Wow...congrats chick, hope everything goes well for you -------------  
 
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Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 30 August 2009 at 7:48pm
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No advice here either but didnt want to read and run. Congrats!! -------------   
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Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 30 August 2009 at 8:20pm
| Oh wow congrats Toni, sorry to hear you will be doing it alone. I don't have 4 kids so can't help with any advice there. |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 31 August 2009 at 10:39am
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Congrats Toni! Will be back later to go into more detail, but try not to panic too much, we've found baby #4 pretty much fell out and hit the ground running! She had to get used to being lugged around here there and everywhere and she's pretty much just fitted in to what we were doing. Much easier than going from 1-2 (or 3 in my case!) -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 31 August 2009 at 11:46am
wow!!! congrats and a few huge hugs to you!! i'm so sorry to hear you'll be doing it without your partner, but remember you won't be alone 
i can't help with how to cope, as hard as i tried, i couldn't convince DH to have #3. just take ANY help that is offered!! another inspiring homebirth coming?  ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: BerryBliss
Date Posted: 31 August 2009 at 1:50pm
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Firstly congrats
I had baby 4 in march and really have not found it any harder (could be the type of baby she is tho) Ahh your age gaps are smaller than mine i have 2 at school and my one up from Tessa has just turned 3. Only thing that is hard is the pick-up drop-offs but that unavoidable really, yeah really 4 is not alot different than 3 imo. As Maya has said baby 4 just has to slot in. I found the hardest going from 1-2 and i really love having 4 kids. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  DD 1999 DS 2003 DS 2006 DD 2009 |
Posted By: rorylex
Date Posted: 31 August 2009 at 2:27pm
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hi there,
also expecting my 4th, i will have a 4.5yr old, 3.5yr old, 19mth old and a newborn come january, i know with #3 he just slotted in and i never had a problem adapting to 3 and im really hoping #4 is the same. ------------- Mummy to 4 boys Samuel - 18.6.05 Rory - 15.7.06 Mason - 13.06.08 Emmett - 24.01.10 Baby #5 - cooking |
Posted By: Juzzo
Date Posted: 31 August 2009 at 8:52pm
| Hi there, I too am pregnant with number 4. My other three sons are 6, 3 and 18months and I am slightly freaked out about having a fourth. I don't have any help to offer other than I found going from 1 to 2 much harder than 2 to 3 so I'm just praying that 3 to 4 is the same! |
Posted By: toniellis
Date Posted: 04 September 2009 at 3:31pm
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Hi there, thanks for all your comments!
Looks like I will have Hubby doing it with me so won't be alone for this but it was touch & go for a day or so 
I'm hoping to find out how far along I am on the 9th, have dating scan in the afternoon. Should be interesting. I dunno if I am looking forward to this baby but not much I can do now that it is on its way, I'm sure I will get used to it soon though. Popping out babies every two years was not the plan though LOL ------------- Mum to Alex (11), Blaire (10) & Erika (8) and Damien (6) Successful HWB VBA2Cs! Soon to be surrogate |
Posted By: Andriea
Date Posted: 05 September 2009 at 3:02pm
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Hiya, glad things with your dh are looking better. I have a 10,7,4,2,1 and preggie with #6 I found going from 3-4 and 4-5 not much dif, just had to plan a bit more I think, they just seemed to slot in, hope this one is the same ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: toniellis
Date Posted: 05 September 2009 at 4:23pm
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I hope they slot in ok. Been talking about the car & what the plan is with that.... Fun-fun! ------------- Mum to Alex (11), Blaire (10) & Erika (8) and Damien (6) Successful HWB VBA2Cs! Soon to be surrogate |
Posted By: HoneybunsMa
Date Posted: 05 September 2009 at 4:52pm
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I come from a family of four and we lacked for nothing as we had our parents love were clothed and fed. We didnt know as kids anything other then hand me downs lol as we got all our clothes from cousins and they were both girls and I have only brothers. The only thing I remember getting really upset about and finding it hard was the car I was always made to sit in the middle seat lol and we are all 2yrs apart also ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: Andriea
Date Posted: 06 September 2009 at 11:46am
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the old car thing, we upgraded when we had baby number 4 to a 7 seater now with baby #6 on the way we need a 8 seater. So we need to sell to buy another ah well will leave it a bit longer I cant really be bothered with that at the mo, lol ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 06 September 2009 at 2:56pm
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Go the people mover! Fortunately for us, we had upgraded to a people mover when the gremlins arrived, so the car dilemma wasn't a big deal.
I'm glad to hear your hubby has come round, it sure took mine a few days (or if I'm completely honest, months!). Like you, baby #4 wasn't on the cards, we had decided we would have another, but we were planning for a few years down the track when we got a big surprise. I guess what helped was taking the "what will be will be" approach, after all, you can't really change the situation (barring termination of course, which was never an option for us, and sounds like you are the same), so you might as well get on with it. I found being pregnant with two toddlers and a preschooler much harder than having a newborn plus the rest, mostly coz I have awful pregnancies, but honestly, once she was out, she's just slotted in and goes where we go etc. She is a funny little thing, she literally flew into the world a hundred miles an hour and hasn't stopped since, she tackles everything head on,which may be a result of being the youngest of 4 - she has to fight to make herself heard. She is pretty feisty too, doesn't let the others boss her around much. Best of luck over the coming months, you will be fine, and hubby will get better with the idea as time goes on - looking at Willie with lil miss these days it's hard to believe he didn't want her at all to start with, they have a really special bond. If you need any help with practical stuff, let me know ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: toniellis
Date Posted: 06 September 2009 at 9:39pm
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To be honest, Hubby has gotten over the shock a lot better than me now.
I am still having issues with coming to grips with the whole thing. I have been reall tired & preggy sickness has arrived & I have been super emotional (moving house right now probably doesn't help!) and yet I don't "feel" pregnant. Probably doesn't make sense but I don't feel anything there. Maybe it will be more real when I have my scan on wednesday? Hubby is currently looking at getting another seat added to our car so we don't have to sell his baby. He outright refuses to have a people mover, he said he would rather be on his motorbike behind us in teh pouring down rain than been seen dead in a people mover. House at thi stage shouldn't be a problem as new place is a 4 bedroom house. What else do I need to be thinking about?? ------------- Mum to Alex (11), Blaire (10) & Erika (8) and Damien (6) Successful HWB VBA2Cs! Soon to be surrogate |
Posted By: lisa85
Date Posted: 07 September 2009 at 8:18am
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I only have 2 but I have a friend who is married and 25yrs old. She has a 2 year old and a 4 year old and she just gave birth to twins. They only wanted 3 so finding out their 3rd was also a fourth was a shock but her twins have been home for a week and she is loving ever minute.
At least you have lovely short spaces between yours chic that way you get it all out of the way nice an early I am one of 4 girls but my sisters are all 15,13 & 11 years older than me so my poor parents were just getting their freedom back when I came along -------------  
TTC #3 since Jan 2010 - PCOS MC April 2010 |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 07 September 2009 at 10:03pm
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Now THAT is my biggest fear Lisa! Getting the kids out of the house and having another surprise! ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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