What did you do differently
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Topic: What did you do differently
Posted By: Oxy
Subject: What did you do differently
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 12:41pm
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To all you preggos :) :
What did you do that "worked" the month you concieved? For example, did you have sex more, chart your temps, use pre-seed, prop your hips on a pillow after sex, eat pineapple, etc? What did you do that helped make this month the month? ------------- http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/250ed1" rel="nofollow">  TTC#1 Jan 2009 |
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Posted By: minik8e
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 12:46pm
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I relaxed - we BDed for the sake of it, because we felt like it, and no other reason. I wasn't due to ovulate for another few days so it was the last thing on my mind!!!
I was also on medication to try to prevent m/c (baby aspirin and 5mg folic acid). |
Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 12:51pm
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we did opk's and BDed every day for 7 days.. ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 1:00pm
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I started taking vitex, we bd every other day from CD8 (even though I dont normally ovulate until CD21 ish) until I ovulation. We were knackered and I thought ov was still a day or two away so we didnt bd the next day.. I was gutted and thought we had missed it. I know i propped up a couple of times, but not everytime.
For us the problem was me not ovulating, once I started ovulating I got knocked up first cycle and then after mc I didnt ovulate but the next cycle I did and we have Jake from that. -------------   
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 1:01pm
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Posted By: sno0ze
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 1:05pm
One different thing we did was BD in the morning's instead of evenings. We tried on and off for two years for number 2 and that was the noticeable thing we did for one month and got pregnant that month 
Good luck ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: MamaT
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 1:06pm
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Like Kate said - we relaxed, BD for fun again. The month we got pregnant was the first month we decided to take a break for a while. -------------  
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Posted By: Mum_mum
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 4:54pm
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Again I relaxed. In fact and this may be TMI - this baby was the result of a bush bonk lol, so we were having fun.
I was also getting accupunture and taking vitex and got prego first cycle of doing those. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
 Angel baby - May 2008
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Posted By: girly_girl
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 4:58pm
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We did lots of things, not really sure what the major contributor was so here goes.....
Took elevit for a month before, started drinking GF (2 glasses everyday) as soon as AF departed, BDd everyday from CD7, DH held my legs up and propped with pillow for 30mins post...., switched to pineapple juice as soon as knew had OVd, DH watched a lot of porn - supposed to help with motility??, and was really careful about what drugs I took (was with the flu at the time). ------------- 
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Posted By: newme
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 5:24pm
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When i got pregnant with my son I had been charting for about 6 months, so knew when I was ovulating.
I was eating healthy, cut back on coffee, and had been taking multi-vitamins for a 3 months. Then when decided to try for a baby, and I was ovulating that day, so we had sex about 3 times over the next two days, and voila, I was pregnant. I did lie down and raise my hips after sex. Very luck to get pregnant so quickly I know. This time, not so much luck :( |
Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 7:49pm
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relaxed ------------- |
Posted By: yermasyada
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 8:48pm
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Hi,
We only BD'd 3 times this cycle cause my hubby had a horrible virus, and I've just found out I'm UTD for the first time  It helps that the 3 nights we BD'd were the day before, the day of and the day after O.
This was my 3rd cycle of Clomid and also 3 months of acupuncture. I was only taking folic acid and some naturopathic herbs, but have switched to a pregnancy supplement now. Milliemoo |
Posted By: Shezzey
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 8:54pm
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Lol ClaireDT, i have banished porn from the house cos I wanted dh's swimmers to go straight to me! think I might get him some more mags if it makes his swimmers more motile.... * dp looking very suspicious after telling him to buy more mags * |
Posted By: girly_girl
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 8:59pm
It was one of the things a friend of mine told me - and I thort why not, it certainly seemed an interesting thort. DH was stoked, its not everyday his wife lets him have free reign on the porn! FYI I was told that the 2 boy 1 girl type is best as it encourages competition between the spermies 
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Posted By: Shezzey
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 9:20pm
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Lol, it sounds like the type of porn has a psychological effect on the sperm making process ... |
Posted By: girly_girl
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 9:26pm
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As we all do Shezzy - nothing like TCC to make us all a little crazy. I know I was more than a little obsessive compulsive... -------------
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Posted By: WestiesGirl
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 9:28pm
Nothing difference for us  If anything probably started to stress less and Christmas was also a good destraction ------------- Our Angel July 08 Gone but not forgotten
And to complete our family, our princess has arrived 
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Posted By: yummymummy
Date Posted: 20 July 2009 at 9:55pm
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We did it every other day for the whole month ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Konagirl
Date Posted: 21 July 2009 at 7:58am
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That's so funny about porn, I think DP would have a heart attack if I suggested that after years of telling him how much I hate it! ------------- Angel babies Mar '04, Oct '08 and Sep '09. |
Posted By: Leahsmummy
Date Posted: 21 July 2009 at 8:20am
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I was losing weight (5kgs that month) and eating healthy, we also bd every night for about a week. I was taking folic acid and charting. And evry couple of days i would put a pillow under my hips. -------------   
Angel Baby Dec 09, We will love you forever. |
Posted By: noodle
Date Posted: 21 July 2009 at 8:27am
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Gave up lol were having a break until we started IVF got pregnant about 3 weeks after we gave up ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: LadyBee
Date Posted: 21 July 2009 at 1:27pm
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This is a good thread, I find it intresting what people did to get UTD and quite alot of you stoped trying "relaxed" and it worked. I wonder if TTC has an bigger effect on our DH / DP than we actually realised????
Anyways keep the replys coming ladies ------------- TTC for 4 1/2 years IVF #1 - April 2012 short BFP, no frosties IVF #2 - August 2012, BFP!! 3 frosties! http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: kakapo
Date Posted: 21 July 2009 at 7:46pm
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Both DH and I took a zinc supplement for the first 2 weeks of my cycle. It was the first time we'd tried zinc even though Aliasmum had recommended it to us months ago! I don't think I was more relaxed, as was travelling to Aussie with a toddler for a week post ovulation So there's an option for you Oxy - grab some zinc and go on holiday for a week |
Posted By: Oxy
Date Posted: 22 July 2009 at 8:00am
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Thank you Kakapo
I think I mite do that,. How much zinc did you take ------------- http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/250ed1" rel="nofollow"> TTC#1 Jan 2009 |
Posted By: Lexidore
Date Posted: 22 July 2009 at 11:18am
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Ginseng tea for him!! He drank it not long before we would BD lol. Apparantly it is a natural aphrodisiac we have just found out so wonder if that along with the "alertness" it causes helped LOL. We used the healtheries range, Be Charged I think it is called. DP is a huge tea fan though so that helped. ------------- 
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Posted By: Febgirl
Date Posted: 22 July 2009 at 11:41am
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I used OPKs for the first time, and we DTD twice on the day I got a positive OPK, plus once the day afterwards. ------------- Two little girls under 2! 
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Posted By: kakapo
Date Posted: 22 July 2009 at 12:36pm
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Hi Oxy, we took "Kordel's OptiZinc Plus" which contains 15mg of elemental Zinc. But we only took it up until ovulation, as we didn't know whether or not it is OK to take after conception. |
Posted By: HuntersMama
Date Posted: 22 July 2009 at 1:19pm
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I used OPKs for the first time and we BDed most days after AF until I got the BFP! Had also tried the legs in the air thing and waiting for awhile before using the loo.
I didnt really chart, found it difficult to temp when my dog ate my thermometer! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Shezzey
Date Posted: 23 July 2009 at 7:07am
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Kakapo, I went and bought zinc once i read your BFP post saying the only thing you did differently was take zinc |
Posted By: buzzydaisy
Date Posted: 23 July 2009 at 5:11pm
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I cant really pinpoint what we did 1st time around, we weren't trying at all. I continue to try to analyse the last few BFP but they were all different. The only thing I can say is I used OPK's and waited for the +ve before starting to BD for 5 days or more.
Maybe this month I can tell everyone what I did if I get that BFP, coz I know what the plan was this time. ------------- 
 
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Posted By: Babykatnz
Date Posted: 23 July 2009 at 9:43pm
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We were another pair that gave up, we had just been told we needed to do IVF, which is why my one and only preg chart that didnt end in m/c has big gaping holes in it!!
Oh and theres a lot to be said for porn... we decided to watch a few to put some fun back into it seeing as it was purely 'just for fun' (apparently theres a subtle chemical change in the man after watching another 2 guys with 1 girl, something about making HIS swimmers faster and stronger to give his a better chance of finishing the race to the egg first!) Aaaand then theres the drunken shag haha!! Our wee miss who wasn't even meant to happen according to specialist was the result of our anniversary night... lots of wine and rum  I actually drunk quite a bit that month, 3 weekends in a row, found out 4 days after the 3rd weekend drinking in a row that we had somehow gotten preg by ourselves!!
Oh.. and the big thing we did differently was that DP started taking a herbal supplement called Herbal Y Extreme for men... one of the main ingredients is Horny Goat Weed, and since our TTC probs stemmed from his lack of numbers and poor quality swimmers, we believe it made the difference between having our baby, and still waiting for IVF now ------------- Brandon - 05/12/2003  
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Posted By: Jess439
Date Posted: 29 July 2009 at 3:55pm
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That is so funny there is research that backs up 2 guys 1 girl porn is good for sperm! I teased DH for a long time about him having poor swimmers because of his terrible diet but then who knows what he's watching when I'm not at home, haha!
We really weren't trying at all. I came off Depo end Dec, had first period late March and then conceived. Worked out the magic happened about 11 April so quite late OV I think? I had started taking Elevit about a month before but that was all. No temps or charting or OV kits, etc. We weren't expecting anything to happen till at least the end of the year with my body working thru getting all the Depo out of my system. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Pinkybar
Date Posted: 20 September 2009 at 7:21pm
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We had been randomly TTC for 6 months with no plan in mind - with no luck. I did kept track of my cycles and I had no idea I was so irregular! My cycles alternated between 41 and 54 days. I thought that would stop me ever getting pregnant!
I decided to work out when I ovulate so I entered all my dates into a cycle tracking website and it predicted when I would ovulate for month 7. For one reason or another we only ended up having sex twice that month and neither time was during my predicted ovulation. So, thinking month 7 was a right off, I started planning properly for month 8. I was going to start doing the temp charting thing but then my period didn't come and I had 2 BFP HPTs!!! I was completely shocked! The only thing I know was different in month 7 (apart from less sex!) was my diet. I decided that I should try to lose weight to increase my fertility so I cut out carbs. No bread, rice, sugar etc. I stuck to it quite well for a month. I didn't really lose any weight but I did get pregnant!! Go figure. BTW: I still drank lots of coffee and alcohol - I couldn't give those up! (although I have now!) lol. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: Emmi_
Date Posted: 20 September 2009 at 9:14pm
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Well it was kinda our first time trying. But I fully believe the amount of BDing helped. I had no EWCM that cycle and used preseed too (so it does work for all those wondering!!). We BDed about 3 times over 2 days for about 3 weeks (as I was charting but didnt fully trust FFs lines). But I took EPO, green tea, GF juice, FA, B6, B complex, vitex, baby asprin and a prenatal multi vit. Oh and positive thinking too. I knew I was going to get UTD that cycle. And I did! ------------- 
+1 May 09 Angel
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Posted By: didi99
Date Posted: 21 September 2009 at 7:38am
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We actually BDed less I had a really stressfull time at work was doing long days and coming hope stressed and tired. That pretty much lasted the two weeks before ov so we were probably averaging BDing maybe every 3rd day whereas normally it's closer to every day.
Don't quite know how that worked I had figured the stress plus the less BDing ment we had a pretty slim chance this cyle. Hence when AF was late I initally thought the stress had knocked my cyle off and had a hard time believing that I was UTD. -------------  Angel Babies Nov 09, May 10, Dec 10
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Posted By: Babe
Date Posted: 21 September 2009 at 8:21am
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We'd only just decided to try for a baby but we had a crap month with other stuff going on so BD'd maybe 7 times over the first 13 days just when we felt like it then had a fight and didn't touch each other again for almost a fortnight lol then got a BFP which was a shock coz we honestly thought it'd take longer. We're both in fairly good shape and we eat healthily but otherwise I was just drinking lots of water and taking my epo, fish oil and b6 tabs. -------------   
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Posted By: lemongirl
Date Posted: 21 September 2009 at 8:54am
I forgot to take the pill 
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Posted By: PixieL
Date Posted: 21 September 2009 at 3:28pm
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lol lemongirl!
we had more sex and drank less alcohol. DH kept his tackle cool on doctors orders by avoiding hot baths, wearing boxers and running the boys under cold water (ouch!) ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
1/2/9 (27/8/9)
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Posted By: Troods
Date Posted: 21 September 2009 at 10:56pm
First pregnancy we BD everyday from CD9 thru to CD16 - wasn't charting or anything like that. Just went at it like rabbits 
This time the month I fell preggos we only did it the once on my OV day. We weren't even really "trying" like we had been the months previous. DH was going away next morning for a few days so just got a bit in for the sake of it LOL. Oh and not sure if this helped or not - but I've heard that grapefruit makes CM more "favourable" around OV time. Probably a bit TMI here - I wasn't eating grapefruit, but in the two weeks before OV I was eating 2 tamarillos a day. Not for any particular reason - just because they were in season and I LOVE them. Then at OV time I noticed I had HEAPS of pinkish EWCM. Have never noticed that before so I wonder if tamarillos do the same thing as grapefruit? ------------- 
Missed MC July 2011
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Posted By: Oxy
Date Posted: 09 January 2010 at 6:12pm
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Just bringing this forward ------------- http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/250ed1" rel="nofollow"> TTC#1 Jan 2009 |
Posted By: MaeBeeBaby
Date Posted: 09 January 2010 at 6:35pm
Actually I am not being funny here when I say I did 'all of the above' when I had my short-term pg recently - even the pineapple, cause I was getting hayfever and I always eat pineapple when that happens as it's a natural anti-histamine! |
Oxy23 wrote:Posted By: MaeBeeBaby
Date Posted: 09 January 2010 at 6:39pm
WHAT? You mean there IS actually something with drinking pineapple juice that helps??? 
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Posted By: Emmi_
Date Posted: 09 January 2010 at 6:48pm
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yep, it helps make your lining nice and sticky! -------------
+1 May 09 Angel
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Posted By: Snappy
Date Posted: 09 January 2010 at 6:49pm
I decided I wasn't quite ready for a baby after all and wanted to lose a kg or so for an upcoming Cocktail party - turns out Jackson had other ideas  We tried for almost a year before hand and it was about a week before he was concieved that I had decided I didn't want a baby just yet. Must have been my body relaxing!
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Posted By: Emmecat
Date Posted: 10 January 2010 at 9:14am
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Don't think I've replied to this but yeah we relaxed too as well...well I was really sick the month we concieved Clodagh and the antibiotics I was taking threw my cycle out so I ended up ov a week alter than normal. Just as well cos I wasn't up to shagging before then lol Good luck to everyone TTC. It's sooooooo hard emotionally -------------   http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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(hmmmm Posted By: sem
Date Posted: 10 January 2010 at 10:44am
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Oxy - thank you so much for starting this thread!
It is really interesting reading from all of you who have already managed to get pregnant. Well it looks like most things really don't matter - more sex less sex, gymnastics after BD, vitamins and supplements and diet. All of these seem to have a different effect on all of us. But the one thing that seems to be most common and gets most BFP's is to RELAX! Oh how we TTC girls hate that word.
But is does look like there is some truth in it so maybe we should all give it a go and try it? Now next question for this thread. HOW do you relax while TTC? Its still early days for me (3rd cycle) but for girls who have been TTC for 12 or 18 or 24 month it must be an eternity. Do you relax by giving up on becoming pregnant or do you just decide to take a break for a cycle? ------------- Here we go again, another baby on it's way! 
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Posted By: Rachel1982
Date Posted: 10 January 2010 at 11:55am
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OK well here's my little story
I went off the pill and started taking Elevit on the same day. I also went and bought an ovulation thermometer and got a programme on my iphone to track my temperature. I decided I wasn't going to go down the path of CM or anything like that at first. I think the first month I may have had a chemical pregnancy as I had a lot of symptoms but AF arrived before I had a chance to test, AF was incredibly heavy! My cycles were frustratingly around 42 days which was driving me nuts and I have since vowed to never go on the pill again as I think it reaally messed me up. DH and I went on holiday (with my inlaws!) to attend a couple of family events in various parts of Australia in the 3rd month. AF was late and I thought 'ooooh this is it' but AF arrived the day we flew back to NZ. However we got pregnant in the very next cycle! So basically the only thing that was different is that I had had a good chill out on holiday... So as annoying as this is, I think the relaxing is what did it for us. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: Bobsta
Date Posted: 10 January 2010 at 1:18pm
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Thanks for starting this Oxy I'm into my 11th month TTC. After reading all this I'm going to start zinc, drinking grapefuit juice pre ov and pineapple juice post ov, and BD way more GL to everyone TTC. ------------- Me 34 Him 35 DD almost 2 years old and... Baby #2 on it's way! http://www.babygaga.com/" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: MaeBeeBaby
Date Posted: 10 January 2010 at 1:25pm
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'Relaxing' is actually the most hated word amongst people TTC, and from personal experience it doesn't make sod-all difference - sorry to disagree! If one more person tells me to 'relax' and it will happen, I will slap them - If relaxing is the key to holding onto my pregnancies then I will eat my socks - cause whenever I get pregnant I am always SUPER relaxed, everyone who knows I am pregnant comments on it - it's only when the hcg tests come back unusual and the bleeding starts that I am not so relaxed anymore!
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Posted By: sem
Date Posted: 10 January 2010 at 1:57pm
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I'd like to see you eat your socks! I think that would be funny... ------------- Here we go again, another baby on it's way!
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Posted By: MaeBeeBaby
Date Posted: 10 January 2010 at 8:18pm
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Posted By: Flutterby
Date Posted: 10 January 2010 at 9:33pm
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relaxed and started taking Vitex a few days before ovulation. Though I only took it for five day as I thought it was giving me false high temps. And also I think I ovulated while in the middle of BDing as I felt the little stab of pain in my side. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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