Taking the dummy away.
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Topic: Taking the dummy away.
Posted By: Natalie_G
Subject: Taking the dummy away.
Date Posted: 07 July 2009 at 9:15am
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Hi all,
I want to get Arianne use to not having a dummy to fall asleep, since I don't want her to be 2 and walking around with a dummy. What tips did you find worked?? She just doesn't want to sleep without it.  ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: RBsMama
Date Posted: 07 July 2009 at 9:28am
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I haven't been brave enough to try with Rhys yet, but I have been reading about it and one tip I think I will try is to exchange the dummy for a comfort blanket or toy, something they can sleep with. Rhys only has his dummy for sleeping, so hopefully this will work.
Good luck with Arianne  ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: JD
Date Posted: 07 July 2009 at 9:43am
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DS used to have a dummy and he absolutely loved it and wouldn't sleep without it. The reason we got rid of it was he ended up favouring one particular dummy and I couldn't find another one like it anywhere.
After being at my parents for an evening we couldn't find the dummy anywhere and I decided that is it. We can have panic whenever we loose the dummy. That night he was so tired and was practically asleep when we got him out of the car and into his bed. The next day I got him to have his day sleep in the car as I stayed busy all day. I kept him up pretty late that night to try and replicate the night before where he was so tired when he went to bed. By the third night he was sort of used to not having the dummy and grizzled a bit, but was fine. Looking back, I think the addiction to the dummy was more me than him :o) Good luck ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: xLUCKYx
Date Posted: 07 July 2009 at 10:09am
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I have been thinking about this too as both my kidlets have dummies. I would love to wean Tane first and then Gabrielle.
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 07 July 2009 at 10:13am
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We have tried a few times not working so far:( I don't want a two year old with one either:(! (though it's just at bedtime but still!) ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: Madiandmini
Date Posted: 07 July 2009 at 11:04am
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You should have a read of my post..Im having the same issues there..For exact same reasons!! There are also a few book reccommendations and others stories! Have a look. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: lisa85
Date Posted: 07 July 2009 at 12:57pm
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We didn't want to go past the age of one but with twins it seemed so daunting. In the end though we just did it. We didn't read any books or try any techniques. We just took them away one day before their afternoon nap. I think you have to be brave and just tough it out. Also once you take the dummy away my advice would be throw it out so you can't be tempted to give in when you have a bad night because then you end up sending bubs mixed signals. The first couple of nights were tough but after a week they stopped waking in the night altogether and we haven't had a sleepless night in over a month now.
I didn't want them to have it past the age of one purely because I knew the longer we waited after that it would just get harder and harder to take it away. At this age they forget so easy. I think it also helped that the girls both have a teddy and a blankie each (that are only used for bedtime) so I guess it's not like they went from a dummy to nothing. -------------  
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 07 July 2009 at 1:39pm
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lisa that's awesome..E has a blanket already too..lol (and a teddy sometimes!) ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: lisa85
Date Posted: 07 July 2009 at 1:45pm
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Gotta love the blankies! The girls have had theirs since around 4months. They have had their teddies since birth. I had a blankie till the age of 8! I keep thinking maybe I should can the blankies too before they become an addiction.... Meh can't hurt right. -------------
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 07 July 2009 at 5:42pm
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i dont see the blankets as an issue but then all of that stuff E only has for bed ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 07 July 2009 at 5:57pm
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C had a dummy til she was 2, then I weaned her off it and she found her thumb .
Least a dummy you can take away , people complain if you chop children's thumbs off ------------- 
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Posted By: JD
Date Posted: 07 July 2009 at 9:25pm
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Im not sure if you have a bedtime routine in place already, but that might help to give baby the sleep signals rather than the dummy.
We decided we didn't want to have anything we had to rely on for DS to go to bed...as in physical things. Also because my gorgeous little nephew has this most disgusting, manky rabbit toy that he has to have to sleep. Ick. My sister now says she should have got two so she can wash them regularly without all the drama :-) ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: whitewave
Date Posted: 07 July 2009 at 10:18pm
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I started giving Campbell a small cuddly "blankie" a few weeks back, round about when he started rejecting his dummy anyway... and I thought he was going to have a dummy addiction! Now he uses his blankie or the fabric of his Peke Moe sleeping bag to go to sleep.
So you could maybe try introducing a cuddly first (putting it down your top for a hour or two can help her accept it), then once she likes having that, then try taking the dummy away. |
Posted By: Mel&Kel
Date Posted: 09 July 2009 at 7:39am
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Eva is a dummy addict. Do you think it would be ok to try and take it away at maybe 9 months to a year? She only uses it when she is going to sleep and while sleeping and I would feel too mean to take it away now and thought when she is older it might be easier as I can explain to her why we are taking it away and that she is a big girl and doesn't need it?? Please tell me it will be easyish ------------- Mummy to Eva born 11 Feburary 2009 and Charlotte born 18 April 2011 |
Posted By: Natalie_G
Date Posted: 09 July 2009 at 9:16am
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Thanks for all the advice everyone.
I took it away one morning, she went to sleep but for the afternoon nap, she wouldn't sleep just play with her blankie and teddy for over an hour and her bedtime well she just screamed and screamed and I gave in again and gave her the dummy. It seems like I will just have to suck it up throw out the dummies and ride it out. It is such a scary thought. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: lisa85
Date Posted: 09 July 2009 at 10:13am
You can do it  Just chuck em she will be unsettled for a night or 2 but eventually she will tire herself out. It's harder on you really but nothing can be harder than those first six weeks lol. If you give in after screaming she will associate that screaming will get her the dummy. It's one of those things you just gotta ride out she will forget it quicker than you may think -------------
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Posted By: lisa85
Date Posted: 09 July 2009 at 10:18am
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This is going to sound awful but the first couple of nights we close the hallway door so we couldn't hear them crying we knew they weren't hurt and had no chance of getting hurt they were just confused and it was hurting us more to hear them. Usually after an hour or two they would give up. -------------
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Posted By: xLUCKYx
Date Posted: 09 July 2009 at 10:29am
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For our bedtime with Tane (6months) he has bath, feed, then gets wrapped up with his dummy and gets put into his cot once he is getting sleepy. The only reason I want to get rid of his dummy is cos I don't want him to be attached when he is older, he doesn't usually need it put back in in the night thank goodness.
Anyway - to those who have done it - did you do your bedtime routine exactly the same?? I don't think there would be a point in me getting Tane a blankie as he is still wrapped, or maybe I should wean the wrapping at the same time... Sorry for the thread jack!! There is a lot of useful info on here though!! Thanks :) |
Posted By: Nikki
Date Posted: 09 July 2009 at 11:16am
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We got rid of Jakes at 6 months, but he only had it for day sleeps so it wasn't that hard to get rid of. We gave him a soft toy mousey to sleep with and he cried a little the first few naps then got over it. I think the younger you do it the easier it is. ------------- DS (5yrs) and DD (3yrs) |
Posted By: lisa85
Date Posted: 09 July 2009 at 12:24pm
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Our routine didn't change at all we just took that one factor away. -------------
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