Secret tips
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Topic: Secret tips
Posted By: Nutella
Subject: Secret tips
Date Posted: 29 March 2009 at 4:20am
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for getting pregnant...what ideas do people use?
ie, is it true about holding legs up, missionary possie, hmmm actually that is about all I know... So what ideas do we need to be trying? DF is keen to do anything pretty much... I wonder about the whole EWCM - does using a sperm friendly lubricant help the spermies to swim as if there was abundant EWCM?? For the last 6 months we have been bding at the right time so there must be something we are doing wrong  ------------- 
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Posted By: Lexidore
Date Posted: 29 March 2009 at 9:33am
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Nat i am in the same boat as you lol and the only advice ive had is from someone who got pregnant 3 times accidently and she said "just get drunk and get it on" lol if only it were that easy for us huh!! Worked for her 3 times though lol!
Id be interested to hear what ideas other people have too though!! ------------- 
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Posted By: Febgirl
Date Posted: 29 March 2009 at 12:08pm
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That's the thing about TTC, even if you do everything 'right' and there are no fertility problems etc it still comes down to a matter of luck. I think even if you time DTD at the right time you're only got a 25% or so chance of getting pregnant? ------------- Two little girls under 2! 
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Posted By: fire_engine
Date Posted: 29 March 2009 at 4:07pm
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Yep, the odds of getting pregnant each month are actually quite low apparently.
When we were TTC we tended to go missionary position and I'd stay lying down for 10 minutes or so, often with my butt on a pillow. I was just doing what the old wives tales told me to do. I got pregnant quickly but I don't consider the position to be the magic trick. Good luck with TTC ladies. ------------- Mum to two wee boys |
Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 29 March 2009 at 4:57pm
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Apparently if your DH/DP/DF looks at you a certain way .. then wahlaa ... one bun in the oven.
Well thats what my DH thinks anyway as thats all it takes for him to knock me up lol. ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year  http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: yermasyada
Date Posted: 29 March 2009 at 7:02pm
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I've got a new plan for getting pregnant....
I'm going to book a flight back to see my sister (due to give birth) in the UK in August. Sods law dictates that if I book it, I'll find out I'm pregnant and can't go. 
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Posted By: Nutella
Date Posted: 29 March 2009 at 9:37pm
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Haha Millie, that is my theory for this month as if this is the month then my wedding plans go out the window! (Jan 2010).
Thing is that if there is a 25% chance every month, then how come after 18 months of unprotected sex, and at least 12 months of those have been tracking cycles...how can I not be pregnant? When there is nothing wrong with me...we have to be doing something wrong don't we? -------------
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Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 29 March 2009 at 9:44pm
Wrong? Unless he is putting his penis in an orifice that is not your vagina and ejaculating .. I dont think it can be wrong ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Nat wrote:Posted By: freckle
Date Posted: 30 March 2009 at 9:44am
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Jezika - i sooo agree, easier said than done though. I know someone who's specialist doesn't want to try any treatment until her stress levels are significantly reduced as probably won't work... and when I think about all the times Ive been preg I was never stressing about getting preg it just happened... but I can understand how hard it would be to not get worked up about it when you have been trying for awhile! ------------- mum to 3 lovely girls :D |
Posted By: T_Rex
Date Posted: 30 March 2009 at 9:49am
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I don't know if those things work sorry, but I thought I'd point out that for a couple with no fertility issues at all, the chances of conceiving within 6 months (if they BD on the right days) is only 75-80%. So there is a 1 in 4 or 5 chance that everything is fine, and maybe next month is your month
I know thats not much help, and it must be getting frustrating for you. It's all very well saying don't stress, but thats not that easy to do! Have you spoken to your doctor at all? I think they say wait 1 year if you are *young*, and 6 months if you are *old* but I don't know the cut-off age. It might put your mind at ease to have a chat and maybe some tests? Have you tried using OPK to check you are BD on the right days? Otherwise, just keep BD  ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Nutella
Date Posted: 30 March 2009 at 12:40pm
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Oh I have seen specialist and there is nothing wrong with me of DF. Even had a lap done, so know tubes are all clear and everything.
And yip, do OPK and check EWCM and now started temping. Stopped drinking coffee and on diet to lose weight. Don't smoke, hardly drink at all, don't do drugs. Cycles are super regular and I def ov every month so don't see how stress could possibly be affecting anything. So no reason at all.....other than being a wee bit chubs and a little old! PS Lilfatty - funny, I think we are doing that right at least! -------------
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Posted By: littlestar
Date Posted: 30 March 2009 at 12:55pm
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Well I'm also a bit chubs and on the wrong side of 30 - it took us 8 months to get our first BFP, didn't turn out to be a sticky bean though.
I started OPK and temps after the MC (found temping a pita) and got a BFP straight away so all up to took over 10 months. It sux having to wait, knowing you're doing everything you can and it still doesn't work. Hang in there hun  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 30 March 2009 at 1:03pm
I was way old (35+) ... and I managed
Oh and with number two .. I was even OLDER and way past chubs lol ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: Roses are Red
Date Posted: 30 March 2009 at 1:21pm
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Gees, I hope being overweight and the wrong side of 30 doesn't affect my chances once I get the ok from DH
I got UTD straight away with my other two but I was 22 and 25 at the time... I am losing weight at the moment though as DF wants me to lose 20kgs before we start trying so its salads and exercise everyday for me at the moment to get there as fast as poss ------------- 
Angel March 2011
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Posted By: kriss
Date Posted: 06 April 2009 at 10:17pm
BD BD BD 
When TTC last year, this is all I did (apart from taking pregnancy multivitamin). Took 6 months and $$$ on HPT but well worth it
Thanks for the thread, will take on some of the advice for TTC #2 ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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 Little Angel, April 10
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Posted By: sweetpea
Date Posted: 08 April 2009 at 2:15pm
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i don't think there is really one sure way what works for one may not work for another. Try not to stress/ bother you too much go out and enjoy your life and try not to make any major changes changing habits of a lifetime like limiting food intake etc do stress your body even if you don';t feel it. It has to adjust to your new regime. Also don't make sex a chore there is quite a bit of evidence that suggests that if sex becomes a chore then you are less likely to concieve it has to do with sperm count and their ability to swim where they need to.
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Posted By: emachan
Date Posted: 10 April 2009 at 12:05pm
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my best tip - is to not even think about getting pregnant! Just relax!! (easier said than done!)
When I conceived the first time, we had just come back from honeymoon and were just enjoying each other (lol!) not actually in baby making mode - and fell pregnant straight away - unfortunately though, we lost that pregnancy at 12 weeks, and it took 9 months before we conceived Lily! During those 9 months though - I charted, took temps everyday, checked EWCM, made sure I was ovulating using tests etc etc - quite over the top, now that I look back - I thought it would be so easy to get pregnant again - but the stress of each month not falling pregnant and BDing on my 'fertile' days just didn't help, as well as a stressful job. We conceived while on summer camping trip - on holiday with no worries - no charting or temperatures or anything - and we fell pregnant! With my current pregnancy it was the same, we BD a few times, but not to make a baby - if it happened, then it happened and it would be great and if it didn't, we wouldn't stress! So yeah, to cut a long story short - try to relax - it could be the miracle way!! http://www.coverbaby.co.nz/ViewEntries.aspx?r=Search&f=lily&l=derrick - Please vote for Lily in the Coverbaby competition here! ! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  DD#1 Sept 08 DD#2 Oct 09 |
Posted By: Snappy
Date Posted: 10 April 2009 at 1:46pm
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We tried for almost a year to concieve, with no luck.
I decided that I would stop trying to concieve so I could lose a bit of weight first. We also had some big parties/events coming up and I thought we just put a hold on TTC and make the most of those before getting pregnant. Funnily enough, the following month I was pregnant 
So I didnt get to go to those parties after all 
I say just relax and go with it, and see where it takes you. ------------- Mummy to two beauties... Formerly Kaiz. |
Posted By: Laurz_20
Date Posted: 10 April 2009 at 3:45pm
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DH and I were TTC for about 7 months before I got pregnant. It was frustrating because DS was conceived while I was on the pill so I thought getting pregnant straight away would be easy. A friend of mine had called me to tell me she was pregnant I was happy for her but so envious. I asked her for some tips. She told me all she and her DP did was BD 4 days both sides of OV , so basically BD for 8 days straight (she was told to do this by her doc). So I took her advice and I was pregnant that month. It was exhausting but hey it worked!!
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Posted By: LouD
Date Posted: 11 April 2009 at 7:02pm
| Since i started charting and working out when i am coming up to OV I BDed 8 days straight (very exhausting) and every time I put a pillow under my butt and knees to my chest and did this for a minimum of 20mins, but 45mins if there was something i could watch on TV, the pretty much then just remove pillow and towel and go to sleep, so that i didnt get up and it gave any slow swimmers the chance without going against gravity. I MCed last month, but did the same thing again this month, except i had OPKs this month so had a clearer idea on my OV date and only BDed 5 days straight, one of those days being the Day I OVed and did the pillow leg thing and im BFP again..........worth a shot and the only thing you will find is its very tiring BDing that often, and then to lie there for as long as you can.........i got that information off the internet and it seemed to have worked two months in a row for me since i started charting |
Posted By: BeLoved
Date Posted: 11 April 2009 at 8:49pm
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We tried for almost a year with no luck! I had to have a scan to check my gall bladder and mentioned to my specialist we had been TTC with no luck, so when I had the scan they did an internal as well and checked me out, all was okay this put my mind at ease but still no BFP, so we decided to get on with organising our wedding and 3 weeks before our wedding and a week before my hens night we got a BFP!!!
After everyone telling me to stop thinking/stressing about it and me thinking what a load of BS, I did because I had to, to focus on the wedding (we organised the whole thing in 12 weeks and did it all ourselves) plus I was on mission slim down for the wedding. So I now definitely believe that focussing on something else definitely made all the difference for us, plus being extremely healthy and fit (for a short amount of time LOL!) ------------- http://alterna-tickers.com"> 
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Posted By: Babe
Date Posted: 15 April 2009 at 10:36am
I think relaxing and not thinking about it has alot to do with getting pregs. We're TTC #2 end of the year but all that means is DP stops withdrawing (sorry if tmi  ) since we get it on all the time anyway. Its just fun and I figure what'll happen will happen so I may as well get as much booty out of it as possible
Maybe just focus on you and DP - do stuff thats just about you two go on dates etc coz that won't happen as easily once you get a BFP (what does that stand for specifically btw?). -------------   
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Posted By: Nutella
Date Posted: 15 April 2009 at 3:31pm
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Actually, the first six months to a year i was not stressed about it at all as we were just happy with whatever happened. So i actually dont think stress has anything to do with it.
Everyone says to say relax and dont think about it, but when we have been trying for so long for our 1st baby it is hard to go through every month being disappointed. -------------
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Posted By: Mum_mum
Date Posted: 15 April 2009 at 3:37pm
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I know that it is hard to hear people say to relax and not worry and not think about ttc, especially when ttc is an all consuming thing!!!!
The month we got pregnant was holidays, so new years and i was so relaxed on holiday and didnt really think about ttc. infact i drank more that week than any other time in years! We had only been trying again for 4 months so not so long in the scheme of things. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
Angel baby - May 2008
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Posted By: Candkids
Date Posted: 15 April 2009 at 9:36pm
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my friends mum told us that if you have 1/2 an asprin 1st thing in the morning everyday it aids conception ( shes a midwife but said she wasnt sure if it worked or not) anyway her daughter was TTc for 3yrs then tried it and weather or not it had anything to do with it it worked so now all the friends have tried it and all got PG so its worth a shot i say. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  DD 10.5yrs DS 6yrs DS 11mths 5 little angles watching from above |
Posted By: Chickoin
Date Posted: 18 April 2009 at 1:12am
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Babe, BFP= Big Fat Positive
Yeap, that darn relaxing/not thinking about it seems to work. We BD'd every second day after AF and 3 days in a row at OV time the month we made little Jody. I also hugged my knees for 20mins lol. The only reason we did it 3 days in a row was it was our wedding anniversary on a 'no BD' day lol, we actually did it for fun *gasp*. I like to think that was the one that did it lol -------------   
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Posted By: kmarie
Date Posted: 20 April 2009 at 8:11pm
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I've never done any charting, mostly cuz I think it would stress me out and make it harder. I fell pg the first time after ttc for 3mths but m/ced at nearly 3mths (Oct 07). Was an extremely stressful time after that, for more reasons that just my m/c. We kept trying anyway and it wasn't until we went away in Jan and forgot about everything that had been going on and just had fun that we ended up conceiving. (3mths after my m/c). I hindsight I was due to ovulate while we were away, just hadn't thought anything of it at the time. Couldn't believe it - ttc was all I could think about prior to Jan, then suddenly end of Jan arrived and AF was overdue and I felt a lil funny... did a test and wallah, BFP!
Nat I totally hear you on finding it hard, big hugs!! I found it hard enough and it really didn't take long at all for us. Hoping to start ttc#2 in a month or so but a little apprehensive cuz I remember how strung out I was each month because it was so all-consuming. I so hope that next month is your month!!!! You're doing all the right things, just keep doing them. More hugs ------------- 
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Posted By: Nutella
Date Posted: 20 April 2009 at 10:22pm
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kmarie, thanks! i have had my BFP just this saturday been, can't believe it and am so stunned that it has finally happened! Am hoping that it is a sticky one but even if not, at least we know we are not infertile!
Funnily enough, this month I told DF he was in charge of when we bd so that I was not thinking about it too much. Then the day of ovulation we HAD to bd for a postcoital test and both felt VERY stressed out about it as it took a loooong time for the business to be completed, so neither of us enjoyed it...but ya know what, that must have done the trick! How weird is that! -------------
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