Sleeping habits
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Topic: Sleeping habits
Posted By: RinTinTin
Subject: Sleeping habits
Date Posted: 10 March 2009 at 3:42pm
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Hey All
Sorry this is OT, not about babies at all. Just wondering if anyone has experienced weird sleeping habits. DP has an issue where he acts out his dreams in real life. Last night he sat bolt upright in bed, thumped me a few times until I started screaming STOP, then he stopped dead, lay back down, rolled over and went to sleep. He remembers nothing of it. I've experienced this with him a few times before but I'm wondering if anyone else has come across it. It's a bit scary although I know how to stop him if I need to, but I'm more worried about the day that I can't stop him and he hurts me or himself. Any ideas before I go sleeping in separate beds for safeys sake? ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Bobbie
Date Posted: 10 March 2009 at 5:46pm
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Nope haven't experienced it but maybe you should get it checked out.
My dad's friend had a girlfriend who did random stuff in her sleep. They broke up when he woke in the night to find her straddling him holding a knife above him - she was totally asleep and didn't remember any of it. Freaked him right out of course. -------------  
 
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Posted By: errii
Date Posted: 10 March 2009 at 6:10pm
| Nothing anywhere near as bad as yours but when my DH gets stressed he starts getting up in the middle of the night turning on the lights and brushing his teeth then getting back into bed, when I ask him about it in the morning he doesnt remember. Like I said for him this seems to only happens when stressed or somthing is bothering him. |
Posted By: jem
Date Posted: 10 March 2009 at 6:29pm
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DH isn't that bad but does annoy me a little at times. it really doesn't happen that often but sometimes he does talk alot not that i can make out any of his mummbles. occasionally he does elbow me really hard, pushes me, knee's meor once he punched me.
it does hurt but not tooooo bad, but i do get worried when it happens but as I said it doesn't happen that often, in the 6 years we have been together its probally only happened 20-25 times |
Posted By: freckle
Date Posted: 10 March 2009 at 6:47pm
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That's a bit scary amstaff!! I have heard of it before, no personal experience though. Normally when we sleep our body goes into a sort of paralysis as a protective mechanism to prevent us acting out all our crazy dreams, however, from what I remember people who have this problem some reason or another don't. Id recommend talking to Dr or contacting a sleep centre... ------------- mum to 3 lovely girls :D |
Posted By: VioletStar
Date Posted: 10 March 2009 at 6:50pm
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I am the worst sleeper!!
I feel so sorry for my DP, everyday he has a story to tell me about what I did the night before in my sleep. I hit, slap and kick him, swear, sleep talk, push him out the bed... This is EVERY NIGHT! And I don't remember ANY of it, he sleeps on the couch for part of the night most nights. AmStaff... my DP said my sleeping only started like this last year, it was when he returned home for good after being away for 3-4 mths (coming home for only a couple of days every few weeks)... It was like subconsciously I was so used to sleeping my way I guess. No solutions to stopping your DH's night time issues. My DP is start nightshift as of Wednesday.. that's his solution to it 
I'm hoping subconsciously something reprogrammes so my DP can have a decent night sleep when he decides to go off night shift. Maybe try sleeping in seperate beds for a week or so? With your DH in the spare one so it's not the same comfort as your bed for him? ------------- Formerly Wishin41 |
Posted By: RinTinTin
Date Posted: 10 March 2009 at 7:31pm
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For DP it seems to arise or get worse when he is either stressed or drinks Milo/Hot Chocolate before bed.
Apparently he's trashed his whol room once. Woke up the next morning to find his bed and dresser over turned. Once, he jumped up on the foot rest on out bed, grabbed my arm and started trying to drag me out of bed like he was trying to save me. DP's Mum and Dad tell me he's done it all his life so I guess it's soeomthing not functioniing right in his body, like he doesn't get paralised in his sleep like the rest of us. I was more wondering if anyone else had experienced it, seems there are a few out there so we're not alone. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Glow
Date Posted: 10 March 2009 at 8:54pm
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I suffer from this sleep disorder (along with others)
Its called REM sleep behaviour disorder or parasomnia. Like Freckle said, for most people during REM sleep, they are paralysed. But for people who suffer from this disorder, paraliyzis(sp) is lost & they seem to act out there dreams. I would see a Doc, he may send your DP for a MRI or CT scan or to a nurologist(sp)He may also prescibd meds to supress REM or increase deep sleep Sometimes people with this develop demintia or parkinsonism years later ------------- Mummy of Two Boys B: 2004 K: 2007 |
Posted By: RinTinTin
Date Posted: 10 March 2009 at 8:59pm
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DP said I have to stop researching it now. LOL
He doesn't want to know about dementia or Parkinsons.
I can't make him go to a doctor for it, he'll have to make the choice himself. He won't even go to the dentist for his broken teeth despite the fact they cause him agony.  ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: hannibal
Date Posted: 10 March 2009 at 9:02pm
| Hi, why not talk to your GP it may be worth a trip to the Sleep Clinic (I'm pretty sure they have one at Anglesea Clinic in Hamilton), I'm pretty sure the patient stays overnight for monitoring (not sure if there is one at the Hospital) I remember seeing a British programme not long ago on people who act out there dreams and some people got worse as time went on (one marriage even broke down as the woman was so scared). Good luck. |
Posted By: RinTinTin
Date Posted: 10 March 2009 at 9:09pm
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I will definately push the point if he gets worse. Its definately not something I want to get out of control, especially if there is a baby in the house.
At the moment all I have to do is say (loud and firm) "mark, Stop. Lay down, go to sleep" and he literally freezes, throws himself back onto the bed, rolls over and goes back to sleep. But if he gets really violent or I can't stop him, then I will make him go to a clinic. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: monkey33
Date Posted: 10 March 2009 at 9:39pm
| Wow that it is a bit scary! I would worry about if he gets violent one day and really hurts you? Could you try and tell him that you are worried about your own safety and that it would ease your mind if he took just the first step to see a doctor and see what their recommendations are? |
Posted By: ooEvaoo
Date Posted: 10 March 2009 at 10:37pm
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HOw peculiar!. I think I sleep talk and have times when my body jolts awake. Umm if my partner did crazy stuff in bed I'd probably arm myself with a cup of water to through at him lolz. Hope it all gets sorted for ya ------------- 
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Posted By: tiptoes
Date Posted: 11 March 2009 at 8:11am
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The jumping out of bed and trying to save you stuff sounds like night terrors I have the same thing though haven't in the last 2 years. The worst time I thought I saw someone climbing through our bedroom window and screamed at the top of my lungs jumping behind DH. Other times I see spiders. It's kind of like hallucinating. But I seem to remember it and other people don't. Years ago I also used to punch DH sometimes in the middle of the night but don't think that's happened in awhile. I thought I was going nuts a few years back when it was happening a lot and then I found lots of info about night terrors and for some reason it seems to have stopped (except the occassion imaginery spider).
What you say is similar to what my partner was doing. In a firm voice or even an exasperated one he'd say you're dreaming again and some how it would wake me up (because I'd actually be asleep at the time) and go back to sleep normally. I also do that annoying thing where you're just about to drift off to sleep.... and you're kind of dreaming you're walking down stairs or something and I trip and jerk myself awake. God that is annoying as I do it most nights. The things our partners put up with (or you guys put up with)  ------------- http://alterna-tickers.com">  
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Posted By: RinTinTin
Date Posted: 11 March 2009 at 11:56am
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Oh I do the trip and jerk myself awake thing too. It's really disconcerting cause you're so sure you've just fallen over and you wake up and you're laying down which fits with the whole idea of falling. It takes me a moment to realise what happened. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: kriss
Date Posted: 12 March 2009 at 10:37am
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My DH has a similar thing, that happens only rarely and when he is really stressed and tired. He wakes up in the middle of the night looking for our baby, who is usually asleep in her cot by my side of the bed and he freaks out thinking he either can't find her or that he is rocking her in his arms, when he isn't.
Once a few years ago he woke up and told me he was in love with his mum's best friend's daughter.. his mum's best friend has a son, lol. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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 Little Angel, April 10
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