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Topic: Older mums
Posted By: Alanismum
Subject: Older mums
Date Posted: 10 March 2009 at 11:44am
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Hi there,
I was 37 when I had my daughter. She's 16 months now. Up to now we weren't really trying for a second one, but it happened and I got pg. Unfortunately mc at 7 weeks. I'm very sad now and although I want another child very much, I am worried about my age (will be 40 soon) and more mc. Any older women out there who are ttc maybe also after a mc? Would love to hear from you. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Chickaboo
Date Posted: 10 March 2009 at 6:41pm
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well i am 36 and trying for #4 (next month) and worry about my age even though I have had ok pregnancies with the last 3. I guess we all worry - but you have the added worry of MC (I have not had one)
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Posted By: choco69
Date Posted: 10 March 2009 at 7:01pm
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i'm 39 (40 in August) and TTC #1 ... my sister had her 3rd when she was 40 and it was her easiest pregnancy/birth ... so guess it just the luck of the draw
good luck
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Posted By: Bunny
Date Posted: 10 March 2009 at 9:54pm
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Hi Alanismum,
I am definitely one of the older mums (38) and yes I have had a mc in Nov last year, I thought I was 12 weeks pg but the baby had died at 8 weeks, it was heartbreaking. We are TTC again and it is taking a bit longer this time - I am pretty scared about being pg again and it happening again but I know that is the risk that we have to take if we want to have a baby. I have two older children, my son is 20 and my daughter is 17, my partner hasn't had any children which is why we are trying, he would love to be a dad and it will be awesome to have a baby with him. Good Luck with TTC and chatting on here is definitely a huge support I really love coming on here to see how everyone is doing and ask questions etc - it's really great 
Are you charting? I am and it is amazing how much I have learnt about my cycles, check out the charting thread if you haven't already [:) PM me if you ever want to have a chat
Cheers, Jo 
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Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 11 March 2009 at 12:55pm
Im 36 (turning 37) and Im on number two! .. although Im one of the lucky creatures where my DH just looks at me and Im up the duff 
I havent noticed any difference between my pregnancies and my younger friends .. so if I was you I would just "go for it" ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year  http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: Alanismum
Date Posted: 12 March 2009 at 8:54am
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Thanks for the positive feedback. I know what you're saying lilfatty, my first pregnancy was great, no worries at all and I also felt, like I'm doing better than most of the younger mums I know. But the MC has given me a huge fright and makes me very worried.
Jo, I feel we're in the same boat. I don't even know what my cycle is doing at the moment, so haven't thought about charting yet. Maybe once my period is coming back. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: lisa85
Date Posted: 12 March 2009 at 2:23pm
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My sister was 37 and had no kids when she decided to start her family she had 3 MC before she was blessed with healthy twin boys! The boys are now 2yrs and shes had no problems. I guess that's one thing to consider though after 35 theres a high chance (i don't wanna say risk lol) of frat twins because your body is pumping out more eggs I had 2 MC before I had my twins and I'm only 23. I'm smoke free and am very healthy and active so no reason for 2 MC so I think it's more luck of the draw so don't be hard on yourself.
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Posted By: catie
Date Posted: 12 March 2009 at 2:40pm
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I think you guys are all spring chickens! I am ancient and TTC #1! It's a long story as to how I got to be in this situation - married young but divorced, didn't meet DH until I was mid-30s, he'd has a vas, I thought it wouldn't be a big deal to get it reversed, but it was...We have been TTC for literally years, but this is largely due to DH still having really low sperm count and motility. I ovulate regularly, my hormone levels are fine etc . We have decided to have fertility treatment though (IUI) cos we are running out of time. But on the positive side, both my grandmothers had children when they were in their 40s, and I was an 'accident' conceived when Mum was 39 and Dad was 49 and using contraception! So I reckon there's hope. I also take lots of vitamins and herbal supplements and live a really healthy lifestyle, so i reckon my eggs should be in pretty good shape for my age. I've also read some intresting stuff about Down syndrome if any-one's interested - but that's enough of my novel for now!
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Posted By: Chickaboo
Date Posted: 12 March 2009 at 8:42pm
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catie do share your story bout the downs... and we all have a tendancy to ramble LOL... ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Chickaboo
Date Posted: 12 March 2009 at 8:45pm
argh don't say that I keep hearing that and Sh#t scared I might end up having twins for our #4 baby (and last) I am so not prepared for #5 Kids  ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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lisa85 wrote:Posted By: Alanismum
Date Posted: 13 March 2009 at 9:39am
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Catie, My husband had a vasectomy too. Long story, he and his first wife decided not to have kids. But then relationship fell apart, he met me and I wanted kids. So he had it reversed and it worked really well. We only tried for three months and conceived first baby. And we really didn't try for second pregnancy. So I guess I'm lucky for that part. But the MC completely freaked me out. Plus then of course worries about any genetic defects because we're both older parents. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: catie
Date Posted: 16 March 2009 at 10:17am
hi Chickaboo I'm a researcher and have access to the medical journals, so naturally have done a search to see if there's anything that can be done to reduce likelihood. There has been some research done that suggests that large (5g) doses of folic acid can reduce the risk. this was initially suggested a few years ago when it was realised that people at risk of spina bifida also seem more likely to have DS babies. Following that, some research found that mothers of children with DS had lower levels of folic acid in their systems, and then women aking high doses of FA were tracked and were found to have fewer DS babies than would be expected. HOWEVER there has been very little further research done, and these studies had small samples, so it's not possible to say that a link that has been proven. But there doesn't seem to be any harm in taking the high dose of folic acid, so I figure, why not? I copied some of the relevant points into one document, so let me know if you'd like me to email you a copy. A couple of other things in the research literature: a suggestion that older mums may have sex less frequently, therefore their eggs may be fertilised relatively late in the cycle and this relative aging of the egg could have -ve consequences, and also their partner's sperm will be relatively old (i.e. been 'hanging around' for quite a few days or even longer), if they're having less sex - so Bd'ing every couple of days and keeping a close eye on ovulation are probably good tings to do too. and one thing I think a lot of people tend to forget, is that the majority of kids born with DS don't have older Mum's - clearly maternal age isn't the be all and end all we sometimes think it is. |
Posted By: Chickaboo
Date Posted: 16 March 2009 at 3:59pm
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thanks for that catie. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Helen1
Date Posted: 16 March 2009 at 5:29pm
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Hi. I just wanted to let you know that I am 42 and am currently pregnany with #2. I'll try not to ramble but here's what happened with us.
Married DH at almost 34 and started TTC straight away. Took just over a year to conceive and DD was born when I was 35. I was diagnosed with PND although never had treatment but because of that and because DD wasn't the easiest with sleeping and eating I said "not a snowballs chance in h@ll are we doing that again". Pregnancy and birth were really good though. So when DD was 3 we started to TTC again. It took about 18 months and then lost that baby at 16 weeks. Went in for an amnio and they do a scan beforehand and found bubs had died either that day or the day before. Started TTC again and it took another 18 months. We had the nucal scan and blood test (combined result was 1:520 which was "great for my age") but we decided to go ahead with the amnio anyway. Did this and bubs was fine and the procedure wasn't too bad and I rested heaps atfterwards. Anatomy scan was good too although I have a low lying placenta. Once we got the okay on the scan then we told people. I guess after loosing the last one we have never considered the baby to be "safe". This baby is due mid June. My theory is that you are as old as you feel - to a certain extent of course!  I exercise a lot and take a multi vitamin and to be honest my body is just as good or if not better than some 20-30 year olds on coping with pregnany.
Mentally having lost one I doubt you will relax but I would say go for it. Get a good mw or OB and they can help with all the testing and support. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Babe
Date Posted: 15 October 2009 at 10:06pm
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Bump for Sprackleberries -------------   
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Posted By: Sprackleberries
Date Posted: 15 October 2009 at 10:22pm
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Thanks Babe!
Hi everyone - I am 40 and expecting my 3rd on 9th Feb 2010. On way to bed now but just wanted to say Hi - and will swing by tomorrow! Have a good sleep!
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Posted By: Emmi_
Date Posted: 15 October 2009 at 10:24pm
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Wow its so cool to see so many of you UTD!! Congrats!! ------------- 
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 16 October 2009 at 7:43am
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Hi Sprackleberries
I'm 36 and TTC #1 been off bcp since Jan, at my age i'm aware it can take up to 18 months to conceive, its a relief to know other women are in the same situation as me and have managed to have their families. GL ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: Happygal
Date Posted: 16 October 2009 at 8:15am
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Hey there,
Well I'm 39 trying for first... My DH is 39 too.. Had all our tests done and all good, so just will take time I think. Im on clomid now, 2nd cycle, so that seems to be going well so far, got my FX bigtime for this month!!! Seems to be alot of us older ones out there which is great!! I still only feel 25... hehe.. Good luck to everyone!!! ------------- 
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Posted By: Buttersmum
Date Posted: 16 October 2009 at 8:18am
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Yeah it is very reassuring that women in their 30's are having lots of babies hopefully at 34 I'll be one of them too ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
 my little blobby April 09 "gone but will never be forgotten xx"
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Posted By: Sprackleberries
Date Posted: 16 October 2009 at 9:28am
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Hey Happygal - you go girl! When we were going through the ups and downs of trying, my friend said to me "if you relax, keeping focused on the goal/pressing through no matter what - you WILL get there". I think it's a lot about relaxing in your mind about it - doing what you can - and being positive too! All the very best!!!! Wonderful!
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Posted By: babygiraffe
Date Posted: 16 October 2009 at 10:10am
| Hey there - I will be 37 in November and we are trying to conceive number 1. I got married 3 weeks ago so definitely a late starter......but I'm fit and healthy and at this stage fairly relaxed about what the future holds. Here's hoping I stay that way! |
Posted By: Sprackleberries
Date Posted: 16 October 2009 at 12:43pm
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Mrs Hopeful - right with you!! It may be more of a journey - but the best won battles are often the hardest fought! I'm 40 and we finally made it too!
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Posted By: Happygal
Date Posted: 16 October 2009 at 1:16pm
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Helen1 you are so right about being as young as you feel.. I do feel I am healthier and in better shape ever than I was in my 20's.... Had one of those egg tests done too and it came back saying I had loads of eggs left and in good condition etc, was stoked... Now just have to wait...
Sprackleberries, so true about relaxing etc...
Congrats on your wedding MrsHopeful!! -------------
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Posted By: babygiraffe
Date Posted: 16 October 2009 at 1:53pm
Thanks! We had such an amazing day - he was definitely worth the wait 
Now just gotta get down to this baby making business which of course is hardly a chore. My AF is 4 days late, my fingers are crossed! I would be incredibly lucky and it would almost seem too good to be true if I was UTD, only been trying for 2 cycles. But then I also think, why the hell cant it be me?!! So my fingers are crossed even more tightly
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Posted By: Happygal
Date Posted: 16 October 2009 at 2:23pm
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Glad you had a fanastic wedding day Mrs Hopeful, I think its better getting married later in 30's, you know exactly what you want.. We just got married in March this year, was unreal...
When will you test? 4 days overdue, wow, I reckon its a BFP!!! Keep us posted!!! FX for you... -------------
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Posted By: babygiraffe
Date Posted: 16 October 2009 at 3:10pm
| I've tested twice and the were BFN!!! So of course I'm scratching my head a bit. If no sign of AF early next week I'll make a trip to the doctors. I spotted for about 3 days in the middle of last week and I was so certain it was on its way, had all the symptons to indicate it was gonna be a whopper too! But still I wait. So we will see - I am only 17 dpo, wait til 20 or 21 dpo and then go see my doctor.... |
Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 16 October 2009 at 4:02pm
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Congrats on your wedding Mrshopeful
I was 34 when I got married 17 months ago, I didn't feel ready any sooner, DH is 2 1/2 years younger than me, its taken him a little longer to come round to wanting to start TTC. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 16 October 2009 at 5:10pm
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Congrats to those of you who are UTD and goodluck for those of you who are TTC!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Sprackleberries
Date Posted: 18 October 2009 at 1:42pm
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Hi everyone! FINALLY the sun is out today! All I want to do is crawl into bed - but it's way too nice-a day for that!
Hubby wants to go to Mitre 10 so will probably go - there is a great bakery beside it - that is still making YUMMY vege soup! Just what I feel like! What are you all up to today? Take care, Sprax! 
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 18 October 2009 at 1:55pm
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Its turned wet and cold here today, thank fully yesterday was fine and was able to get all my sheets and towels washed and dried.
Thinking of baking this afternoon - can't decide what to make just yet. Prob muffins of some description ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: Buttersmum
Date Posted: 18 October 2009 at 5:56pm
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Well I have been busy printing, cutting menu's and spending most of 3 hours trying to print (which I successfully did) booklets for my wedding this Saturday.
I have to say I'm getting totally over it right now but its just because I'm tired. Looking forward to the day and seeing all my family ------------- http://lilypie.com">
my little blobby April 09 "gone but will never be forgotten xx"
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Posted By: Sprackleberries
Date Posted: 18 October 2009 at 10:34pm
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Hi Mrsg1 - Hope your weekend went well!
Buttersmum - Congrats on your wedding! How exciting! Hey - Is there somewhere on this site I can go to get the heads-up on the abbreviations? Hope you all have a really good night's sleep - don't we all NEED it!!! -------------  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Happygal
Date Posted: 20 October 2009 at 9:52am
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Hey sprackeberries, you can find all the abbreviations under forum guidelines!! Its like another language sometimes! hehe..
Buttersmum, are you getting married this Sat? wow that is so cool... So much to organise.. We got married in March this year, was fantastic... -------------
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Posted By: tarns
Date Posted: 20 October 2009 at 10:14am
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I know I've congratulated you in other threads MrsHopeful but huge CONGRATS again on your BFP!!! Lovely for us older girls to see lots of success. GL for a healthy and happy pregnancy ------------- 
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Posted By: vicki35
Date Posted: 20 October 2009 at 11:07am
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Hi everyone, seems I'm pretty much in the same boat as most of you. I got married last December (aged 34), can't believe it's been nearly a year! We finally thought it was time to TTC too, I'm 35 now so am really ready. Looks like a lot of you have been successful, congrats!
I've decided if this month isn't the haps then I might start charting, don't really know much about it though. However, I have a really good feeling about this month, trying to be positive. Thanks Happygal, I was a bit lost with the abbreviations as well, I will check that page out. Buttersmum - hope you had a great day on Saturday, congratulations. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Happygal
Date Posted: 20 October 2009 at 11:29am
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Hey welcome Vicki35 and good luck with TTC, Im sure it will happen soon! Nice there are lots of us older ones in the same boat... Got a really good feeling for this month too! We have been trying for about 7 months now, so really ready!!! -------------
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Posted By: babygiraffe
Date Posted: 20 October 2009 at 11:39am
Thanks so much! I really thought it was going to take us much longer so it just goes to show hey, those books you read are necessarily correct! So hang in there, you will get your BFP soon as well. Glad I've given you some hope too - I'm 37 in November so well into my late 30's!! I'm already pondering number 2.....haven't even got my blood tests back yet for the 1st one. Haha...!! |
Posted By: Happygal
Date Posted: 20 October 2009 at 11:46am
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Hey Mrs Hopeful congrats bigtime to you!! What a fantastic birthday present for you!! You must be over the moon... So any tips for us all??? I'm just trying to be extra healthy this month etc... -------------
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Posted By: mizpix
Date Posted: 20 October 2009 at 12:10pm
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Hi to all the older mums.
I am 35 , DP is 54, and we concieved virtually straight away, on my first month of charting. I was sure things would take longer with my age and the fact that I had been on the pill for 18 years (only came off it 6 months before conceiving, and was regular as clockwork straight away). Had my 12 week scan yesterday and downs risk very low. Took the precaution of having the blood test done too, and that was also very low for downs, but I would rather have the reassurance of that, than not. For any woman in her late thirties or early forties TTC, I say GO FOR IT! Yes there are more hurdles and risks but in so many cases things work out wonderfully! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/2920e5" rel="nofollow - My Ovulation Chart |
Posted By: babygiraffe
Date Posted: 20 October 2009 at 12:18pm
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Well I'm not sure I have any tips but this is what I did......it might help you!
I went off the pill a year ago and started charting my fertility so that has been really helpful - got to know my body pretty well in that time. To be honest my lifestyle while trying to conceive wasn't exactly role model like, I ov the week of my wedding and I had my best mate staying with me and we drank wine, ate bad food, stayed up late talking and I was busy and stressed - the exact things you aren't supposed to do or be! We wern't really trying hard to conceive, I had it in my mind that I'd be going back to see my Dr in November to get some test done! I did get myself down to a healthy BMI (was always within it but at the higher end of the scale) but that was for my wedding more than the baby thing! I try to eat healthy, LOVE broccoli and all veges, eat a healthy breakfast every morning and I drink loads of water (at the moment about 3 + litres a day) but normally at least 2 litres a day. And I keep active as well, lots of walking. But really I think its just luck? I've heard of people having no problems the first time around and then struggle for number 2 so who know what the future has in store for us. Good luck happygal, you will get your BFP really soon
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Posted By: Happygal
Date Posted: 20 October 2009 at 1:58pm
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Thanks Mrs Hopeful, really hope I will get a BFP this month, will keep you posted, cheers for the tips too.. Im pretty much being healthy, eating well, drinking lots of water, gym/pilates - even drinking that Fertility tea every day too, lol.. Got to try everything.. Good luck in your pregnancy! You are due a day before my birthday -------------
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Posted By: Happygal
Date Posted: 20 October 2009 at 2:00pm
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Good luck to you too Mizpic... -------------
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Posted By: vicki35
Date Posted: 20 October 2009 at 2:04pm
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Congrats mrshopeful! How in the world do you drink 2-3 litres of water a day?? I struggle to get a few glasses down!
I have my fingers crossed for you Happygal, not long to go now! Keep those positive vibes going What's in the fertility tea?------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 20 October 2009 at 2:11pm
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Good luck to all you lovely ladies, funny at 36 I don't feel 'older' well some days I feel like I'm 80 but most days I feel like I'm 25.
Congrats Mrs Hopeful Whats in the fertility tea? ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: mizpix
Date Posted: 20 October 2009 at 2:13pm
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Oh yeah sorry, I forgot the tips for getting pg!
For me didnt go over board, but did temp and chart religiously the month I conceived. BD'd lots around the right time (at least once per day if we could manage it!) I took my multi vitamin, and doubled up on the evening primrose/fish oil I was taking as it's supposed to help CM. I drank grapefruit juice before OV for CM and pineapple juice after for implantation. Otherwise that's it. As for stress reducing conception rate, I dont think that holds as both DP and I had terrible stressful things around that time, me with work and him with family! Good luck and enjoy the BDing! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/2920e5" rel="nofollow - My Ovulation Chart |
Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 20 October 2009 at 2:16pm
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According to what I've read stress doesn't have any impact on conception, what is usually does is effect bding. Especially work stress, I'm hanging out for Christmas, DH is taking a month off and me 2 weeks and we'll be away so lots of time to bd and FX we get a BFP. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: mizpix
Date Posted: 20 October 2009 at 2:30pm
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geez Mrsg1
the only stress relief we had was the BDing! Dont do it that much normally! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/2920e5" rel="nofollow - My Ovulation Chart |
Posted By: Happygal
Date Posted: 20 October 2009 at 3:18pm
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You can buy the Fertiltea online from Baby for you, it has chasteberry, red raspberry, peppermint etc, its quite nice, been to be really good for conceiving.. Will keep taking it, Im taking Elevit too and evening primrose oil!! -------------
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Posted By: tarns
Date Posted: 20 October 2009 at 5:08pm
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I might give that tea a go I reckon Happygal -------------
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Posted By: Buttersmum
Date Posted: 21 October 2009 at 9:18am
hahaha I was getting moaned at this morning that the only reason DF has been getting heaps this month is cause we are trying to make babies...............he reckons when I get UTD he'll be on his own again Poor boy feels so used ------------- http://lilypie.com">
my little blobby April 09 "gone but will never be forgotten xx"
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Posted By: babygiraffe
Date Posted: 21 October 2009 at 9:54am
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Hmmmm, must admit right now bd'ing is the LAST thing I feel like doing!! But of course was all up for it while we were trying to conceive. My poor boy, how mean of me. I'll get him in the sack early one night this week and see what we can do
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Posted By: Happygal
Date Posted: 21 October 2009 at 10:15am
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haha Buttersmum, my DH was joking like that too.. Poor boys huh!
So Mrs Hopeful, did you get any pregnancy symptoms before you got your BFP? Im getting nervous and excited about when I have to test...  -------------
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Posted By: babygiraffe
Date Posted: 21 October 2009 at 11:06am
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Yeah I did get a few - nothing that gave it away though?
I was spotting about 3 days before my AF which is totally normal for me so thought AF was on her way. But then it disappeared so kind of thought that was odd. My temp stayed up as well so that wa also good indication. My boobs hurt, but they usually do anyway and I had my normal AF cramps as well, keep running off to the loo with tampon in hand but it was never there! I had a wee bit of heart burn, incredibly emotional and a smidge irritable.....again, poor DH! I did two pg tests, both negative but got my positive on 20 dpo. Basically my symptons were exactly the same as I would get just before my AF so its quite confusing. Now I feel seedy, my boobs hurt and I have some heart burn. And I'm hungry all the time and my clothes feel snugger already - gulp. |
Posted By: Happygal
Date Posted: 21 October 2009 at 2:38pm
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Cool, thanks for that Mrs Hopeful..... Just so I know what to look out for hopefully soon!! -------------
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Posted By: mizpix
Date Posted: 21 October 2009 at 3:43pm
Yeah it was a bit that way with me, frequency def dropped away once I got my BFP, but seems to be back to normal now. DP is quite persistent, and as we dont live together, so only see eachother a few nights a week, then we tend to make the most of the time we are together ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/2920e5" rel="nofollow - My Ovulation Chart |
Posted By: _H_
Date Posted: 21 October 2009 at 7:01pm
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mrshopeful how soon did you became really hungry?
in the last couple of days i have been hungry ALL the time (even the girls at work have noticed!) and my boobs have been tender (may be because AF is on its way) |
Posted By: Sprackleberries
Date Posted: 23 October 2009 at 9:59am
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He he you all crack me up - but I have baited breath and fingers crossed for you! How exciting! I have an unused/unopened/still shrinkwrapped pregnancy kit that I am not intending to ever need again. If one of you girls want it - email me your postal addy. It's a "QuickCard One step Pregnancy test - results in 60 secs, over 99% accurate." 3 test pack.
First in first served! All my friends are past the age of wanting to try again! Gasp! Have a great day! Sprackles :-) ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: vicki35
Date Posted: 25 October 2009 at 10:58am
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Hi everyone. Well we finally plucked up the courage to test this morning. I was so nervous. Peed on the stick and it immediately gave me a BFP!! Arrrgh, I'm in complete shock! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Sprackleberries
Date Posted: 25 October 2009 at 12:59pm
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HI Vicki35! Pardon my ignorance but what is a BFP???
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 25 October 2009 at 1:17pm
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big fat positive ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: tarns
Date Posted: 25 October 2009 at 1:37pm
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wow!!! congrats Vicki35 AWESOME news -------------
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Posted By: Sprackleberries
Date Posted: 25 October 2009 at 11:15pm
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DOH! Yaaaaaaaayyy!!! That's fantastic!!! Congratulations!!! Sorry for being such a dunce! I shall retreat to the corner of the room with my pointy hat on!
Sleep tight :-) ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Roses are Red
Date Posted: 26 October 2009 at 8:09pm
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Do I qualify for older mum status at 34? I feel old at the moment, especially with an 8 year old and an 11 year old. lol Pregnancy was much easier at 25 than it is at 34 ------------- 
Angel March 2011
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Posted By: Richie
Date Posted: 26 October 2009 at 8:31pm
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Hiya ladies, I'm only 24 and expecting my first in just over 15 weeks (yay!) but thought I'd drop by and say that age is no barrier! My Mum had my oldest sister when she was 24years old and proceeded to have another 5 kids over the space of 20yrs! So yup, that means she had her last (my wee brother) at age 44!!! (3 months before her 45th birthday). She had my younger sister at 39, and me when she was 34, the other 3 kids were obviously between 24 and 34. It did take a little longer with the younger two. She had 3 MC's between me and my sis (and my sis was to be a twin but her twin died when mum was 12wks preg). and had 4 MC's between lil sis and lil bro but I don't think she did too bad for her age! Considering she had the stress of all those other kids to look after!
So it can be done so keep your chins up and keep trying! Your time will come And congrats to those of you who have gotten your BFP's recently! Happy babymaking! -------------  
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Posted By: Happygal
Date Posted: 27 October 2009 at 8:56am
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Big congrats Vicki35, that is fantastic news, you must be stoked..... Good luck with everything.....
Its getting close for me testing now - getting nervous... Think Im trying to imagine symptoms!! lol... -------------
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 27 October 2009 at 9:01am
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AF is due to show up tomorrow, FX she doesn't and I can test next weekend. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: Happygal
Date Posted: 27 October 2009 at 10:33am
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Hey Mrsg1, will you wait till weekend to test? I am going to try and hang out till then too.. Have you had any symptoms? -------------
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 27 October 2009 at 1:09pm
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I've had what have felt like AF symptoms for the last couple of weeks and she hasn't arrived. Also boobs are a bit tender but as they are all the same as AF ones its hard to tell the difference.
I'm going to wait until the weekend, to make sure AF doesn't turn up. I've tested before and got BFN only to have AF turn up the next day. Got annoyed at wasting a HPT ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: Happygal
Date Posted: 04 November 2009 at 10:24am
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How's everyone doing on here? Any updates?
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 04 November 2009 at 10:27am
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BFN this morning still no AF - I'm trying to be patient and wait till AF arrives and then go see my Dr and get bloods done. No more HPTs at home so can't be tempted turning into a POAS addict. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: Happygal
Date Posted: 04 November 2009 at 11:13am
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When is AF due? Sounds like its late anyway, so thats always a good sign! FX bigtime for you.. Its such a waiting game!! Keep us posted
Im on 3rd cycle of clomid now - so I'm hoping 3rd time lucky!
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 04 November 2009 at 11:25am
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AF is a week late. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: OldieNewbie
Date Posted: 05 November 2009 at 5:48pm
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Hi everyone.....I am def and OLDIE I am 42 and now 12 weeks preg with first bub despite fibroids, FSH levels etc. I will always be thankful to our acupuncturist / chinese herbalist who we were seeing for just 2 months before conception (he had 6 others fall preg around same time). Had been TTC for about a year...prob more. No clomid.1 little piece of advice from him, no walking bare foot on cold floors etc (allows cold in the body). x fingers for u all. ------------- http://www.pregnology.com/pregnancy/05/25/2010">  [url=http://www.pregnology.com]
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Posted By: joro
Date Posted: 05 November 2009 at 11:14pm
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Hi everyone
Never let anyone tell you that your too old!! I was 41yrs old when I conceived my daughter after 7 months of trying. I was doing 'home ovulation testing' and trying on days 12/14/16 when my gynaecologist said to add in day 10. It worked because the very next month I was pregnant. I took elevit throughout the entire process, had an amnio, and went on to have a perfect pregnancy - no morning sickness or otherwise. I gave birth on my due date, at the age of 42. My daughter was a healthy 4kg. I stopped breastfeeding after 6 months as we have been ttc again. It's now been 10months and I'm willing to keep trying until I turn 44. We went to the fertility clinic to make sure everything was OK as time is definitely running out now, but he sent me away because he said that my test results were perfectly normal and clomiphene could upset my normal cycle. I know of two women who gave birth at the age of 45 with no complications. Sooooo....... you're never too old.
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 06 November 2009 at 7:39am
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Great to hear some awesome success stories, gives me hope it will be our turn soon enough. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: Happygal
Date Posted: 06 November 2009 at 2:37pm
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hey, it is great to hear those stories, thanks girls. Think just have to stay postive and keep trying... FX it will be us soon Mrsg1 with BFP!!! -------------
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Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 06 November 2009 at 5:54pm
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I was 35 with Isabelle and 36 (amost 37) with Elias .. its definately do able ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: tarns
Date Posted: 06 November 2009 at 5:57pm
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Congrats OldieNewbie that's fantastic...!!! I'm curious to know more about the acupuncture....and what herbs etc he gave you.
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Posted By: OldieNewbie
Date Posted: 07 November 2009 at 4:43pm
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Hi Nathansmummy! No prob. Not sure if I can give names on here? Kane Monrad in Hamilton. He also gets you to do your charting which tells a lot. Herbs are different for everyone as he gave me stuff to help with fibroids etc. Others he can tell from chart whether 'mind' is having an effect etc. B4 I went was getting hormonal pimples etc and noticed changes throughout..... he can help with multi MS too. Anyway..... I have faith in him
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Posted By: OldieNewbie
Date Posted: 07 November 2009 at 4:45pm
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Posted By: Sprackleberries
Date Posted: 11 November 2009 at 2:09pm
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Hi Joro! I turned 41 on Monday - it's great to find a niche for us ol' chicks! I always chuckle when I hear it said "You're only asold as you feel" - as these days I am feeling about 90!
Yesterday I BEGAN MY 3RD TRIMESTER!! This is a huge event for our family as we lost 3 littlies in their first trimesters which was heartbreaking. I get SO excited really all of your posts and have my fingers and toes constantly crossed for those of you who are waiting for the good news! Hope you are all having a brilliant week! Hugs ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: tarns
Date Posted: 11 November 2009 at 2:35pm
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Thanks OldieNewbie (Ive changed my handle from Nathansmummy to Tarns.....Nathansmummy was too long and I figured if I get UTD again its a stupid name lol).
Bit far to trek to Hamilton from Otago but will be looking more into acupuncture for sure. I am in the charting thread, have been charting now for 3 months and wow I have learned so many things. I didnt know my LP (time from ov - AF) was too short to sustain a pregnancy so have rectified that by taking B6. AF has just arrived today, so next cycle I'm going to try taking VItex as I think my progesterone needs a boost. Fun fun fun eh... -------------
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Posted By: Happygal
Date Posted: 12 November 2009 at 2:44pm
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Sounds like its going very well for you Sprackleberries - nice to hear some good news...
Sorry to hear AF arrived Tarns! FX for this cycle..... Lot of BDing for us at the mo - got a positive OPK yesterday, so pretty sure I ovualated today... Had lots of ovulation pains... -------------
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Posted By: jazzy
Date Posted: 12 November 2009 at 5:47pm
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Sprackleberries congrats to you, I had a mc at 12wks so know how heart breaking it is, but 3, that is so unfair.
I am in this group "olders mums" lol, I know & know of heaps of women who have had babies in their 40s, I worked in a women hospital so there were quite a few 40+ having healthy babies. We have been tiring for 1 more, wanting a girl, but 3yrs on it has not happened so I am thinking it won't & am now thinking of giving up on it. I keep giving myself an age to when I will stop trying but that comes & goes. At what age should one stop trying? |
Posted By: tarns
Date Posted: 12 November 2009 at 5:57pm
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Jazzy....I don't think there's a magic number - everyone's situation is different. I was amazed by the woman on 60mins (or was it 20/20?) who is NZ's oldest mum. While I don't necessarily want to be having kids in my 50's as she did - that's just how her life worked out and she is doing an awesome job with her kids.
I don't think others should dictate when we are `too old' hehehe so ....* bounces ball back to your court* -------------
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Posted By: jazzy
Date Posted: 12 November 2009 at 6:04pm
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tarns I agree, I think I am looking at a real reason to stop TTC as time goes on & no result it is taking its toll, so if I thought or got told I was getting too old then I would stop & could get back on with my life.
I guess it is really up to your body to tell you that, & from experience I know it has been when I was not tiring to get pg that I did. No so easy to chill though. |
Posted By: tarns
Date Posted: 12 November 2009 at 7:16pm
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Well I hope no one tells you you're too old hun because it is not their business/life etc. Yup..you will be the one to make the call (or not) Baby dust to us both! -------------
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Posted By: Wannabe
Date Posted: 15 November 2009 at 7:07am
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Hi all...
TTC #1 - I'm 39 (40 in Dec) & DH is 35 & no kids - we got married 1st July 09 in Rarotonga (its just stunning there!). Been off the BCPs for 2 yrs - no contraception in that time - charting for over a yr - taking Elevit - been to Dr's for all my blood tests at CD2 & halfway through LP - all tests came back normal - DH's swimmers seemed fine too. Finally on the 24th Nov we have a publicly funded 1st consultation at FA's - fingers crossed they accept us & help us achieve our dream of having our own little healthy & happy baby. Fantastic to read others are having success & also that I'm not the only 'golden oldie' out there trying! ------------- 
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Posted By: jazzy
Date Posted: 15 November 2009 at 8:22am
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Wannabe39, thats great news, FX for the appt.
Well AF arrived so I am going to stop TTC for awhile, will see in the new year if I want to carry on. |
Posted By: Rubyrock
Date Posted: 15 November 2009 at 10:05am
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Hi everyone,
We are TTC#1, i'm 37, (38 in Jan) & DP is 40, we have been trying for 3yrs and have found out that DP has a genetic problem causing him to be infertile. Have so far tried 2x IUI's but taking a break until Feb as the experience has not been the greatest for me and need to de-stress as it were 
I am very aware of my age but I feel alot better knowing that there are more of us 'older' trying to be mums out there
Best of luck for everyone and hope we all get our BFP's ------------- TTC#1 Jan 07 Me 39 DP 41 MFI DI#1&2 Sep & Oct 09 BFN DI#3 Feb 10 BFP - mc @ 9wks DI#4 Jul 10 - BFN DI#5 Aug 10 - BFP - chem pg IVF #1 Aug/Sept 11 - BFP - chem pg |
Posted By: jazzy
Date Posted: 15 November 2009 at 4:26pm
| Rubyrock, TTC, can be so stressful & it makes it more stressful when there are added problems it is good to take time out, good luck |
Posted By: Happygal
Date Posted: 16 November 2009 at 1:31pm
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Hey GL to everyone! Wannabe39, are you going to FA in Greenlane? Im doing my 3rd cycle of clomid there - Im really feeling hopeful for this month, but just don't want to get my hopes up again, its hard not too huh!
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Posted By: Wannabe
Date Posted: 18 November 2009 at 9:45pm
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Hey Happygal.
No we're going to Albany this Tuesday because we're Westies! Otherwise we would have to wait until Feb 2010 to get into Remuera...I guess living out West has to have at least ONE advantage huh! I just really hope they take us on as I turn 40 in less than 4 weeks - eeeeekkkkk! Chin up ladies - it will be all our times soon! Positive vibes going out to you all
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Posted By: Happygal
Date Posted: 19 November 2009 at 12:45pm
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Hey Wannabe, how funny, I am 39 as well and a westie!! will have to start up a coffee group or something!! hehe.. We were lucky and got in straight away with Greenlane FA..
Found out my progesterone levels were 108, so my doctor at FA said that is nice and high and a good sign,,,, If this 3rd cycle of clomid doesn't work, we are going to try IUI... Yes, we will get there ladies and get our BFP!!! -------------
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 19 November 2009 at 1:51pm
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Good Luck ladies. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: Rubyrock
Date Posted: 20 November 2009 at 7:01am
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Hi Ladies,
We had our 'discussion' with F+ about the complete muck up with our DI/IUI in October. These Docs are very PR focused and pretty much showed his astonishment at what had happened then left it at that - oh we get an extra IUI from it so I guess in that respect it was good. Anyhow, when we get back into things in Feb I will be on clomid 50mg - eeek Any side effects I should be concerned about? Happygal, I second the coffee group thing, I'm a westie too
You must be due for testing soon??? Good luck ------------- TTC#1 Jan 07 Me 39 DP 41 MFI DI#1&2 Sep & Oct 09 BFN DI#3 Feb 10 BFP - mc @ 9wks DI#4 Jul 10 - BFN DI#5 Aug 10 - BFP - chem pg IVF #1 Aug/Sept 11 - BFP - chem pg |
Posted By: Happygal
Date Posted: 20 November 2009 at 8:20am
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Hey Rubyrock, a few of us westies around huh! Definately have to organise a coffee group then, good to have support from others in the same situationa and same age!
Glad your F+ discussion went well and that is good you get an extra IUI too.. Any advice on IUI for me?? As we are going to do IUI in Feb if this cycle of clomid doesn't work... FX it does... I didn't really have any side effects on clomid, started on 50mg and now on 100mg... Yep 7 days till testing for me, abit nervous!!
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Posted By: Happygal
Date Posted: 09 December 2009 at 7:37pm
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Hey how is everyone here? We have all been abit quiet lately.... Any news or updates with anyone??Ive got my fingers crossed for this month!!! Would be fab to get a Xmas BFP!!! -------------
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 09 December 2009 at 9:28pm
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No news from me, according to my chart I haven't ov'd and I'm now cd24, been bding every 2-3 days will keep going until af arrives. If I don't have any luck over the holidays I'll go get tested in the new year. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> [/url] Angel June 2012 |