Grasping at straws......
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Topic: Grasping at straws......
Posted By: Lexidore
Subject: Grasping at straws......
Date Posted: 04 February 2009 at 7:59pm
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Hey Guys
So I was just wondering if anyone has had pregnancy symptoms with numerous BFNs and whether it turned out they were pregnant or not. And those that were pregnant with BFNs how long did it take to come up positive...has anyone gone through a whole pregnancy with a negative POAS.... any stories would be really helpful!! Thanks All  ------------- 
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Posted By: freckle
Date Posted: 04 February 2009 at 8:18pm
Yeah my mind can convince my body of anything I reckon Last month I was sure I was preggo had all the symptoms except sore bbs... and on CD 49 af arrived! (I have long cycles at times).. The month before I got preggo with my one year old I could have sworn I was pg then as well - was sleeping all the time, sick, peeing etc... but got af on CD52. Does make me wonder if they were chem pregnancies as both such long cycles... It's so hard cos so many of the symptoms of pregnancy are the same as AF so best to try not to overthink it if poss... easier said than done of course 
I hope your symptoms turn out to be a BFP soon  ------------- mum to 3 lovely girls :D |
Posted By: lisa85
Date Posted: 04 February 2009 at 8:22pm
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*Lurker in*
My really good friend was trying to get pregnant for 2 years before she got her BFP. I worked in the same office for a year and it was heart breaking to watch her go through the motions every month she was convinced she was pregnant but usually she was mistaking PMS signs for pregnancy signs. She wanted it so bad that I think she was convincing herself of signs that weren't really there and I'm sure the stress she was putting on herself wasn't helping. So when that time of month would arrive she would be in tears thinking it was a miscarrage 
She had actually decided to give up trying for a year because she couldn't take it but as soon as she stoped trying she of course got a BFP She now has a gorgeous 4 month old girl
*Lurker out* -------------  
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Posted By: Limochick
Date Posted: 04 February 2009 at 8:42pm
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With my second son I got 5 negative tests and when I did get bloods done they weren't very good and they told me they thought I would miscarry. I then got sent for a scan where they told me that "it wasn't a viable pregnancy" but they were wrong and he is almost 5 . Sorry I rambled a bit but good luck with everything
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Posted By: yummymummy
Date Posted: 04 February 2009 at 8:47pm
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I had a negative test, then waited and tested again with an early response one and got BFP - which is now our little Emma ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Mum_mum
Date Posted: 05 February 2009 at 12:37pm
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Hey Bex - just wanted to say that after my M/C it took about 7-8 weeks for my AF to come back and i did keep thinking "oh maybe im pregnant" its really hard not to get worked up and think that every sign may be pregnancy. We took a little while off and when we started TTC again the first month i had convinced myself i was pregnant again and had sore nips and feeling sick but i think it was just my body playing tricks on me and cos my mind wanted it sooo much my body sort of delayed everything and i ended up having a 50 day cycle.
Best of luck tho and i hope you end up with a positive result soom ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Emily281
Date Posted: 05 February 2009 at 12:54pm
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No personal experience but I read somewhere that there are some women who just don't metabolise HCG so they never get a + pee stick. But I would imagine that if you got a pee stick BFP with your last pg then that wouldn't be you and you would get a + pee stick if you were pg. Have you had AF since your mc? Do you know how many dpo you are? ------------- TTC#1: Jan 07 Aug 08: Lap found and excised Stage 3 Endo Nov 08: 2nd lap clear - given OK to TTC after next AF |
Posted By: WRXnKids
Date Posted: 05 February 2009 at 2:54pm
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girl i worked with never got a bfp on any of her test so she was pretty shocked when she went to the doc cos she was ill for a week to find out she was 7 or 8 weeks preg as she had been testing every few days -------------   
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Posted By: AzzaNZ
Date Posted: 05 February 2009 at 3:09pm
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Yes. I had symptoms, all tests were negative. Doctor sent me for blood tests which also came back negative. Turned out I was pregnant afterall.
Negative blood test was when I was 7 weeks pregnant already 
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Posted By: Lexidore
Date Posted: 05 February 2009 at 3:58pm
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Hey all thanks for all the comments and keep them coming its reassuring hearing everyones stories!
Umm i have no idea how many dpo? lol also no AF since my m/c but i have been told that some people dont get one for months even after a m/c! I am a little worried however if im really not pregnant that something is wrong with me coz i definately dont feel a hundy! Last night i thought maybe AF was coming coz i had bloating and crampy feeling in my lower abdomen but nothing again this morning... still feeling pretty nauseous but it goes away when i eat and today i got in the car and dry retched (soz tmi) plus still peeing a lot more than normal and not drinking any extra. And Reeeal tired! Lol any ideas to what might be wrong with me if im not pg? Im going to test again on Valentines Day if AF hasnt arrived by then. -------------
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Posted By: Lexidore
Date Posted: 05 February 2009 at 3:58pm
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*edit to add to above post*
Also lots of stretching/pulling feelings in my abdomen -------------
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Posted By: GuestGuest
Date Posted: 05 February 2009 at 4:38pm
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Certainly sounds like preg symptoms, esp if you are that nauseous. Maybe you should get a blood test to see what your HCG levels are doing?
Good luck
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Posted By: mummymegs
Date Posted: 05 February 2009 at 4:47pm
| hugs bexandantz, I hope you get some answers soon. |
Posted By: gannet
Date Posted: 05 February 2009 at 5:41pm
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Bex, if (and I hope it doesn't) AF shows up, it might be worth starting a symptoms diary. I was so sure I was pg each month and decided to write down each month what was going on the week before AF is due and I found that each month I feel sick and my boobs get sore etc, all those symptoms that could easily be both AF or a BFP.
I've found that even though I am still disappointed when AF arrives, because I've not read in to every single symptom because I know I get them each month it makes it easier to deal with. Hugs to you and I hope you get a really sticky BFP soon x |
Posted By: Lexidore
Date Posted: 07 February 2009 at 8:21am
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My plan is to do another test on Valentines day.... i will then goto the doctors that following week no matter what the result lol. gannet i will definately take your advise there cheers and thanks to all the other ladies for their answers... feel free to keep em coming lol! -------------
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Posted By: littlestar
Date Posted: 07 February 2009 at 10:22am
 Hugs bexandantz
It does do your head in after a MC when you don't know what the hell is going on with your body. Like gannet sugested, I think a symptom diary would be a good idea. I found keeping track of my temp & opk meant I could actually see things were working in there. I would recommend asking the dr for some bloods - at least then you will be able to see if your HCG has returned to normal, is on its way to normal or (fingers crossed) is increasing. Remember - what you are feeling now is completely normal (as crap and werid as it is) and there are always people online here who are more than happy to give advice, lend a shoulder to cry on or just listen when you need to vent. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: sno0ze
Date Posted: 07 February 2009 at 6:29pm
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Hi, with this preg I had so many symptoms for the tww - I knew I was pregnant but I took so many tests throughout that time with them all being negative. It did my head in big time!!
Good luck Hope it all works out for you!!------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Lexidore
Date Posted: 08 February 2009 at 9:40am
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im getting soo frustrated.... gah! I was naughty and did another test this morning again it came up BFN... but i was wondering... with my last pregnancy i went for a scan at what i thought was 7 weeks but it turned out i was only 5 weeks pregnant from the size of the sac. Im presuming this means id ovulated later than normal would that mean that i would normally ovulate at a later date to most people? So would mean a BFP wouldnt come up till probably 2 weeks after when i thought my af would come? Coz it will be 6 weeks this weds since my m/c? I dunno again grasping at straws but i just cant ignore the symptoms im getting grr... Sometimes i wish that i had a switch that i could turn off to stop looking so much into this! -------------
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Posted By: littlestar
Date Posted: 08 February 2009 at 9:57am
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bexandantz - goodness don't feel bad about doing another test - if it was me I'd have been doing one yesterday!!
I tested 6 weeks after mc but it was only 10 dpo, so maybe its still a bit too soon to tell for you as well. Maybe try another one on Wednesday?? easier said than done really!! Until you know either way - this time waiting is going to do your head in! Its the not knowing whats going on I guess. Hugs ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Troods
Date Posted: 08 February 2009 at 10:24am
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Hi Bex. I'm just lurking to see how you are. Sorry to hear that things are still unclear for you, it must be so frustrating with the waiting and not knowing what's going on, especially when it's so hard not to analyse everything. I'm on the edge of my seat hoping you do get a BFP soon but I guess you'd just feel better having an answer either way so you know where to go from there. Anyway hugs to you and I'll keep lurking to see how things are going. ------------- 
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Posted By: RinTinTin
Date Posted: 10 February 2009 at 1:05pm
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Hi Bex This has been good reading for me, as I'm about the same as you. AF is late, peeing ltos, super tired, "quickening" (moving feelings) in lower abdomen, etc, etc. But keep getting BFN. Trying to refrain from testing but it's hard not to. I have a friend who has 5 kids, and throughout 3 of her pregnancies she didn't know she was preg until about 6-7 months as she had AF every month up until then. I know quite a few people (and you hear stories all the time) about girls who had no idea they were pregnant and next thing they've popped out a baby. So I'm guessing it's possible. My next step will be a blood test as well as HPT if AF isn't here by the weekend. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Lexidore
Date Posted: 10 February 2009 at 1:11pm
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Its so frustrating not knowing huh?! I mean some days im so adamant that i am pregnant... and then people tell you your symptoms mean something else... or even worse that you must be imagining them and it makes you all down and upset thinking your crazy for being so sure you were pregnant when all these people are so sure your not. Sorry mini-vent there too... I really hope you and I both get BFPs soon! Im almost gunna be just as happy to get AF or have my symptoms stop because i think that would almost be better than going through this its really hard aye! -------------
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Posted By: freckle
Date Posted: 10 February 2009 at 2:30pm
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I think I understand what you are going through and how frustrating not knowing is!! I never know when AF is so every month I wonder for the next month after Ov if I am or not... IMO I don't think people are trying tell you you are imagining these symptoms but at the same time I guess people don't want to build ya hopes too high either as there are other explanations for lots of pg symptoms eh... Did you have your hcg levels monitored after your mc to ensure they returned to normal level?
I really hope you get an answer soon - and preferably a BFP ------------- mum to 3 lovely girls :D |
Posted By: RinTinTin
Date Posted: 10 February 2009 at 6:05pm
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I'd be happy to get AF or BFP. If I get AF it just means that I'm only 3 weeks away from possibly getting pregnant. And if I get BFP then of course I am pregnant.
Either one will be exciting but I'm definately not too flash happy about this being half way in between stuff. I don't know if I;m cooming or going, can I do things or can't I do things, do I need to prepare for a baby or can I just carry on as I am. It's all very backwards. HPT's need to be redesigned so they can tell you if AF is comin or not. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Lexidore
Date Posted: 10 February 2009 at 6:07pm
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Amen to that AM!! I completely agree with what you just said! This not knowing is the worst ever! -------------
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 10 February 2009 at 6:40pm
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Hey bex,
Its hard to know really, you could be feeling yuck cos your AF is on its way back or you could be preg, but it depends if you have ovualted. I would just try and relax and not do any more testing, and see what happens in the next week, if still no AF and neg test then Id see ya doctor for piece of mind. After my M/c my AF came back bang on 4 weeks, but everyone is different. ------------- |
Posted By: Lexidore
Date Posted: 10 February 2009 at 6:50pm
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Hey Sheza!!
Thanks for the message... i think at this stage ill be happy with whatever purely for the fact i just want to know whats going on with my body! Of course much happier if its a BFP! Will leave the testing for a wee while and go from there. I cant believe your at 13 weeks now! Yay! -------------
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Posted By: Lexidore
Date Posted: 15 February 2009 at 6:58pm
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Man im soo over this! Ive come to the conclusion that im not pregnant but i now wish AF would just arrive and get back to normal to make it easier for TTC! Im probably gunna goto the doctors this week but then im not sure exactly what they are gunna be able to do for me so am hesitant to go coz its gunna cost be at least $50! Someone on here mentioned going on Provera but im confused from what ive seen on the Ministry of healths websites for Provera its not recommended if you have had a miscarriage, or if you are planning on trying to get pregnant. Anyone got any insight to that? -------------
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Posted By: asicsgal
Date Posted: 15 February 2009 at 7:10pm
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Bring on the docs appointment I say, such a poo that they cost heaps. I would write down all your questions so you don't forget anything you want to cover. Knowing a lot of doctors they rush you in and rush you out so you end up feeling rushed which is sooo unfair. Sometimes it feels like you have to put your foot down and be very persistant in what you want to see happen, and what you are happy with.
Best of luck Bex, I hope they really sort it out for you and there is a light at the end of the tunnel. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: VioletStar
Date Posted: 15 February 2009 at 7:26pm
Just saw this Bex, I take provera to induce AFs which is prescribed by my gynae and there are a few women on here who are prescribed it to bring on AF by specialists. All for TTC purposes ------------- Formerly Wishin41 |
bexandantz wrote:Posted By: Lexidore
Date Posted: 16 February 2009 at 10:04am
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Well i called the healthline and the nurse said its definately normal to not have a period on time after the miscarriage coz your bodies trying to sort itself out and get back on track. She recommended waiting until ive missed two AFs, and then go and see a doctor or it might just be a waste of money. But if i get any abnormal abdominal pain to call them back or go in straightaway. Im pretty happy with that... she also said theres no reason for me to not be TTC while im waiting anyways
Go the Healthline!!! It may just save me $50 yet!! -------------
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Posted By: jazzy
Date Posted: 16 February 2009 at 10:58am
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Hi Bex, glad you have got some medical info that may help.
When I had a m/c at 12wks I was told it would take about 6mths for my body to get back on track. I stopped trying for a baby & did not keep track of anything, so was very surprised when I got a BFP 3 mths later. I remember being given a contact number for m/c support. Maybe look into something like that as they would be able to tell you what maybe happening to your body and what to expect. Waiting is really tough but it will happen for you.
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Posted By: RinTinTin
Date Posted: 16 February 2009 at 12:55pm
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Hi Bex, Glad to hear you have some kind of answer and hopefully some kind of sanity to help you get through. Try not to worry about it all too much. People keep saying this to me and I want to hit them everytime they do but it's true. It'll happen when it happens. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Lexidore
Date Posted: 16 February 2009 at 2:49pm
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Well ladies AF arrived this morning albeit lighter than my first day normally is but im sure thats quite normal considering that its my first AF since m/c and also first one without my IUD in in 3 years. Now ill just concentrate on Charting and hopefully next month will be my month. (its my birthday next month so that would be a great birthday present) Last pregnancy was concieved on DPs birthday lol. -------------
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Posted By: RinTinTin
Date Posted: 16 February 2009 at 3:11pm
Bex I'm glad to hear AF has arrived. I know it wasn't the answer you wanted but it sure beats being halfway aye
Good luck with your charting. I'm considering starting that if I don't get BFP this time around. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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