To have no3 or not
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Topic: To have no3 or not
Posted By: Beani
Subject: To have no3 or not
Date Posted: 18 November 2008 at 4:36pm
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Hello,
I have two wonderful children a 3 year old and a 1 year old. Hubby and I have decided to try for no3 in a few months time when I have a reasonable fitness level and are back at my pre preggy weight. I wonder though how I will cope with pregnancy and two littlies to look after, esp as I have had quite bad morning sickness with my last 2 pregnancies. The whole thing really scares me and I often think to myself maybe we should just stick with the 2 we have. But then I feel sad that we won't have anymore. I guess I am just looking for some reassurance from those of you with 3 or more, and has anyone regretted having more than 2. Thanks. |
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Posted By: MonicaMouse
Date Posted: 18 November 2008 at 8:28pm
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I read an article a wee while back about timing and whether or not people were having more. One thing mentioned was regrets, what will you regret more, a child you have, or one you don't have.
I'm wondering how I will go if/when we go for No2, as I had horrible MS for the first 20 weeks ------------- 
Blair 15/10/2007 Daniel 30/07/2009 |
Posted By: bluebird
Date Posted: 18 November 2008 at 9:54pm
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I'm only preg with my second, but my mum always said the hardest this was going from 1 to 2 as with one you still have a bit of time to yourself, and can just concentrate on getting the kid ready etc and the second one mucks all that up. Going from 2 - 3 wasn't really different as you already have no time and have to be super organised with the 2. number 4 was "nothing" lol! She just made sure she stayed in hospital as long as possible after the births ( 10 days I think with me - im no3) to have some time out with the bub. ------------- DD1 10/10/04 DD2 10/06/09 |
Posted By: JD
Date Posted: 19 November 2008 at 9:24am
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My mum recons that number 3 slots into the family so easily it is like they were never not there!
I know a couple of families recently that had number three and the babyies have all been really layed back and good sleepers. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 19 November 2008 at 9:48am
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Morning sickness doesn't last forever (so I keep telling myself atm). Worst case scenario you are sick for 9 months but then you get a lifetime with your fabulous children so when you look at the big picture getting ms for awhile is nothing really, ok so I know it doesn't seem like nothing at the time but once it's over you'll have 3 wonderful kids. You never regret the kids you have, you only regret the ones you didn't have. -------------  
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Posted By: Beani
Date Posted: 19 November 2008 at 11:26am
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Thanks for you replies everyone.
I am feeling really good about going for no3 now, it just feels right. Just have to get fit now so hopefully by the end of summer we can start trying. I know it is totally worth going through ms to get that wonderful little baby, its just hard at the time. I am getting quite excited now. Thanks again. |
Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 19 November 2008 at 12:12pm
that's exactly how it is here with Ems she jsut fit's in and liek JD said I have alot of friends that have found that with their 3rd. ------------- Deborah Mum to:   
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JD wrote:Posted By: Chickaboo
Date Posted: 19 November 2008 at 10:10pm
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I had #3 after a 8 year gap and he just fitted in with all of us. Hes always been a good sleeper etc....
And now we are looking at going for #4 - can;t be that bad. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 23 November 2008 at 8:33pm
I found the change from 1 to 2 much harder than 2 to 3. Once #3 comes along you already have a certain amount of routines in place etc as well as plenty of baby experience. Also you probably have your DH more trained than when you just had 1  . It's also a bonus that the older two children play together when you are with baby - rather than the eldest feeling like they have lost their playmate (as is the case when you have #2).-------------  |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 23 November 2008 at 8:42pm
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I've found #4 has fitted in pretty easily, can't comment on #3 coz she arrived 3 minutes after #2 so I wasn't a mum of two for very long! The older three love their baby sister, and she's been a great baby - she's so flexible, sleeps in the capsule when we're out and about no worries and is pretty easy going.
The hardest part for me tho was pregnancy. I get hyperemesis during pregnancy and spend the entire 9 mths vomiting, I found my pregnancy with the gremlins was manageable as Maya was 3 and semi-independent. I could set her up with some crayons and paper or a DVD and then go back to bed if I needed to, and she was at preschool during the week. But being pregnant with Chiara was horrid, the gremlins were 12 mths when I found out I was preg and 20 mths when she was born and I really, really struggled. I remember one day where I couldn't get out of bed without passing out or vomiting and poor Maya had to get the gremlins up and feed them (I ended up in hospital). They were (and still are) really demanding which I found hard to cope with when I was preg. Like the others have said, it's all worth it when you see your bub, but I wouldn't do the small age gap again for anything. Having a baby and a toddler is a piece of cake but being pregnant with a toddler for me is just too hard! ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 24 November 2008 at 11:16am
i'm at the 'should we or should'nt we' stage for #3 too....although DH is dead-set against it.
i'd love another baby and do feel that i am missing something, but the one thing that worries me is can i cope with the squabbles and fights over silly things. sometimes my 2 drive me nuts and i wonder what it would be like with another one there as well  ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: my4beauties
Date Posted: 24 November 2008 at 1:28pm
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I love having 3 kids. It was hard when I was pg and had a toddler who was only 13 months when I fell pg with #3 and a 3 yr old, but now it's awesome. I had a lot of family help though when I was really sick with MS, and my mum helped a lot through the week when DH was at work. DH would cook most nights since being anywhere near the kitchen made me hurl. I know I couldn't have stopped at only 2 kids. The older 2 have loved Jett from the start and they look after him and play with him really well. Dh would love #4 at some stage, but I'm really just happy with our 3. ------------- My babies: R (9),G (7), J (5) http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: BessieBear
Date Posted: 25 November 2008 at 1:02pm
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i have a friend who has just had her 4th and her first is only just 4 yrs old. but hen her dh is a farmer so is around quit a bit. but she copes just fine. takes all 4 out shopping. and she wants more. ------------- Sarah Mum to, Boy 07/2008, Girl 03/2010, Boy 05/2012, Angel 07/08/2014
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