Help all you Mums of almost one year olds
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Topic: Help all you Mums of almost one year olds
Posted By: fattartsrock
Subject: Help all you Mums of almost one year olds
Date Posted: 21 April 2006 at 8:19pm
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Help!!
First up, can I just say there is a whole avalanche of us who's bubbas are about to turn one. SCARY!! Now the help part. Jacob has got very "naughty" at tea time, and just won't eat his tea. Sticks his fingers in his mouth and pulls it out (the meat, which I already cut up as little as I can get to "disguise" it), spits, throws, tantrums, hysterical crying etc..it has got VERY stressful. He used to be such a good eater. any suggestions, also any suggestions on how to "tell him off" or whatever to make it clear to him that behaviour isn't acceptable and is naughty? He just laughs when I growl.. ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 22 April 2006 at 7:03am
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meal times arent a biggy for us - its always been if they dont eat dinner then offer a piece of fruit and thats it. i find that sometimes they just dont want to eat that last meal of the day and with so many other battles to fight i give that one a miss. so maybe offer small meals so you dont feel your wasting your time and if he wont eat dont stress about it. but i wouldnt go and give him a meal later if he sd he was hungry either. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 22 April 2006 at 8:27am
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jack went through that at about the same age too and it's so frustrating! i remember talking to my GP about it and he said not to stress if Jack didn't eat as he won't starve himself.
As with Deb, I would offer him a piece of fruit instead and if he didn't want that either, it was nothing. ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: 3under3
Date Posted: 22 April 2006 at 1:53pm
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If he doesn't want to eat meat this week/month, he probably will next month/week. Stressing about it will only make it worse. He won't die if he doesn't have meat for that long - you can get iron into him other ways.
Older mums have told me how each of their kids have gone through phases of: only eating honey sandwiches (eg) for a month - breakfast, lunch and dinner. Then they got over it. At about this age Cam only at peas and corn as veges for a couple of months. It's just a phase. Also, if Cam doesn't eat some of his dinner and is still hungry, he can have as much plain bread that he likes. Even I don't feel like the dinner I make sometimes. Rosie |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 22 April 2006 at 7:20pm
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Maya's not a big dinner eater. Loves her starches (potato, rice and bread) and broccoli, but I can't get her to eat much else. I just do the same as what everyone else has said - dinner is the last meal of the day and if she doesn't eat it then nothing till breakfast. At Jacobs age she was still having a bottle before bed which filled her up enough to sleep thru so I didn't really fight with her over dinner.
Oh, and I sometimes give her last nights leftovers for lunch the next day - she seems more keen on eating them then, maybe because she isn't so tired, and I feel better about her having had at least one decent meal. -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 22 April 2006 at 7:30pm
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Thanks for your suggestions guys, i wil tke it all on board. I know he won't starve himself, but I just worry he's not getting enough iron. I do give him (or at least offer him) a bottle before bed, to help him sleep through.
Had a stress free dinner tonight, though. It's the temper tantrums that are starting to do my head in!!!! ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 22 April 2006 at 8:31pm
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You'll probably remember ih ad the same sorta thing a month or so ago with Ayja - for her it was simply her way of showing us she was sick of what she was being given - so maybe try a little more variety? Also, as someone has said - what they won't eat one month they will the next. io remember my older sis really really struggling to get her little boy to eat meat - including only giving him his meat to eat first, before his veges... cos he looooved his veges. well, that turned sour when he then would only eat meat and decided veges were his enemy. they seem to go through phases.
also - i have noticed it more so this time because of how head-strong ayja is.. but this is the time they start developing more a personailty and testing out things. Ayja throws the biggest tanty when something is taken away from her or she is told "no".. she flings her arms around, hits anyone close enough to reach, and pinches you if you pick her up. she gets a grumpy face and says "no no no" or "stop!" (has a very small vocabulary yet has learnt these words VERY well!) we do exactly the same thing, always consistently. tell her "no, that's not what we do, we be gentle to mum/dad/paris" and show her gentle. if she continues we move her away from us or whatever she is getting agro at, or put her down and walk away if we are holding her. it makes her angry but she soon stops. it's worked pretty well for us with PAris for the most part that is, so here's hoping it does the same with Ayja. good luck. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: Southlandmummy
Date Posted: 22 April 2006 at 8:49pm
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Im a meanie..
If Kaylin is eating finger food and dosent eat it, thats it till breakie then hes hungary.. if its food I fed him (yeah I still do sometimes) then he eats it all but it getting to be more and more independent now.. I dont offer him anything else otherwise I think he will get the idea of "If I dont eat what mum gives me, I will get something I want..".. Like someone else says they wont starve themselves.. Oh and as for the tantrums.. I ignore them and do something on my own and he soon realizes mums not listening and stops... Anyway.. Good Luck :) ------------- Cindy - Princess and Princes Samia Isobel Joy born 9th September 2008 Spencer Graeme John born 29th May 2006 Kaylin Gavin Robert born 19 December 2004 |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 23 April 2006 at 11:30am
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I went through the same thing with Hannah (that's where Operation Take-the-power-back came from)
I ended up ringing plunket for food and sleep reasons but they gave me one of my most cherished pieces of advice. I will have said it here before, but I will say it again - "It is your [parent's] responsibility to offer food, it is the child's responsibility to eat it." I've gone by that ever since and if Hannah is being silly with her food then I take it off her and that's it! Hope it gets better soon 
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Posted By: lenabeanz
Date Posted: 23 April 2006 at 11:39am
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We are the same - I feel like a meanie taking food off her but you either leave it there and teach them to play with it or take it off them and make them realise that you are the boss!!
I've noticed since Arna has been going to daycare that she is really tired by tea time so I serve her tea up earlier and if she doesn't eat it she gets it for brekkie or in her lunchbox for daycare... and daycare has a healthy eating policy so I know she's not snacking on junk food all day. ------------- http://www.snugglepie.com"> 
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 23 April 2006 at 2:09pm
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what time is she there until Arna - as we found that paris was not hungry sometimes when we gave her dinner and it turned out that they have a late snack about 5pm just before we pick her up, and sometimes some people would give the kids a bit too much. so we moved her dinner time backwards - but then she is older than Arna too.
------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 23 April 2006 at 3:17pm
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Ok, so now it is "operation take back the power, version 2" ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 23 April 2006 at 11:31pm
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 24 April 2006 at 10:02am
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Janine, Maya's daycare were the same, would give them crackers and biscuits at about 4.45pm so she was never hungry by 5.30 dinner. But now at kindy she takes a lunchbox and whatever she doesn't eat comes home again so I know how much she has eaten during the day.
She went to kindy without breakfast this morning. She asked for a crumpet with plain butter and some peaches (tinned) which I got for her, and then she turned her nose up and said she wanted cornflakes. Oh well, her choice... ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 24 April 2006 at 3:08pm
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Paris has 2 choices for brekkie really and we alternate days with each so that there is always predictable - cos we hardly ever have time when we are rushing to get ready for, for her to be a nutter with choices lol.
One days it's weet-bix and the next it's cereal (ricies conrflakes, sometimes if she's really really lucky she had a few cocoa pops on top) we found that if she doesn't have her weet-bix she has trouble going to the loo, so compromised and only make it every 2nd day. if she finishes her cereal/weet-bix, then she can have toast after that if she wants. We found by using something predictable she's really good about it, we can say "well, you had this yesterday, so today it's ...." ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 24 April 2006 at 7:59pm
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Maya pretty much has crumpets and fruit every day. Her choice completely. We have cornflakes, weetbix, sultana bran and special K in the cupboard (because I never know what I am going to feel like in the morning these days so I have to have a selection lol) but she's not a big cereal girl.
She won't have anything on her crumpet tho, just plain butter. She's such a funny kid like that. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 25 April 2006 at 8:55am
| mmmmmmmmmmm crumpets with butter |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 25 April 2006 at 10:49am
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Yeah, but you gotta have golden syrup too. Or they just don't taste as good! ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 25 April 2006 at 2:50pm
noooo definately lots of runny honey is best. theya re soo good, why have i not had THEM lately? ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 25 April 2006 at 8:01pm
| I'm with Maya... plain butter for me. (Craploads of it though!!!) |
Posted By: emeldee
Date Posted: 08 May 2006 at 11:26am
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I've just finished reading Nigel Latta's book 'Before your kids drive you crazy, read this!' and although we haven't had any eating issues with Andrew so far the chapters on the book about eating problems were SO funny.
We don't have any food hangups at present - if Andrew's hungry, he'll eat, if he isn't, he won't and it takes about 20 tries of something new for him to work out whether he likes it or not. I was worried about iron for a little while, but sneak it in the form of meat juice three times a week into something he likes. After having friends who got into the cycle of making three different meals for the kiddies each night depending on their tastes I went very old school and have a rule that if what is put infront of you isn't to your liking, you get to hold out until the next meal. I also don't make a big deal if meals aren't finished - I'm trying to keep Andrew in touch with when his tummy is n't hungry anymore rather than when his plate is empty. Aside from all of this, I now seem to have a hankering for crumpets and need to ring the hubby to get him to pick some up on the way home - crumpets with golden syrup and butter - YUM!!! ------------- |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 08 May 2006 at 11:55am
| We just feed jake leftovers of whatever we had the night before. he loves most food on most days, although seems to have a consistent dislike of apricots. He loves bananas again at the moment, but for squishing in his hands rather than eating. |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 08 May 2006 at 8:20pm
james will eat anything and everything put in front of him butttt----- maramite liked it not 1 week ago now he wont have a bar of it ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |