Should i put her in my room
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Topic: Should i put her in my room
Posted By: denny25
Subject: Should i put her in my room
Date Posted: 28 September 2008 at 7:05pm
| I've been reading about SIDS and freaking myself out! Some research suggests having the baby in your room for 6 months so your breathing regulates the babys breathing and reduces the chance of SIDS. Ava who is 3 weeks old, has slept in her own room from day 1. Now im worried about it. BUT her room is the warmest, driest in the house whereas our room is damp and mouldy (we do have a dehumidifier running all the time). So what is best? Having her in her own room that is dry across the hall, or having her close to us but in a damp room (we'd run a heater of course if she was in there). I am confused. |
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Posted By: BugTeeny
Date Posted: 28 September 2008 at 7:13pm
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I totally think it's personal choice.
There's lots of factors that have come from SIDS research (non-smoking, back sleeping etc), but I think it's up to the individual. Hannah was in our room until she was 5 months old. That was partly because of SIDS, but mainly for convenience. Lots of people put their babies in their own room from day one (a lot of them will agree babies are noisy little critters when sleeping  ).
A lot of people sleep their babies on their sides (my MW is a side-sleeper advocate, but Hannah wouldn't have a bar of it). At the end of the day, the statistics are just that. There are no absolutes, so I say do what you feel more comfortable with 
***eta: Even with Hannah in our room I was still terrified of SIDS, I think that's only natural ------------- 
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Posted By: weegee
Date Posted: 28 September 2008 at 7:15pm
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There's always pros and cons to EVERYTHING, so many decisions huh! I'd say don't muck up her routine and leave her in her nice warm, dry room. If you're really worried about SIDS then get yourself a respisense or similar monitor for peace of mind.
But that's JMHO, I know statistically and anecdotally there are lots of reasons for having bubs in your room. We've got JJ in his own room for purely selfish reasons, we sleep better without all those baby snuffles and snorts
eta: snap MamaPickle  ------------- 
Mum to JJ, 4 July 2008 & Addie, 28 July 2010 |
Posted By: BugTeeny
Date Posted: 28 September 2008 at 7:19pm
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 28 September 2008 at 7:21pm
| Personal choice but I would rather have my child sleeping in the nice room (warm) than in the not so nice room (mould,cold) because mould spores messes with breathing too. |
Posted By: kakapo
Date Posted: 28 September 2008 at 7:35pm
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I agree with MamaPickle - you should do whatever you're comfortable with. The thought of SIDS freaked me out too, but DH couldn't sleep when DS was in our room. So I spent the first 6 months sleeping in DS's room (which has a double bed in it as it's also our 'spare' room). Next time though we'll invest in an Angelcare sound and movement monitor, for peace of mind. It'd be nice to know that an alarm would go off it they didn't breathe for 20 seconds or whatever it is. I think I've read that the most risky time for SIDS is between 2-4 months of age - that's when I was most paranoid about it and always waking up to check he was still breathing. I think I really did develop an excessive amount of paranoia though (reckon you can read too much and scare yourself unnecessarily) .... once I even went and shook DH to see if he was OK when he was taking an afternoon nap LOL. He was like "What the f**k?". Whoops After watching that TV3 series about unhealthy homes recently (sorry, can't recall the name of it), personally I think I'd try to keep my baby away from mould and damp if possible. |
.Posted By: denny25
Date Posted: 28 September 2008 at 7:42pm
| Funny thing is, we have a Dr Sprott cover, all natural bedding, and a movement monitor but im still paranoid!! |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 28 September 2008 at 7:51pm
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If you have a movement monitor there's no harm in having her in her own room. Just move her when you are ready for more walking each night feed Our rooms are roughly equal as far as temperature goes and Hannah and Kryssi were both moved out of our room at about 6 weeks. Briona on the other hand was such a loud breather/sleeper, she was out of there in 2 weeks LOL! -------------  |
Posted By: blondy
Date Posted: 28 September 2008 at 7:56pm
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We had Natalie in our room for the first 3 weeks, but we were getting hardly any sleep (she's a grunty wee thing in her sleep!), so she has been in her own room since then. Personally, I noticed that she slept much better away from us.
The thing I keep telling myself is that although the risk of SIDS is there, in the end there is a much higher chance that she will be perfectly fine. -------------  
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Posted By: kiwikid
Date Posted: 28 September 2008 at 9:28pm
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I definately recommend the Angelcare sound and movement monitor, it gives me such peace of mind even though the alarm has never been activated by Hayden (plenty by Mum and Dad who after 8 weeks still forget sometimes to turn it off when they take him out of bed silly chooks). It was pricey (thanks M&FIL xxx) but think of it as an investment and you can use it for other baby's down the line perhaps. ------------- 
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 28 September 2008 at 9:36pm
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I've done both, Maya was in my room for 5 mths and I am still rooming in with lil miss in her room, but the gremlins went straight into their own room from day one. I agree with everyone else re: breathing monitors, I would never have slept without the gremlins having them on. If you've got one tho I'd say leave bubs in her nice dry room. Unless of course you want her in with you in which case thats all good too!
I hadn't heard the mum's breathing regulating bubs breathing theory before, interesting. I use a breathing monitor on lil miss even tho we share a room tho coz I wouldn't wake up if she stopped breathing. It's been great peace of mind with all the problems she's had with her breathing to date. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 29 September 2008 at 12:03am
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Jack was in his own room from 6 weeks but before that I used to push him in the hallway if I couldn't sleep. I think he would have slept better if he was in his own room because I used to hear him straight away even if he just moved slightly.
We don't have a movement/breathing monitor and I did freak out when he first slept through etc. The reality is babies can die from SIDS whether in your room or not so if she's in her room and happy (and warm!) then I don't see any harm at all. Oh, and just to add I've come a long way as at first I was so panicked because my cousin died of SIDS but my mum managed to snap me out of it as he died 30 years ago and a few things have changed since then! |
Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 29 September 2008 at 8:40am
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I've had E in his room since the first day for several reasons..and was terrified till bout 6 months..and w have the monitor but bizarrely I never sleep with the sound on and I woke up just before he woke EVERY time for the first 5 months (lol not fun)
anyway personal choice but I would in your case go with the dry room.. esp as its so close.. ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 29 September 2008 at 12:25pm
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If you have the movement moniter then then Id keep her in the warm room.
I think with SIDS, it can happen wether a baby is in your room or there own, but with Ava Id keep her in the warm room, have your moniter on, which is a huge piece of mind as it will beep if she stops breathign etc. Caden is in our room cos we only have the one room, he is a very very noisy sleeper grunts and wiggles and sometimes crys in his sleep(weird lol) and sometimes I wish he had his own room. ------------- |
Posted By: fire_engine
Date Posted: 29 September 2008 at 1:46pm
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It's completely normal to be paranoid! Daniel has been in his own room since he was born - way too noisy and snorty and the few times we've shared a room (when staying with the inlaws) I found I was way more sensitive to his noise and probably got him up more than needed cos I didn't give him time to self settle. We don't have a monitor and I'm OK with that. Look at the other main risk factors - that may go someway to reassuring you - incl. smoking and back sleeping. ------------- Mum to two wee boys |
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 30 September 2008 at 8:40am
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I had Caitlyn in my room for the first 3 months, but would have happily had her in her own room if i had a baby moniter .
I think keeping her in the warm dry room will be healthier for her than a damp room , JM2C ------------- 
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