Those of you that had bad first births...
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Topic: Those of you that had bad first births...
Posted By: _Deb_
Subject: Those of you that had bad first births...
Date Posted: 13 September 2008 at 1:18pm
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What was your second labour/birth like? My birth was pretty bad. I so wanted a water birth but i couldn't have one. I'm hoping i can have one next time. ------------- 
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Posted By: pekemoemum
Date Posted: 13 September 2008 at 3:40pm
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hey newmummy. my first was pretty rough... not particularly long, (10hrs all up) however approx 3 hours of pushing, and then a big cut and my poor babies head was very bruised as he'd been stuck for a long tiem....
BUT 2nd time I started labour at aobut 1.30am, into hospital by about 3.15am, and started pushing at 4am, out by 4.15am! home by 7am!!! WAY better! I had him standing up!!! so much quicker than the first time.....!! and I was really worried I'd 'tear' where I had my episiotomy the first time, but I didnt, had a small tear in another area, but it healed up really fast compared to the first time!! all the best :) xx ------------- Gina, Reef 15/6/03, Tyde 12/2/07 http://www.pekemoe.co.nz - Peke Moe - Unique NZ Made Baby Sleeping bags for babies who get out of swaddle/wrap |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 14 September 2008 at 9:05pm
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In my first labour I started haemorraging (placenta issue) at 4cm so ended up having a c/s.
Second baby, had a VBAC with epidural and also needed episiotomy Third baby (second VB), no epidural (had fentynal and gas) and tore a little but no episiotomy. Getting better and better for me  -------------  |
Posted By: ellen
Date Posted: 14 September 2008 at 9:24pm
Lol busymum - your next one should just fall out eh 
Gas, pethidene, epidural, forceps & episiotomy for my first. Totally natural for my second and a homebirth for my last. IMHO I think your mindset has a lot to do with it (apart from things out of your control) and if you go with the pain instead of fighting it, it makes things much easier. All my labours were similar in length and stages - just my approach different after my first experience. |
Posted By: Neeks
Date Posted: 15 September 2008 at 10:47am
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Pethidine, Epidural, Spinal Block, Forceps, Ventouse and THEN a Caesar and that was just my first baby LOL I dare not get pregnant again in fear that it could be worse next time... -------------  
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Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 15 September 2008 at 11:12am
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That'll be because she has no pelivc floor muscles left after so many kids
Newmummy, maybe you should get a copy of The Pink Kit ( http://www.thepinkkit.com/ - http://www.thepinkkit.com/ ). You can buy it online, there are probably copies on TM and I borrowed my copy from my midwife. There's also a special extra CD available for women who had a traumatic first birth. -------------  
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 15 September 2008 at 11:43am
aww hunny i had that expect for the forceps and i got knocked out or the c/s big big hugs did they ofer you a c/s next time ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 15 September 2008 at 11:49am
Ain't that the truth! 
I've never had a traumatic/bad birth but mine did get better each time - Maya was 1 1/2 hours of pushing after 3 days of posterior labour hell, gremlins were 6 hours and Chiara was less than 2. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Neeks
Date Posted: 15 September 2008 at 12:14pm
yer they did thankfully.. keziah had a 30cm head circumference and even that was too big for my little pelvis. -------------
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Posted By: TysMummy
Date Posted: 15 September 2008 at 3:38pm
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know what you are saying ...my first i was critical that they brought family in to say goodbye to me.......(im to much of a b'[tch to leave) i just found out that im pregnant again and i just spoke to midwife to tell her that i was stressing big time...........she said that it will be much better as my body had gone through everything but im not trusting anyone....this one is planned as after this one i have to have an op so cant have anymore and was determined to have a brother or sis for Ty ...i was like you and wanted water birth............good news is that this time im having 2 specialists and my midwife is an old Nurse. There wont be a day that goes by that im not worried but as long as the baby is fine then it is all worth it and compared to the pain they go through this is nothing..................good luck hun :) ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: ellen
Date Posted: 15 September 2008 at 8:08pm
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Busymum's comment reminded me of the Monty Python skit where the woman gives birth to about her 10th baby while she's doing the dishes. She's just calmly standing at the sink and asks one of the kids to "pick that up for me". So funny - wish it were THAT simple! Even though my 2nd & 3rd labours were easier to deal with it's still bloody hard work.
TysMummy - that would have been so scary for you. Congratulations and good on you for making sure you've got all the professionals in place and with a history they'll be prepared for anything. All the best. |
Posted By: cat007
Date Posted: 15 September 2008 at 10:08pm
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My first one was hard - 48 hours first stage labour, induced and then 12 hours second stage and ended up having an epidural with a 2 hour final pushing stage. Ended up with stitches, grazes, damaged ligaments in my knees and very sore all over. Was very traumatic especially when I was lucid with not adequate pain relief.
Second time round was fantastic - and with twins! Three hours established labour, 1 1/2 hours pushing with no pain relief except gas. First twin born head down and fairly easily, second twin turned and came out footling breach 20 mins after first twin. No stitches, no major pains and within 12 hours felt as if I had never been through labour. I would highly recommend it again, the second time round! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  [/url http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Kimber
Date Posted: 15 September 2008 at 11:12pm
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My first was pretty traumatic (for me, nothing compared to what some women go thru), induction, epidural, 3rd degree tear and 45mins in theatre.
Second was great, long latent phase but I was relaxed, at home, no tears :D |