Baby Showers?!?!
Printed From: OHbaby!
Category: Pregnant
Forum Name: Pregnancy
Forum Description: Pregnant! Wanting to chat to other mums-to-be (or dads-to-be)? Share your thoughts, experiences, and ideas... This is that place!
URL: https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=20248
Printed Date: 22 August 2025 at 7:48pm
Software Version: Web Wiz Forums 11.10 - http://www.webwizforums.com
Topic: Baby Showers?!?!
Posted By: mamazozo
Subject: Baby Showers?!?!
Date Posted: 20 August 2008 at 3:33pm
|
Hey ladies,
Its my first pregnancy and i was just wondering if anyone could fill me in on whats the deal with baby showers?? Does somebody else have to organise it or can i hold my own baby shower?? Any cool ideas or facts or anything would be helpful really! Im very creative and love crafts so id love to host my own baby shower but i have no idea about baby shower etiquiette. Thank you muchly!! Zoe   -------------    |
Replies:
Posted By: VannesaD
Date Posted: 20 August 2008 at 3:54pm
|
It really is up to you - there are lots of different sites giving different 'rules' but at the end of the day it is what suits you and your family.
For instance - I've heard that you or family are not allowed to organise the shower - but I know of heaps of friends where family did in fact organise it. I've heard showers are for the first child only - I didn't have one for my first so I'm having one for my second. There's no reason why you can't organise it yourself - just depends on your energy levels of course. 
All the best with your pregnancy. -------------  
http://lilypie.com"> 
|
Posted By: mamazozo
Date Posted: 20 August 2008 at 3:56pm
|
Thank ya :) ------------- |
Posted By: Nefertiti
Date Posted: 20 August 2008 at 4:33pm
|
lol those are funny 'rules'.
I only ever had a shower with my 3rd! The friend who organised it had some things come up and wanted me to help with the organising...ie invites etc. I felt uncomfortable doing this, as in I didn't want people think I was organising it just to get gifts. So I just said that we'd give it a miss. I wasn't worried about not having one and knew she had family issues to deal with. But she asked for another friends number and she helped instead. I think the organising is best coming from someone offering to do it. But that IMO only. |
Posted By: Zebra7
Date Posted: 20 August 2008 at 4:57pm
supazo I think anything goes and if you are keen to host your own shower then go for it 
I personally felt a little strange about having a baby shower because I felt like I was just asking people to give us presents. But everyone started asking when it was going to be so in the end I organised a low key afternoon tea for female family and friends. Naturally we were showered with pressies but I felt happier about it because i'd hosted everyone for the afternoon  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
|
Posted By: mamazozo
Date Posted: 20 August 2008 at 5:21pm
|
well thats the same with me, i feel uncomfortable with people thinking i am just organising it 2 get presents for me its more about getting together with my gfs and playing fun games etc!! i think ill go ahead and do it myself, and im really not fussed about getting presents just having a fun arvo with my mates!! Thanks for the input ladies ------------- |
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 20 August 2008 at 7:55pm
|
With DD my friends organised it for me, with this one I will do my own not for gifts as I already have house full of stuff but more so that we can get together and just have a few laughs. I never heard of those rule befor ...my SIL in USA just had her baby shower...a huge one and this is her 4th baby!!
Go for it Supazo!! I will organise mine in mid Nov. A very low key afternoon tea thing! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
http://lilypie.com"> 
|
Posted By: Natalie_G
Date Posted: 20 August 2008 at 9:09pm
|
My friends have told me I am not allowed to do anything for my shower, they are organising it all.
I am more than happy not to organise anything, I know my mates will do a good job  .
But there are no rules on who organises it like everyone else said do what you want to do, its your shower after all. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
|
Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 21 August 2008 at 7:50am
|
see, i had a pre-organised one last time thru our old church, our new one doesnt do that & i kinda wanna organise one this time, but i feel rude inviting people coz it like i'm inviting them for pressies, which isn't really the case. i have been hesitating to organise something as i had thought i might just organise a afternoon tea/bbq sort of as the last time for a while i can have people here. i guess. i dunno -------------   
|
Posted By: pikelets
Date Posted: 21 August 2008 at 8:24am
|
I organised my own baby shower. My step-sister took charge of the games on the day tho so I could sit back and relax.
Don't be embarressed. If they don't want to buy you a present than they probably won't go to your babyshower. I found I got heaps of presents from people I didn't even invite or keep much contact with. There is something about a baby that just makes people give. It swings in roundabouts (is that the saying?) you will be at their babyshower one day and take them a present. I say enjoy getting spoilt! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
 3 Angels - Dec10 / Mar11 / Dec11
|
Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 21 August 2008 at 8:34am
|
but doesn't it seem weird to invite people to your own baby shower? i do want to, as there are a few things we do need, lol, as cheeky as that is, and as you say, it's nice to be treated for a change. -------------
|
Posted By: kmarie
Date Posted: 21 August 2008 at 10:31am
|
I'm pregnant with my first too and my SIL was behind mine - with Mum in the loop doing the food for afternoon tea and hosting the party at their house. It went really well... there is something about playing silly baby games and being showered with gifts Really it was just a neat chance to catch up with a whole lot of female friends and relatives I hadn't seen in a while - for some of them it was a good excuse to see my bump for the first time.
Have you looked through the first edition of ohbaby magazine? They had quite a good article on baby showers with interesting ideas in it. I say if you want to organise your own, go for it Although if you do, I suggest aiming for earlier rather than later. I had mine at 33wks and wasn't allowed to do any setting up or cleaning up... and you wouldn't believe how exhausted I felt by the end of the afternoon. So make sure you look after yourself!------------- 
twins in heaven Oct07 Is 40:11 "He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart." |
Posted By: mamazozo
Date Posted: 21 August 2008 at 2:57pm
|
thanx ladies im glad im not the only one wanting to organise my own.
I dont really mind if people dont bring me presents coz thats def not why im doing it, i just want a chance to have some fun with my gfs and get all clucky lol...im thinking i may even wait until after the baby comes and have a welcome to the world shower haha im not sure but either way all my mates know they dont have to buy prezzies but they all insist on it coz they love baby shopping!! i think im just going to go ahead and do it myself it will be fun. but im def gonna do it sooner rather then later since ill be doing it myself and ill call in the girls for game and cleanup crew lol. ------------- |
Posted By: Helen21
Date Posted: 21 August 2008 at 4:23pm
|
I've had a friend that hosted their own babyshower and turned it into a desert evening and on the invites it asked that people bring their favourite desert instead of a gift. It was so much fun we still played babyshower games and the non pregnant had champange while my friend had sparkling grape juice.
It was the best babyshower I have been to and because she didn't know the sex of her baby it was great to wait until it was born to buy gifts, although some people brought gifts to the baby shower as well. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
Chloe 12/7/03 Miya 5/11/05 |
Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 21 August 2008 at 4:35pm
That is an even better idea for me being a second time mum. Have a welcome to the world afternoon tea. and meet n greet type thing...... thank you I think that's a great way of doing it.-------------
|
supazo wrote:Posted By: emachan
Date Posted: 21 August 2008 at 4:50pm
|
I'm having a baby shower in a couple of weeks time. My best friend is organising the games etc, but I sent out the invites and have asked guests to RSVP to her, also we're asking everyone to bring a plate - its just going to be a fun afternoon tea and have also invited kids along too. Not having it my place though -have borrowed my surf club for the afternoon so hoping it will be nice and sunny and then the kids (and others!) can go play on the beach! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  DD#1 Sept 08 DD#2 Oct 09 |
Posted By: kriss
Date Posted: 21 August 2008 at 4:52pm
|
i also wanted to have my shower once baby was born but tbh we really need help with getting baby's stuff, so mum is organising one on my behalf
------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
http://lilypie.com"> 
 Little Angel, April 10
|
Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 21 August 2008 at 5:27pm
thats really nice of her kriss. I needed help with stuff last time too, but not knowing the sex of the baby made things hard. we got a few outfits tho which was good. This time we don't need things, it mainly a buggy storn comver that i thought maybe if people asked, two or three of them could go in together to get us. lol. (they are really expensive for Phil N Teds  )-------------
|
Posted By: pikelets
Date Posted: 21 August 2008 at 7:07pm
Oooohhh - I like that sound of that one 
Dessert mmmmmm....  ------------- http://lilypie.com">
3 Angels - Dec10 / Mar11 / Dec11
|
Posted By: canuckmama
Date Posted: 22 August 2008 at 12:25am
|
I say go for it, and organise your own.. Then it'll be exactly what you want! My mom is throwing one for me next week (EARLY!) I'm visiting home (Canada) for a month and won't be around for the later stages. Having the best time helping her think up games though... Good luck!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
|
Posted By: gracebaby
Date Posted: 22 August 2008 at 8:37am
|
A girlfriend of mine had a baby shower register at the baby factory, where her 'guests' could go and choose a gift that they knew she actually needed. It did make it alot easier to choose a gift, and the gifts ranged from $3 - $200. So it kind of suited everyone's budget. For the bigger items - the grandparents bought those, or a few friends put in for the bigger gift. It's really just want ever you feel most comfortable with. You find that most people want to give you gifts that will actually be useful to you, so don't feel bad about having a register or if they ask, tell them.... afterall, there's only so many muslin cloths sets you really need!!!! I've always found it an honour to go to baby showers and celebrate the mum to be and the baby thats coming, and I've normally been the one that's offered to host the shower for them. I can't believe after nearly 6 years I'll be the 'guest of hounour 'at my own in a few months...yay!!! ------------- Gracebaby Married 6 Years 5 years TTC Started IVF in June 08 1 perfect embryo Our little miracle due 9th April |
Posted By: mamazozo
Date Posted: 22 August 2008 at 11:04am
|
aww gracebaby im so happy after all the years of your baby shower efforts you finally get to be at your own!! isnt it magic! Good stuff hun! ------------- |
Posted By: Crakleys
Date Posted: 22 August 2008 at 11:56am
|
I woudl love to hear what games you guys have had at your baby showers? Sounds great!
I love the dessert idea too. :) |
Posted By: gracebaby
Date Posted: 22 August 2008 at 12:26pm
|
1. Baby songs: in one/two minutes try and come up with as many songs with "baby" or "babe" in it. i.e "hey Baby" "be my baby tonight" "baby baby" "i got you babe" etc 2. Dough babies: 2 minutes to create the best looking baby from playdough 3. Guess the baby food: Number jars of baby food 1 - 5. each guest has own spoon and must guess what the baby food is i.e banana custard, lamb & veges etc (make sure the host knows the answers) 4. Put the nappy on the baby: on a baby doll, each person must put the cloth nappy on the baby complete with pins - blindfolded. Best time wins. The possibilies are endless - loads of laughs!!!! ------------- Gracebaby Married 6 Years 5 years TTC Started IVF in June 08 1 perfect embryo Our little miracle due 9th April |
Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 22 August 2008 at 1:15pm
|
wow that is so exciting you get to finally have one of your own! I found a list of fun things to do at a baby shower on the huggies website too -------------
|
Posted By: xLUCKYx
Date Posted: 22 August 2008 at 2:06pm
|
I had an awesome baby shower my friend threw for me at my place :)
The games we had were: Every person gets a piece of paper, has to hold it on their forehead and draw a baby on it. Believe me there were some funny pictures!! We had to peg the washing on the clothes horse, hold the baby and the phone at the same time while my friend had a pretend convo with them about REAL silly stuff! First to hang out whole basket wins! The good old lemon in stocking game - you wear a pair of stockings wrapped around your waist and there is a lemon in one of the feet that dangles in between your legs. You race with another contestant to bang another lemon (on the floor) across the finish line using the lemon in stocking. This gives lotsa hip thrust actions and lots of laughs!! MY FAVORITE - guess the poop - get a few different types of chocolate and melt into different disposable nappies. Pass them around and guests need to guess what sorta chocolate is in each nappy - very funny! Looks so real! |
Posted By: xLUCKYx
Date Posted: 22 August 2008 at 2:08pm
| We did the nappy on baby one too and then a stretch in grow over top but did it with two people per baby who could only use one hand each. We had 2 dolls going at once and the head fell off one of them haha that team got points deducted! |
Posted By: kmarie
Date Posted: 22 August 2008 at 5:18pm
|
We had a few games...
1. Guess how big my bump is? First they had to pick blue or pink wool depending on what they think I'll have. Then they had to cut a length they thought would match my bump
2. Everyone got three pegs to pin to themselves. Then there was a list of 5 'taboo' words: baby, boy, girl, cute, and I can't remember the last one. If you caught anyone saying one of those words you could take one of their pegs. Person with most pegs at the end wins. (We only did this for a little while, but I did it at another baby shower during gift opening time - that was hilarious!) 3. The good old "memory" game - look at a tray of 20 items for one minute, then try and write them all from memory. 4. At the baby shower my school put on, they also (among other things) made everyone bring a baby photo of themselves. Then we had to guess who was who! Another idea I was going to do at a friend's baby shower (then she went and had her bubs on the day, lol!) is good for if you don't know if you're having a boy or a girl. Offer everyone some lemonade as they come in the door from two different jugs - one with pink food colouring, one with blue. They pick the colour depending on what they think you'll have. Oh and last thing... I'm a bit sentimental at heart and like having things to make into my own version of a scrapbook. So at my baby shower my SIL put together little "All about me" cards for everyone to fill out for baby. Something like: What will my weight be? ________________________ Will I be a boy or a girl? ________________________ When will I be born? __________________________ Do you have a special message for me? _______________________________________________________ -------------
twins in heaven Oct07 Is 40:11 "He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart." |
Posted By: mellybelly
Date Posted: 09 October 2008 at 1:46pm
|
kmarie - i like the games you've listed above, some sound like a real hoot.
Not sure if i'll have a baby shower, kind of want one but don't have the energy to organise, also feel kind of weird asking a friend to organise.....no ones asked or offered...what should I do? ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
|
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 09 October 2008 at 2:18pm
|
Melly Belly - Havnt seen you at the dec thread for a while now? where have you been chica??
We have been talking about baby showers too there...just organise one. I am. Get your mum or aunt or MIL to help you so its not too much pressure on you. Get them to do the food....you buy the invites send them out to ppl. We have been discussing easy games and decor and guest gift as well so I can share my easy pizzy but cool ideas. Its not that hard...hun when you have a few helpers...doesnt have to be a friend...tho if you have a best friend you can just come out and say.."I am planning my BS and you are going to help!!" ------------- http://lilypie.com">
http://lilypie.com">
|
Posted By: Danaj
Date Posted: 09 October 2008 at 3:19pm
|
I'm not counting on friends doing it for me. They were supposed to sort my hens night last Feb before the wedding and I wound up rushing around trying to sort something out for girls that were flying in for it and nothing had been done. ------------- http://www.TickerFactory.com/weight-loss/wyI1oWn/"> 
|
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 09 October 2008 at 4:51pm
|
Oh no....Danaj,
My first baby shower was done by friends and they did an awesome job and didnt let me do any thing at all.....and I will aways treasure that! However me being the control freak that I am, I am planning this one to be different and in some case fancier....tho like I said I am not spending a huge amount of money on it!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
http://lilypie.com">
|
Posted By: mellybelly
Date Posted: 09 October 2008 at 4:58pm
|
been exhausted at night and have managed to sneak in here during work...ssshhhh....
problem is neither DH or I have family in the region, might talk with a friend on sunday and see if she'll give me a hand. will see how i feel tonight i might pop back on and check out dec thread, either that or the weekend. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
|
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 09 October 2008 at 5:19pm
|
Thats all good! good to see you on here any way and good to see that you and bub are well!
We are meeting up at Circus Circus on the 18th oct 12.30 if you wanna join us for Lunch and Dessert!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
http://lilypie.com">
|
Posted By: LG
Date Posted: 09 October 2008 at 6:54pm
|
I'm organising my own baby shower too because people (including my close friends) kept asking what i was going to do and no one else was offering. I've never been to one before so not sure what goes on but the games ideas are good. Im going to ask for name ideas too because we're stuck -------------  Angel Baby Aug '12, Feb '13 |
Posted By: Spirals
Date Posted: 09 October 2008 at 7:43pm
|
They sound great, a real lot of fun.
Being from the UK, baby showers are a very new and strange concept for me!! I think I'd feel pretty uncomfortable about having one - but that's probably just because I'm not used to the idea. |
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 09 October 2008 at 9:19pm
|
BS are great!! prior to me having my firstone I never attended one so had no idea what to expect ...I have to say I loved it! and you guys will too... ------------- http://lilypie.com">
http://lilypie.com">
|
Posted By: Aithne
Date Posted: 13 October 2008 at 6:40pm
|
Im organising my own one.
Mostly because this is my first pregnancy and i want to enjoy all the aspects of it, and be able to say i had a baby shower. And also sadly enough my aunty that was going to organise it for me passed away suddenly last month, so i want to do this in rememberence of her. Its also a good excuse to see all my friends and to have fun !! Im just going to have a BBQ lunch or something. |