Don’t Tell Me Day
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Topic: Don’t Tell Me Day
Posted By: TraceyA
Subject: Don’t Tell Me Day
Date Posted: 08 July 2008 at 8:39am
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I just want to yell a few things at the world right now:
DON'T TELL ME: - it will happen - when it's the right time - when your ready - when your in the right place - to concentrate on other things - to JUST RELAX - to think about other things - to stop obsessing - that when you did XYZ it happened - women get pregnant all the time - about another pregnant person you/I know - it takes time DON'T GET MY HOPES UP - I'm allowed to feed my obsession but your not allowed to - or tell me "you told me so" - or tell me that I got yours up this time If you would like to add your own scream please do, please DO NOT reply with hugs and encouragement and words of wisdom, this is a screaming space, sometimes we all just need to vent without words of wisdom from others. And please, if you read this don't take it personally, this is aimed at the general cosmos and not at wonderful individuals. ------------- TTC #2 |
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Posted By: AngieBabe
Date Posted: 08 July 2008 at 9:01am
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AAAAAAAAAAAAARGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHH!
Just wanted to add a general scream as all I want to say comes out all at once a garbled mess!  ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  
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Posted By: Konagirl
Date Posted: 08 July 2008 at 9:24am
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UUUUUUUUUUUUUUUGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
Don't tell me it'll happen when it's meant to happen. I will poke out your eyes. |
Posted By: NeoshasMummy
Date Posted: 08 July 2008 at 10:36am
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-It will happen when you least expect it
-At least you have one baby WTF??!!!!!! ARRRGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHH I feel better now ------------- https://secure.fertilityfriend.com/home/30c4ec/" rel="nofollow">  Mrs Te Kani ❤️ Neosha 26/5/2007 |
Posted By: Emmecat
Date Posted: 08 July 2008 at 12:48pm
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AAARRRRGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH I don't care if it'll happen when I 'least expect it'!!! I want it to happen NOW!!!!! and HOW F*&%^$ HARD IS IT???? THERE'S ONLY ONE BLOODY WAY FOR THE LITTLE GUYS TO GO!!!!! GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR -------------   http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 08 July 2008 at 12:56pm
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Why dont you wait a bit longer ? if it doesnt happen right away , its ok .....
wait longer ???? ive been waiting for 6years !!! why dont people , with their well meaning advice, walk in other peoples shoes?or just shutup ? |
Posted By: AngieBabe
Date Posted: 08 July 2008 at 12:57pm
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Here here!! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 08 July 2008 at 12:57pm
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oh and like Neoshas mum " at least you have one baby "
um,yeah , and i would like another, does that make me a criminal ?? |
Posted By: NeoshasMummy
Date Posted: 08 July 2008 at 1:05pm
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Oh what about the
" Hi how are you? Has it happened yet?" No not yet A week later.... "hey!!! Any sign of a the next one yet?" No not quite " Oh never mind" A few weeks later " Gee its taking its time isnt it, well it will happen when the time is right" yes an I am mentally gauging your eyes out 
After a M/c "Oh well it just wasnt ment to be" Alright SOMEBODY hold me back!!!! ------------- https://secure.fertilityfriend.com/home/30c4ec/" rel="nofollow"> Mrs Te Kani ❤️ Neosha 26/5/2007 |
Posted By: mummymegs
Date Posted: 08 July 2008 at 4:49pm
I'm starting to think that it is a myth that you need to BD to get PG. Somebody is having a laugh!!! ok...what are the pg girls not telling us.
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Posted By: Two Blondinis
Date Posted: 08 July 2008 at 5:12pm
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you know what the problem is.... MEN! Want anything done, do it yourself
If women could get pregnant all on their own (without test tubes and turkey basters lol) then the world would be bursting at the seams. Thought I would add a light heart rant 
I feel your pain ladies, been there done that and stupidly enough about to put myself through it all over again (and I can't wait!!!!!!!!!  )------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
 
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Posted By: Vanillabean
Date Posted: 08 July 2008 at 6:04pm
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Here goes; While ttc have you thought about taking your temperature? My sister went on holiday to fiji and got pregnant Maybe you should stop trying so hard Maybe you should try harder I really thought it would have happened by now, have you thought about seeing a specialist? After m/c #1 At least you can get pregnant Things could be worse, I know someone who's dying of ovarian cancer You won't get pregnant the first month after a m/c, I didn't and I'm superfertile After m/c #2 This is just a hiccup You must be disappointed F**********************************************k !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ------------- 5x mc, Jan 08, June 08, Nov 08, May 09, April 11 http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 08 July 2008 at 6:38pm
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My favs:
At least you know you can get pregnant Your only 28, you've got plenty of time (to which I now reply, tell that to my mum who start going through menopause at 31!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!) Everything happens for a reason I think you should see a Gynie Well even if you are sad you must pretend to be happy (WTF) ARRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHH Why wont you all just shut up and mind your own business! -------------   
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Posted By: lovingmummyhood
Date Posted: 08 July 2008 at 6:51pm
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Great idea Tracey!
Along the same lines as someone else said - how's 'it' going? Well I'd bl**dy well tell you if it was going somewhere! And I'm so over the 'It'll happen when its meant to happen'. Yeah, well its meant to happen now!! It'll take longer than you expect - no freaking kidding!!! Don't think about it and it'll happen - yeah, cause I can just do that! and also pretty much everything everyone else said!!
Thanks Tracey  ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: tibby
Date Posted: 09 July 2008 at 4:46pm
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Say to yourself everyday " l deserve to be happy" - WTF!!!!!!!!
Everytime, l have a headache, feel sick, sneeze, fart etc ,"are you pregnant?" NO l'm F@#$*ng NOT!!! |
Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 09 July 2008 at 7:02pm
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OH and the your not drinking, are you pregnant?
Umm no, I just dont feel like booze today.... -------------
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 09 July 2008 at 10:54pm
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how about " your lucky anyway , why anyone would want to be pregnant is beyond me , i was sick as a dog, and my back was killing me .....johnny ! dont put the cat in the fire ! ...why do you want kids anyway ?"
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Posted By: Emily281
Date Posted: 11 July 2008 at 6:18pm
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My favourite:
From someone who started trying about the same time as me but got her BFP about 4 months ago ... right after she got her BFP and I'd just been told by my doctor that I had to try for another 12 months before I could see a specialist: "Just hold on it will happen for you one day I know it will. I don't know if you're religious or not but I beleive God has a plan for us all and you will get pg when He wants you to" Leaving out the religious part 'cause I'd hate to start a theological argument ... I just wanted to smack the smug cow around the head ------------- TTC#1: Jan 07 Aug 08: Lap found and excised Stage 3 Endo Nov 08: 2nd lap clear - given OK to TTC after next AF |
Posted By: Emily281
Date Posted: 11 July 2008 at 6:21pm
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Oh and I'm with you Mel on the not drinking thing. work had arranged a girls night out last week after work (well starting at 4:30 ) and when I said I wasn't going I had TWO people ask if I was knocked up. No I'm working late, I'm on anti-biotics and I have AF so I'm about to start taking some pretty cool painkillers so DO NOT ASK ME IF I'm $%%&^$&^* PREGNANT!!!
But I no longer have AF so I'm mostly down to just annoyed now  ------------- TTC#1: Jan 07 Aug 08: Lap found and excised Stage 3 Endo Nov 08: 2nd lap clear - given OK to TTC after next AF |
Posted By: monikah
Date Posted: 11 July 2008 at 6:44pm
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oh but its only been 7 months and you look after 2 beautiful children all day ----> 7 months can seem like a long time and i love them with all my heart but they arent MY kids!!!! ------------- 
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 11 July 2008 at 10:06pm
i think im one of the "got breathed on and got pregnant " as far as Caitlyn was concerned, but i dont think that will happen this time , murphys law and all but oh my god that people are stupid enough to say its for the dole ! for fs sake !!! |
Jezsika wrote:Posted By: TraceyA
Date Posted: 16 July 2008 at 7:59am
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The latest one - "Your so busy and have so many fiddly interests, if you got pregnant you'd have to stop them all, so maybe it's a good thing." WTF!
2 pages of venting, don't you just love it! Jezsika - yay you for standing up to him, I'm glad he said it to you, just because sometimes people need to be put in their place ------------- TTC #2 |
Posted By: Lexidore
Date Posted: 24 March 2009 at 10:57pm
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Thought i might bump this thread up as i can imagine there are a few of us in the TTC threads at the moment that could use it!! ------------- 
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Posted By: WestiesGirl
Date Posted: 24 March 2009 at 11:58pm
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Hehe I remember this thread!!! Rant away I say ------------- Our Angel July 08  Gone but not forgotten
And to complete our family, our princess has arrived 
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 12:14am
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We didnt really tell anyone we were TTC so I didnt get any comments, thank goodness. But I can imagine how annoying they are, just like the ones you get while pregnant grr
But, its so hard knowing what to say to someone who is ttc, you tend to say things like what most have you have stated cos you dont know what else to say lol. ------------- |
Posted By: Nutella
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 12:41am
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Yes I could use it!
But not for venting at other people,maybe for venting at my own stupid bloody ideas every month that I am going to be miraculously pregnant when really my small and tiny brain knows that it is so not going to happen and why do I flippin set myself up for blinkin disappointment. Every bloody month....grrrrrrrrrr I hate myself for it!!!!! 
And luckily none of you can say awww it will be alright coz not allowed in this forum right! ------------- 
Oct 11
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Posted By: asicsgal
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 7:06am
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LOL this is a great thread, I am sure many of us will be able to have a good scream.
When I had the chem preg last month this is what the doctor said to me. He was a dumb ars.... and not the doctor I've seen before but I've sworn off them and refuse to go back so now have to find another doctor, (It's a medical centre). Now don't get all worried thinking about your age and the clock ticking! What a F....WIT!!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: LouD
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 8:24am
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Awesome!!!
IM SO OVER SEX!!!!!!! IM SO OVER SO CALLED FRIENDS WHO ARE NEVER THERE FOR YOU WHEN YOU NEED THEM THE MOST IM OVER THIS BLOODY WAIT, then GETTING PG ONLY TO THEN HAVE A MC IM OVER NOT HAVING ANY CONTROL OVER THIS SITUATION IM OVER NOT HAVING A SIBLING FOR MY SON IM OVER MY DH TELLING ME THAT NEXT TIME I CANT TELL ANYONE IM PREG, EVEN ANYONE ON HERE.................TRY AND STOP ME BUDDY, IM ONLY SURVIVING BECAUSE I HAVE MY OB SUPPORT IM OVER MY DH NOT GETTING OFF HIS ARSE AND DOING SOMETHING ABOUT HIS WORKING LIFE AND ALWAYS TELLING ME AN IDEA THEN EXPECTING ME TO DO ALL THE GROUND WORK FOR HIM THEN HIM NOT EVER DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT BUT JUST TALK.............BUDDY YOUVE BEEN TALKING FOR 9 YEARS NOW..........STOP WAITING FOR YOUR LIFE TO BE HANDED TO YOU GIFT WRAPPED WITH A SILVER BOW, ONLY YOU CAN CHANGE THINGS NO ONE ELSE STUPID STUPID STUPID DEPO I HAAAAAATTTTTEEEEEE YOU!!!!!! hmmmmm that feels so much better |
Posted By: Crakleys
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 9:00am
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This thread is awesome! Kinda encouraging that heaps of the girls from the start are now pg - and I remember them all! arrrgh! Yeo, still here!!!!!
The one that annoys me is a friend that keeps saying "oh but you'll probably have a baby then" when she knows it's not happening for me!!! |
Posted By: Lizze
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 9:11am
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A little bit different but I keep getting..
So, It must be your turn to have kids now? Are you guys ever going to start a family? and when I mention that we have talked about it Oh, but surely you'd get married first?!?! THREE PEOPLE SO FAR!! My DP has enough stress and anxiety without me bringing up marriage at the moment. I consider myself lucky it was his idea to start ttc in the first place. And I don't want to be one of those girls who has to ask him to marry me. One day it will happen! |
Posted By: Lizze
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 9:15am
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Oh and the DEPO comments....
-Why are you spending money on alternative medicine, surely it's just a matter of waiting for it to happen?? -So do you regret going on the DEPO now?? -I don't know why people go to so much effort, it'll happen when it's supposed to happen. |
Posted By: Emily281
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 11:25am
Yeah me too! Oh wait a minute I was one of the girls from the start! ... and ya know what .... I'm still getting the same f#%^&ing comments
The scariest thing for me is seeing how far along some of these women are  ------------- TTC#1: Jan 07 Aug 08: Lap found and excised Stage 3 Endo Nov 08: 2nd lap clear - given OK to TTC after next AF |
Posted By: GuestGuest
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 12:22pm
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Oh man, lizze, that reminds me of everyone who always asks when we are going to have kids. Like we are strange that we don't have any. That p***sses me off that people think that we NEED to have kids. I have taken to saying "we don't like children". That usually shuts them up.
The other day I told my DH's gran that we were still thinking about it and she said "Well you're not going to get pregnant just by thinking about it!!" Really?
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Posted By: asicsgal
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 12:52pm
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OMG OMG
How about, ...... -You are putting too much pressure on yourself -Just relax and it will happen Re: Charting -You know too much!!!! Lizzie, having a child together is far more of a commitment in my eyes than marriage, DH & I arn't married or engaged (it's on the cards for next year), and blowed if I am waiting for marriage to have a baby!!!! Chickiou (Louise) LOL I think you would have a mutany on your hands if you couldn't talk to us Oh Baby chicks. We'd be down in Otaki giving your DH a good talking to, he he he!!  ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Lexidore
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 1:03pm
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I got asked that question too after miscarrying then telling a friend we were going to try again. "Why not marriage first??" (I wouldnt have been married by the time that baby had come anyways even if it had stuck) Got quite a lot of comments to do with miscarrying that others have mentioned plus....
"oh cant have been the right time at least now you dont have to worry" "I think you would be better off losing weight first!" "Surely your too young" (from parents/grandparents who both had their first kids @ 18-19 I am 23) "I wish you would settle down first" (grandmother... how am i not settled down) Oh and all the comments from people who think they know when your most fertile but are sadly misguided "just make sure you have sex right before AF" "have more sex" "dont have as much sex" and i could probably go on for hours!! -------------
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Posted By: Lizze
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 1:21pm
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ohh i got the weight comment too, from my mum!
She said that our whole family get elephant thighs when they get pregnant, and i should lose a couple of kilos before even trying. And I'm not fat! I would like to lost 5kg to be at a weight I enjoy, but I still look small. And then yesterday 'ohhhh you've lost weight!!' Well actually no i haven't, and I haven't been even trying, I just made an effort to dress nicely this morning |
Posted By: asicsgal
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 1:35pm
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What is it about the marriage thing I wonder, I mean for me it is important but I'm happy to wait. I come from a Christian family and even when I told Dad that we were ttc surprizingly he didn't say anything like that. (You are not supposed to even have sex before marriage). I think he knows that we are very happy and DH and I will be together till we are old and grey LOL!! Plus as a family we've been through a lot so maybe he knew not to say anything like that.
Life has very much changed over the years. Like when we actually have a bubba I will have to go back to work otherwise we'd never be able to afford morgage etc, one income just won't be enough. I'd love to stay at home but it's not just possible. Still there are plenty of people who say Well we did it back in our day. Some times Mum's say the worst things, I am sure if my Mum was still alive she'd have something to say about our ttc efforts LOL!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Emily281
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 1:54pm
It really annoys me when people judge you for going back to work. There's a guy I work with (who knows how long we have been TTC) and I've said how I will have to go back to work after we have a baby (IF we have a baby!!) and he keeps lecturing me on how if you can't afford to stay at home and raise your kids yourself then you shouldn't have them .... GRRRRRR. Welcome to the 21st century moron .... not everyone CAN afford to stay home these days. And Ok, my DH and I could live off just his wage if we really HAD to but I just don't see that we have to. I'd like to be a SAHM, but at the same time I think it might drive me insane! Maybe I'll just work part time, but either way its MY choice and if I do choose to go back to work full-time it doesn't mean I love my baby any less or that they would be getting sub-standard care ------------- TTC#1: Jan 07 Aug 08: Lap found and excised Stage 3 Endo Nov 08: 2nd lap clear - given OK to TTC after next AF |
Posted By: GuestGuest
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 2:08pm
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[/QUOTE]he keeps lecturing me on how if you can't afford to stay at home and raise your kids yourself then you shouldn't have them .... GRRRRRR. Welcome to the 21st century moron .... not everyone CAN afford to stay home these days. And Ok, my DH and I could live off just his wage if we really HAD to but I just don't see that we have to. I'd like to be a SAHM, but at the same time I think it might drive me insane! [/QUOTE]
I had exactly the same conversation (I mean argument with my dad Emily. I said that I would like to go back to work at least part time after I have a baby because I think being a SAHM would drive me insane. And he said "well if the baby is going to drive you insane then you shouldn't have one!" People of his generation just don't get it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Posted By: Lexidore
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 2:13pm
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I will not be able to be a full-time SAHM either, i will be probably studying full-time and working part-time. May not start the working part-time as well until Baby is over a year but will still be at uni! And that is all so that i can go back to work full-time once ive got my qual!
We will struggle while i am at uni even though i will qualify for an allowance by then being over 24 by that stage. There will be no luxuries just the essentials. -------------
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Posted By: millysmum
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 2:35pm
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oh this thread is great. Even my sister who is really keen for me to have a baby keeps telling me that i've got plenty of time etc. The day they decided to come off the pill she got pg, she's now decided to come off it to try for #2 and i'm sure she'll get pg straght away again. She is 8 year older than me so she thinks that it's more important for her to get pg asap than me but she hasn't been wanting a bubba for year and years like me! We have only been trying for a few months but i've been wanting bubba for almost 5 years!!!! (only just been allowed to try recently) ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: karenm
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 3:51pm
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This is a brillant thread!!!!
Think I've had most of the comments at least once and unfortunately some more than once especially "it was probably for the best" and "I can't begin to imagine how you're feeling" ...........after 2 m/c you're damn right they can't!!!!
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Posted By: karenm
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 3:55pm
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opps - just re-read my post and that sounded a lot harsher than I meant it to. I know people mean well but it doesn't make it any less heartbreaking or frustrating.
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Posted By: Emily281
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 4:34pm
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that's ok Karen ... this thread is where we can be harsh and say things that we probably wouldn't say to the people saying insensitive stuff to us! ------------- TTC#1: Jan 07 Aug 08: Lap found and excised Stage 3 Endo Nov 08: 2nd lap clear - given OK to TTC after next AF |
Posted By: asicsgal
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 5:49pm
Amen to that, I will be lucky that hopefully if DH goes back to shift work he can look after bubba for three/ four days a week as he will be working 3 day shifts, 3 night shifts and three days off. Plus I can work a bit from home so not so bad for me. I need extra brain stimulation so I'd have to do something else anyway. I just can't wait to have a bubba.  ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: _Soda_
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 6:04pm
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OOH ME ME!
"Well i bet once you have babies you wont want to work with them in your job anymore!" What if i do? is it your business? i actually LIKE my job you know!its not like i do my job to make up for the fact i dont have kids- its because i want to make a difference and i love what i do! "why do you want kids? you get to work with them all day and you still get to sleep in on weekends! I bet your job is the best contraception around" You REALLY think being a preschool teacher is equal to the maternal love you have for your own children? maybe i WANT to have a decent reason to get out of bed on the weekends! for someone other than myself!!! You have heaps of time, youre only 24 GRRRR! its MY choice when i decide its right for me to have children, i DONT want to choose to be 60 and still have my children at home- i want to be a young-ish grandma one day! you DONT know my situation and my reasons behind it, leave me alone! dont have children yet, you should go on a good 2 year OE and see the world and experience life before settling down and getting "Stuck" with children!" OMG PEOPLE! I DONT WANT TO TRAVEL THE WORLD! ILL HAPPILY DO THAT WITH MY CHILDREN WHEN THEY ARE OLDER IN SMALL SPURTS IF WE CHOOSE TO THEN!!! I DONT WANT TO SEE THE WORLD AND "EXPERIENCE LIFE"! I WANT TO BRING UP A FAMILY AND EXPERIENCE WHY LIFE IS WORTH LIVING!" omg...maybe you shouldnt have got me started! i could go on and on for aaaaages lol! GRRRR!
ahhhhh that felt good thanks!------------- My little miracle 6/1/2011 My angel in Heaven 9/5/14 http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: _Soda_
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 6:07pm
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ALSO, like how people get made to feel guilty for going back to work, i also have had a few guilt trips for being able to stay home with my kids! theres a reason we havent had them yet, and thats coz i want to be in the situation where i can be a SAHM or work only a few hours. and i am working my a$$ off to pay my debts and achieve my dream. i wont feel guilty for that. and i dont think anyone should feel guilty for ANY decision they make about their family in regards to the work/not work situation. man, life is tough enough as it is without being judged for doing what is right or what is the only option!
again... GRRRRRR ------------- My little miracle 6/1/2011 My angel in Heaven 9/5/14 http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: asicsgal
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 9:01pm
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You just can't win sometimes aye. Dammed if you do and dammed if you don't. (SAHM or not SAHM)I'm sure we will all get way more fecked up WTF comments yet. If these comments didn't hurt so much at times they would be a total crack up, and don't you just want to turn around to some of these people and just say WTF!!!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: LouD
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 10:06pm
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One more i hate..............At least you have two boys already
Yes my heart goes out to people who are having trouble TTC #1 but my yearn for a sibling for my youngest son is so great it aches!!! my feelings are not any less because i already have two kids!!!! I would love to be a SAHM but i also would lose myself if i did which wouldnt be any good for my children........both my DS have been in care of some sort since 10mnths old part time then full time after they were 1 and they are the most well rounded, well behaved, loveable children, and love daycare, every day i go to pick my son up he doesnt want to leave because hes having so much fun......the social skills and development he has got from this is not something i would have been able to give him by staying at home......... I do wish i could afford a slightly better balance with work and home, but unfortunately you have to work enough hours to make it worth the while working |
Posted By: Lexidore
Date Posted: 26 March 2009 at 9:21am
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AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAGGGGGGGGGGGGG HHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!! -------------
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Posted By: Roses are Red
Date Posted: 26 March 2009 at 11:52am
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DH saying "I don't want a child, we have two already "(mine from prev relationship).
I don't friggin care that we have two already, I want another one, I want to have a child with someone that is actually a good father and loves their child and doesnt use them as a pawn in mind games. I want to have that connection that having a child gives you and i want our marriage to feel whole as there is something missing and that is our child. I want you to do this for me, i do so much for you and its about time that I won something that we disagreed on for once... And when I do get pregnant, because it IS going to happen sometime I want you to be as excited as I am!!!!!!!!!!! AAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Ah, that feels better, I feel sorry for my keyboard though lol. Oh and DH I love ya xxx ------------- 
Angel March 2011
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Posted By: asicsgal
Date Posted: 26 March 2009 at 2:51pm
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After an early miscarriage......
Don't think of it as a baby It wasn't meant to be It was for the best, there must have been something wrong... Well, why did there have to be something wrong, why couldn't I have just had a healthy bubba!!!!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: RinTinTin
Date Posted: 26 March 2009 at 3:55pm
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Oh my turn.
The common ones I get are: "It'll happen when it happens"Well no s%#$ sherlock! "Why don't you travel the world first, do your OE?" Because I don't want to. Is that a good enough answer for you? "You're still young" And your point is?!! And my all time favourite: "What do you want kids for?" Cause I'm human!!! DAH! Oh that feels good. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: PixieL
Date Posted: 27 March 2009 at 9:43pm
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SO when I was actually PG (ended in MC at 11 1/2 weeks)
Oh you're not drinking are you PG? If I was and I wanted you to know, I would have told you! I'm of the firm belief you should never comment on an assumed PG unless you can actually see the baby's head coming out of the vagina!!!! |
Posted By: Lexidore
Date Posted: 27 March 2009 at 9:56pm
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Hahaha Pixie I Love it!!! -------------
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Posted By: _Soda_
Date Posted: 29 March 2009 at 3:56pm
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omg pixie its soo true! i was working at a beer festival of all places- and a woman iwas working with for the day, who before that day id never seen in my life blurts out "ok, im just going to ask, how many weeks are you?" OMFG! im NOT PREGNANT! do i look pregnant? i dont think i do. yes i go to the toilet lots- havent you noticed the 3 bottles of water ive consumed this morning in an effort to be healthy? not to mention the BEER ive been drinking- seeing as its a BEER festival do you really think a pregnant woman would be standing behind a stand with a pint of BEER in her hand? far out. some people..
another thing that drives me mad- hasnt happened to me coz im NOT pregnant (if you didnt get that from the above rant lol) but when people think they have the automatic right to feel a pregnant womans stomach. i think its horrible how suddenly your body becomes everyones property once you have a life growing inside it!
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Posted By: Lexidore
Date Posted: 29 March 2009 at 4:03pm
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I've got another
"just get drunk and have sex it worked three times for me" Gah... -------------
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Posted By: Nutella
Date Posted: 29 March 2009 at 9:43pm
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What about (after having tried completely unsuccessfully to get even slightly pregnant for 18 months):
'Don't worry, it will happen even if it takes a while.' When someone else gets pregnant: 'It will be your turn next' What if this is all crap and it never happens. I have never been pregnant in my life and to be honest and getting bloody scared that it is never going to happen. Why can't other people acknowledge that instead of just saying it will happen when they don't bloody well know that. Why can't somone say to me, I can understand how scared you are that you might never have children. When I write that down, I see how ridiculous that sounds as who the hell would ever say that to someone trying but bloody hell...it is in fact a possibility. -------------
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Posted By: RinTinTin
Date Posted: 29 March 2009 at 9:50pm
 Aw Nat!!!
There is always a way to be a mother. My Aunty was never supposed to be able to have children and last year she had a lovely baby girl using IVF treatment. She also has an adopted son. My SIL as never supposed to be able to have kids and she has 3 boys. I'm sorry, those must be horrible cliches that you probably don't want to hear. I can only imagine how painfully hard it must be for you wondering if you will ever get your chance. All of the OHBaby girls will always be here for you though. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: PixieL
Date Posted: 29 March 2009 at 9:55pm
We understand Nat
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Posted By: Lexidore
Date Posted: 29 March 2009 at 9:56pm
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Hugs Nat thats all i can say!! HUGS!! -------------
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Posted By: Nutella
Date Posted: 29 March 2009 at 10:18pm
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Waa thanks guys...just in a very negative mood today and sooooo wish I could just munch down a giant chocolate bar haha! Stupid old diet. -------------
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Posted By: Emily281
Date Posted: 30 March 2009 at 10:58am
Wouldn't bet on it Toni. I got so mad the other night because we came out of the rugby to see a very obviously pregnant (I'd say at least 6-7 months) person lighting up a cigarette. Not to mention the pregnant woman who got caught drink driving the other week - 3 times over the legal limit and she was driving because she was the least drunk! Nat - I know how you feel. Sometimes I just want to tell my mother and MIL to shut up when they tell me it will happen. I've been where you are - in that really negative mood. A few months ago my surgeon told me not to worry it will happen and I was like "yeah right, how the f%#% do you know". Fortunately I kept my mouth shut though
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Posted By: 2boysnbug
Date Posted: 30 March 2009 at 11:29am
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all we heard from hubbys work mates was "At least ya have fun trying! " yeah really sexy and romantic when its ya mucus/calendar/temperature telling you when to b0nk! ------------- DS1 (20.11.06) 5 years DS2 (15.09.09) 2 years http://www.beginnerbaby.com/ticker/"> 
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Posted By: Lexidore
Date Posted: 30 March 2009 at 1:19pm
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Haha JDs soo true!! like the most romantic line in the world is
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Posted By: LMSunshine
Date Posted: 30 March 2009 at 9:41pm
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ooh ooh. let me join. "it's perfectly normal to want a a baby. I felt that way myself. It'll happen when it's the right time" coming from my SIL who got pregnant after what, 3 months? Isn't funny how it's the ones with kids who're convinced it'll happen, but don't seem to understand how important NOW is? Grrr... Sometimes I just wanna scream. Ooh, and to top it off. Now all we ever hear about is the baby. As if I need to be reminded constantly about something I want so badly.
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Posted By: Bunny
Date Posted: 30 March 2009 at 10:06pm
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My two cents:
But you have two children who have virtualy left home - why on earth would you want to start again!! Oh I don't know - BECAUSE I WANT TO, MY DP AND I WANT A BABY OF OUR OWN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ETA: Cos shouldn't have been feeling so sorry for myself 
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Posted By: Crakleys
Date Posted: 31 March 2009 at 11:20am
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Oooh girls, I hate that "have fun trying" thing - it is SO not fun! It sucks all the fun out of it and ruins your s%x life - LOL!
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Posted By: FreeSpirit
Date Posted: 31 March 2009 at 4:49pm
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Don't blinking tell me that "we already have one and she's perfect, I don't want another" You don't bl***y help with this child, what difference will it make to you if I have another? How much do I ask for? How much do you spend on her? Oh, that's right, nearly $300 in 8 months!!!! Give me a break you selfish person. aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrggggghhhhh.
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