To those of you with 3 kids
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Topic: To those of you with 3 kids
Posted By: Beani
Subject: To those of you with 3 kids
Date Posted: 21 June 2008 at 10:04pm
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Hello,
I have two wonderful children and can't stop thinking about having another one. Dh said if I really want another that is fine with him and we are not planning to ttc for awhile. MIL told me however that the third one puts a spanner in the works and that two would be much better. I was just wondering what others experiences of having 3 kids are? I am sure I would be happy with just 2 but I can't help feeling my family is not complete. |
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Posted By: Mazzy
Date Posted: 21 June 2008 at 10:06pm
I don't have three, I'm still adjusting to two, but have heard and read many times that the move from two to three kids is much easier than from one to two. Just thought I'd throw that out there! Anyone who actually has three kids feel free to discredit me!   ------------- Mum to two gorgeous girls! |
Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 21 June 2008 at 10:12pm
i'm interested to see what people think too.....i'm soooooo yearning for #3.....but the only yearning DH has is for the snip!
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Posted By: Mazzy
Date Posted: 21 June 2008 at 10:14pm
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Hah! We should have our DH's talk to each other - I'm the one here who is thinking no more, while DH seems like he's keen for another!
The birth is still too fresh in my mind - NO WAY! ------------- Mum to two gorgeous girls! |
Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 21 June 2008 at 10:32pm
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Ummm I love it. I however had the advantage the my kids all have HUGE age gaps... wasn't my ideal, but you get what you're given.
Conor is wonderful with both kids. Nyah occasionally does suffer from middle child syndrome and Cooper is so cruisey he had no choice but to fit in with us. I think if you are wanting #3 think of the dynamics etc of how #3 will fit into your lifestyle. Also can you afford it? Do you have the room? TBH I don't think I could have had them all close together, it would have done my head in. ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: Candkids
Date Posted: 21 June 2008 at 10:48pm
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were looking at #3 too, although technically that would be #4 ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  DD 10.5yrs DS 6yrs DS 11mths 5 little angles watching from above |
Posted By: mum2emj
Date Posted: 22 June 2008 at 7:06am
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i LOVED having 3 my 3rd wee girl fitted into the family really well- her big sisters looked out for her and accepted her. i found the transition pretty easy from 2 to 3. my gaps were:
1-2 18 months 2-3 27 months after a while though i did start to think that an even number would be better so that kaz didnt get left out and i have just had my 4th 
i couldnt imagine my family without any of my children... |
Posted By: arohanui
Date Posted: 22 June 2008 at 8:25am
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I don't have 3 kids but my friend does (fairly close together too - all preschoolers). She said it was SO much easier going from 2 to 3, than it was for 1 to 2...... ------------- Mama to DS1 (5 years), DS2 (3 years) and... http://alterna-tickers.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 22 June 2008 at 8:26am
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we have the room at home, jack's room is big enough for 2 kids...but we'd have to get a new car, come type of people mover, which DH does not like! ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com">
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Posted By: Kelpa
Date Posted: 22 June 2008 at 9:19am
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Hmmm well given that number 3 is definitely on the way...and might I add has caused MAJOR havoc with my body than either of the others....I cant quite make up my mind!!! Sometimes "Oooh cant wait to meet him"...sometimes think "OMG"...what are we doing given all the price increases...extra nappies...food...etc. We were definitely thinking we need a new car but just cant afford it now so will be making do with my car.....If we go out as a family well we might be a bit tight! Poor old Paige will have to squeeze in between her two little brothers car seats. Paige is a huge help but I sometimes feel bad she is not getting enough time .....
I think for the next couple of years it will be madness and quite hard work but DH & I generally very good team so will no doubt puddle through it all and out the other end! Do wonder if we will both have the energy!!!!!! -------------  
 
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Posted By: ellen
Date Posted: 22 June 2008 at 9:56am
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I'm going against the trend so far. For me going from 2 to 3 was as hard as going from none to one.
1-2 = 3yrs 3 months 2-3 = 2yrs 3 months Maybe it was because the age gap was smaller, maybe because I had one at school, one at kindy and trying to fit sleeps for the baby around that. The first year was definitely the hardest, but like you I didn't feel my family was complete with two. Having a bigger car wasn't so much of a problem until they were bigger and harder to separate. But I love having three kids - and like I say it was a tough first year but for me it was a tough first year with my eldest so it's more a reflection on how I coped rather than the kids themselves. |
Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 22 June 2008 at 10:00am
cloth is an option to save you $$  ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com">
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Kelpa wrote:Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 22 June 2008 at 10:27am
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We didn't bother getting a new car, we did look into but decided to stick with the Caldina. Conor sits behind the DH, Nyah in the middle and Cooper behind me. ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3)
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Posted By: mum2emj
Date Posted: 22 June 2008 at 11:09am
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we got a new car- the people mover kind because it was the easiest option for us with all kids still in carseats at the time and it had the added bonus of spare seats for my parents etc.. and then once the 4th came along there was no problem for seating lol.
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Posted By: 2bmumof3
Date Posted: 22 June 2008 at 1:58pm
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So far I'm loving having 3 kids and would agree the going from 2-3 is easier than from 1-2. We weren't planning the 3rd but now feel like our family is more complete. When number 3 came along my eldest was 3 1/2 and 2nd 2yrs 1 month so all quite close. Don't get me wrong it has it's moments where all 3 decide that they need you at once and you feel like pulling your hair out but that happens with 2 also. As for the car we went and got a good old odyssey to enable room for extras when needed. Although one very ugly car it's definately practicle. ------------- Sara Corban (22/11/04) Connor (18/04/06) Chelsea (21/05/08) 
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Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 22 June 2008 at 3:42pm
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I have 3 but like Mel all three are years apart. 3 to us isn't much different to 2. Rhyley just fitted in with everyone else.
Dh has said he'd have another - but I said NO... ------------- Ann 
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Posted By: my4beauties
Date Posted: 22 June 2008 at 4:39pm
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Gia was 22 months when Jett was born, and was just getting easier to manage with her & Rico. Put Jett into it, and I had barely enough energy to look after the 3 of them, even now!
BUT I love having 3 kids! I'm glad Jett came along when he did. But I don't think things are easy by any means, I'm busy all the time. ------------- My babies: R (9),G (7), J (5) http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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I wouldn't say going from 2-3 was easier, as it made things much more busier, but I had more confidence in what I was doing 3rd time. I didn't stress as much about feedtimes, and let baby tell me when he was ready. Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 22 June 2008 at 7:19pm
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I found the transition from 2-3 easier than 1-2 because I already had systems in place, etc, and was gaining confidence. That's not to say that three is easy though, it's a lot of work to keep up with all their different developments! But I want another, so it can't be all bad.... cluck cluck cluck -------------  |
Posted By: Beani
Date Posted: 22 June 2008 at 9:30pm
| Thanks everyone. I find it quite busy with 2 so I can imagine 3 will be very busy. I didn't find it too bad going from 1 to 2 but found it really hard going from 0 to 1. It was a big shock to the system. We would have to get a bigger car as well. My 2nd has multiple allergies so we will be having a bigger gap between her and the next one. I was just curious as to how others have found having three. I like to plan ahead. |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 22 June 2008 at 9:55pm
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i found one child a piece of cake, two a pain and three - well she just has to slot in where she can. but i think i lot has to do with the personalities of the child too. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 23 June 2008 at 12:06pm
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I don't know what it's like with two coz my 2 and 3 came as a package deal, but it's definitely full on! I just keep telling myself that the crazy baby stage only lasts for such a short time, particularly since #4 is about t be thrown in the mix.
The hardest part for me has been coping with toddlers whilst being pregnant. I don't have good pregnancies and I have found myself resenting the baby more than once for making me feel too crappy to really enjoy the other three kids. But again, it is only a short stage and will all be over soon. We did go with a people mover when we went from 1 -3, I had a tiny Polo which we had to sell anyway so we figured might as well do the people mover thing. In terms of cost, it's really only recently that I've started finding three really expensive coz the little ones are now eating more. We do cloth nappies which saved a lot and if you can breastfeed that will save a bit too. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 23 June 2008 at 12:17pm
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Well we are about to have number 3 and at this t stage we are hardly go out all togther anyway and we can fit 3 carseats along the back and have no air bag's in the front we will need to get a bigger car, but jsut can't afford it right now so this one will have to do. As far as weather or not its busier the only thing I am worried about is little things loke loading them all in and out of car etc oh and the washing i am picking there will be lots of washing to do with 3. ------------- Deborah Mum to:   
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 23 June 2008 at 5:13pm
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I've coped OK with taking 3 out, at the supermarket the gremlins go in a twin trolley and Maya walks, and other places I use the buggy, altho it is getting harder as they get faster and I get slower with being pregnant.
I am terrified at the thought of taking 4 out tho! ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: my4beauties
Date Posted: 24 June 2008 at 10:56am
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I think the age gap has a part in how you deal with 3 kids. I think if Rico was just a bit older, as well as Gia. She was still very young when #3 came along. Taking 3 out to the shops, even now, is quite a mish, and I don't do it much. I will only do it if I'm only doing one thing at the mall, not my groceries, or shopping for clothes. I don't mind taking all 3 to visit people though. They are very well-behaved most of the time, so isn't that bad. It's getting them all ready to get out the door that's the most tiresome. ------------- My babies: R (9),G (7), J (5) http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: Kelpa
Date Posted: 24 June 2008 at 12:21pm
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I am not so keen on the going out thing...Thinking for shopping and stuff I might just do it at night or on the weekend when DH home...Or possibly even get Paige to push No 3 in pram while I sort out Busy Blake!
Getting out the door to school...feeding while Blake around and also getting dinner on the table are all things I have no idea how it will all work! -------------
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Posted By: 2bmumof3
Date Posted: 24 June 2008 at 12:42pm
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I was really worried bout how I'd feed #3 with the othe 2 around but so far they've both been really great and understanding. They help bring up her wind and we read sometimes which makes them feel included. As for getting out the door, well yeah that's the tough bit, especially in wet weather with no cover, but we manage. ------------- Sara Corban (22/11/04) Connor (18/04/06) Chelsea (21/05/08)
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 24 June 2008 at 12:46pm
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The two things that scare me most about when baby arrives are, like Kelpa said, getting dinner on the table, and getting us out the door in the morning to get Maya to school on time. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: my4beauties
Date Posted: 24 June 2008 at 3:08pm
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I still hate dinner-time to this day. If Dh is home, it's fine. He can cook while I feed Jett & bath the kids, or vice versa. It's when he's late home that I almost crack under pressure. Usually the older 2 have to wait while I sort Jett out & get him in bed. Then dinner gets cooked a little too late (around 6pm) and eaten around 6:30pm. I'd rather we all were eating at 5:30. But that's not the case most of the time. ------------- My babies: R (9),G (7), J (5) http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: 2bmumof3
Date Posted: 24 June 2008 at 4:04pm
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I make dinner during the day, meals that can simply be turned on later like lasagna(?), caseroles, soups etc. It makes life alot easier. ------------- Sara Corban (22/11/04) Connor (18/04/06) Chelsea (21/05/08)
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 24 June 2008 at 7:32pm
Ditto! And casseroles are a mother's best friend - you can prepare them when the kids are settled and they are hard to burn! ------------- |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 24 June 2008 at 7:37pm
i'm the opposite - if hubby isnt home for dinner then i get it all organised earlier and have the kids in bed by at least an hour earlier too. mind you its normally pasta. in fact come to think of it i am much more organised without hubby! ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: Kelpa
Date Posted: 24 June 2008 at 8:50pm
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In fact I used to love cooking..but since Blake arrived, I totally hate it ....he has an alarm clock that goes off and about 4:45 and stands at the gate into the kitchen waiting waiting.....
I do prefer it if Paige or Mark are home as they can keep him busy while I calmly cook.................I so wish we could have more crock pot easy prep food but fussy children seem to prevent this!!!! -------------
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