What does your DH/DP think.....
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Topic: What does your DH/DP think.....
Posted By: GuestGuest
Subject: What does your DH/DP think.....
Date Posted: 04 June 2008 at 3:51pm
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of TTC and all that it entails?
Because we have just started mine is really interested in all the science behind it and is loving the fact that we have to BD all the time. We feel the same way about wanting a baby - neither of us is more obsessive about it than the other which I think helps. He laughs at me being on this forum though! Just wondering how other DHs cope once you have been trying for a while? I know that women are good at talking about things but men aren't so great 
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 04 June 2008 at 4:00pm
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the first time it took 4 months and for the first three he loved it...BD all the time etc..then he just got sick of it as he knew sometimes i just wanted it for TTC:) fortunately we got pregnant then he was annoyed bout lack of sex..lol then we lost the baby and couldn't for three months then we started again and got pregnant first month..he was grumpy cause he wanted more Bding..lol..can't win:) ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: almostthere
Date Posted: 04 June 2008 at 4:05pm
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At this stage he is more interested in what will happen to my hormones now im off BCP!! ok ok, we've only just started actively TTC but i have been getting ready for this for the last year (T1 Diabetic)...
He said to me last night that he hopes it doesnt take to long for a natural AF to come along cos he doesnt wants to know how my cycles are off the bat! I told him they probably wont be but i think he is impatient to start TTC at a point where we know my cylces and ov dates etc!! lol Men are funny! ------------- http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/2128f6"> 
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Posted By: GuestGuest
Date Posted: 04 June 2008 at 4:09pm
Yeah, I tell mine that I just want him for his sperm  The funny thing is he doesn't seem to care!
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foxxy_one wrote:Posted By: mummymegs
Date Posted: 04 June 2008 at 4:29pm
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My DH will do anything for the 'baby'. I can get him to eat more fruit and veg, got him taking a multivitamin, drinking less. He is also really stoked that we get to DB a lot - I think that this is the highlight
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Posted By: MoosMum
Date Posted: 04 June 2008 at 4:48pm
| Hi with our daughter my DH became very disheartened wiht the whole TTC thing, especially after 2-3yrs on and off, thank god we got pg when we did as we were going down the clomid - IUI road after an ectopic so it was only going to get worse. It made BD'ng a real chore for both of us in the end with my DH resentful whenever I instigated it as he was convinced i only wanted to do it for a baby. This time we are much more relaxed about it and are enjoying "having to do it!". Good luck with your TTC journey - these boards are a great help if your DH not too "hyped" with the TTC process. |
Posted By: AngieBabe
Date Posted: 04 June 2008 at 6:49pm
Can't say my DH has been all that enthusiastic about all the TTC stuff - it's been 18 mths trying and he even wasn't all that keen on the 'extra' BDing part at the start (guess I have one of those odd men eh!  )
As much as he really wants a baby and to become a dad I often get the impression he'd much rather find another way to go about it!! Maybe things are too technical - I have stopped 'over-sharing' the charting and monitoring my cycle bits with him and try really hard not to just jump him for the sake of OV timing. It's a very fine line between letting him know its time to get busy and 'pressuring' him. I have however managed to get him downing multi-vits every morning so consider that a great success. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  
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Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 04 June 2008 at 7:22pm
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My Dh was just happy to BDing all the time LOL - it took 3 months with Rhyley to conceive and he was beginning to wonder if he was shooting blanks (totally my mans problem there as 3 months is not long) as I had 2 kids before. ------------- Ann 
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |
Posted By: monikah
Date Posted: 04 June 2008 at 10:23pm
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DH is pretty happy bout it most the time. really really wants to be a dad (he convinced me to start TTC) because there are so many problems with me i think the thing he most gets upset with is me blaming myself but he looks at my charts and guesses whats happening and stuff. it quite cute really ------------- 
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Posted By: surfergirl
Date Posted: 05 June 2008 at 9:46am
| Yeah, my DH worries I only want him for the sperm too. So not true - the BCP killed my sex drive and now I'm off it I want him often...but he thinks it's all for the baby making... |
Posted By: MonicaMouse
Date Posted: 05 June 2008 at 10:32am
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Mine was all excited when I came off the BCP (way back at the end of 2006) but didn't keep his end of the deal (to stop smoking) needless to say he was kinda dissapointed when we got our BFP 8 less than 7 weeks later, he was hoping for a longer TTC period.
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Posted By: kasbee
Date Posted: 05 June 2008 at 10:46am
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We have been TTC for 6 months now, my DH is very excited but when AF arrived last month he said to me 'maybe we need to go to the doctor' and i said to him ' we have only been TTC for 6 months, we have conceived a singleton and a set of twins all naturally he would laugh us out of the room". Dont think he fully understands the whole process. He has told me that we will have to stop TTC soon because he doesn't want another baby born around calving time which is cool but just sux at the same time.
So hopefully is happens within the next couple of months, fingers crossed  ------------- Kelly, mother to 4 wonderful children. http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: GuestGuest
Date Posted: 05 June 2008 at 10:48am
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Wow going for number 4 Kasbee! You're mega keen Good luck!
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Posted By: kasbee
Date Posted: 05 June 2008 at 10:52am
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Thanks.
Yep we sure are keen or as some people say crazy. ------------- Kelly, mother to 4 wonderful children. http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: NeoshasMummy
Date Posted: 05 June 2008 at 3:08pm
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My DP didnt even know how women got pregnant, I only just recently explained to him that its only possible for a few days a month and he was SHOCKED to say the least and explaining everything else to him was a shock too.... ummmm hello you are 30 in a couple of months did you not take sex ed lol!!
As for BDing he is not very interested, he works long hours and stuff so it makes it hard and sometimes it makes me upset because I desperately want another child but whatever lol as long as we get in around O time then I dont mind if I go without for the rest of the month heck I will have to go 9 months without it once we are preg. I think I am obsessed and he thinks I am to which he says has put pressure on him. so thats what my DP thinks lol EDIT: because that sounded stupid lol. he knows HOW babies are made he didnt realise the whole ovulation thing happened he thought that a egg was there all month lol and was amazed that they disintegrate and another one comes next month lol and he wasnt aware how "on time" you have to be ------------- https://secure.fertilityfriend.com/home/30c4ec/" rel="nofollow">  Mrs Te Kani ❤️ Neosha 26/5/2007 |
Posted By: Margs B
Date Posted: 05 June 2008 at 4:51pm
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My DP was excitied about TTCing. He stopped smoking and started taking multi vitamins. We are doing IVF and he has been so good and preparing the injections for me.
He has been a little protective and my family have a habit on putting to much pressure on me so he has made sure that doesn't happen. We have tried really hard to keep the bedroom life exciting so not to make it feel like a chore.
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Posted By: Emmecat
Date Posted: 05 June 2008 at 5:31pm
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My DP can't wait for us to have a baby BUT (like your DH Angie), is not overly keen on the extra BD it entails! A) I don't 'overshare' temps, CM stuff etc lol B) When I get really upset at a BFN This month he has also checked out a few other charts and gotten a little competitive about BD more than other men LMAO. I am so not complaining!!!!! -------------   http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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I think he also thinks at time I only want him for his sperm...which is mildly true but I point out it's only *his* sperm I want....not just *any* sperm lol 
But we love each other heaps and I have definately notcied he is more interested whenPosted By: WestiesGirl
Date Posted: 05 June 2008 at 8:40pm
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My Dh has been interested since before we even started. Infact he wanted us to hurry up. But I was the one that told him we had to wait until we were married (personal choice).
Tehehe Emmecat, yep DH is a bit like that too when it comes to temps and CM. Although I have noticed he will read my baby mags if he runs out of books to read  . I dont mind, its less info I have to tell him ------------- Our Angel July 08  Gone but not forgotten
And to complete our family, our princess has arrived 
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Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 05 June 2008 at 9:08pm
Hehe you know you can still do it when you preggie ------------- Ann
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |
Posted By: WRXnKids
Date Posted: 05 June 2008 at 9:19pm
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Hahaha mine loved the extra sexy time and when i started putting my legs up the wall for 30 min after each time he thought it was hilarious other than that he just took it as it come -------------   
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Posted By: NeoshasMummy
Date Posted: 06 June 2008 at 2:11pm
I am more than happy too but my DP in pretty much grossed out by it and my whole pregnancy last time went by almost completely without IT lol ------------- https://secure.fertilityfriend.com/home/30c4ec/" rel="nofollow"> Mrs Te Kani ❤️ Neosha 26/5/2007 |