TTC after MC Blues
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Topic: TTC after MC Blues
Posted By: mummyofprinces
Subject: TTC after MC Blues
Date Posted: 31 May 2008 at 10:12pm
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I am just so low.
10 days ago I was busy planning for my baby and then a great big smack in the face to find out our little pea has passed. My body still thinks its pregnant (sore boobs, little nausea, constipation...) and its so frustrating. We have decided to wait one cycle before TTC again and I am happy with the decision, except I want to be pregnant again now. I have no idea when I will ovulate again. I just want my baby back. -------------   
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 31 May 2008 at 10:37pm
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big hugs..it's totally normal to feel that way and for me we put off trying for three months for two reasons..one because we had to and two because all i wanted to do was replace the baby i lost:(
I'm glad you have made a decision though and are happy with it and i wish you all the luck and happiness in the world! ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: Nefertiti
Date Posted: 31 May 2008 at 10:41pm
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I know how your feeling melnel. While I have not finished what I am going through, I know it will all be over in a matter of days...which cannot come fast enough.
Like you, up until yesterday we were also planning for our baby. I am frustrated this has happened for the 3rd time in a row, with at least 2 months in between each. I don't want to let my baby go, but know that they have to go :( |
Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 31 May 2008 at 10:50pm
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Nefertiti, I cant believe there is another Jan mum going through this!!! I totally know what you mean about wanting it over quickly.
I am so sorry this happened to you again. Foxxy_one, I dont want to end up replacing this baby. That has made me think, if I am not ready next cycle... Im not ready. I am also petrified of falling pregnant and going through this again. -------------
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 01 June 2008 at 8:17am
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i was too..petrified...:( it got a little easier at each scan but still hard:(
i felt ready at the time(i thought) but then realised i wasnt and that three months waiting was awful..:( i felt upset annoyed everything that you feel in grief i guess and jealous:( massive hugs to you it's a horrible time :( ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: Emmecat
Date Posted: 01 June 2008 at 8:53am
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Melnel and Nerefiti- I can identify totally with you both, having a m/c (whether it's at 5 weeks or a missed one at 13 weeks- I have had both) is one of the hardest things I have ever had to go through. Part of you just wants it to be over and another part just wants to hang on I have no advice as recovery is so personal (and I would argue you just learn to live with it rather than 'get over it'), but please make sure you have lots of support from DP, family, friends, ohbaby etc etc. If you feel like you need to be pg again right now, start trying. If the thought of being pg again terrifies, hold off. That desire may change day to day but I'm a firm believer your body won't put you through anything you're not able to cope with. Bless to you both. It's *SO* hard. I'm thinking of you and sending lots of loving positive vibes your way. -------------   http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: Vanillabean
Date Posted: 01 June 2008 at 1:13pm
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So so sorry Melnel and Nefertiti. Its such an incredibly hard thing to go through. I felt exactly the same way when I went through this in Jan - I wanted someone to tell me they had made a mistake and it wasn't really happening. And then I was desperate to get pregnant again straight away.
For me anyway, I think all I can do is honour my grief and hold on to the hope that the chances are very high that at some point in the future I will have a healthy pregnancy. ------------- 5x mc, Jan 08, June 08, Nov 08, May 09, April 11 http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: WestiesGirl
Date Posted: 01 June 2008 at 1:46pm
Melnel and Nefertiti lots of  and  for you both. Also sending you both lots a positive vibes. I hope you have good support around you during this hard time. ------------- Our Angel July 08  Gone but not forgotten
And to complete our family, our princess has arrived 
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Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 01 June 2008 at 2:08pm
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We went to the SPCA today. For some reason, being around the animals really calms me.
Normally DH is itching to leave straight away (he is always worried I will bring something home  ) but today we patted all the dogs and kitties and bunnies. Then we just stood by the barn and looked at all the goats and sheep.
We decided we want a hobby farm, I miss the country. We are both feeling a little bit more at peace. Just wish I had shorter cycles, 5 weeks is sooooo long when you are TTC. -------------
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