How long do you wait
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Topic: How long do you wait
Posted By: WestiesGirl
Subject: How long do you wait
Date Posted: 20 May 2008 at 11:29pm
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Before you go to the toilet after BDing?
I dont want to leave it too long because I dont want to risk getting a UTI or other infection. Having said that, I dont want to go too early either!  ------------- Our Angel July 08  Gone but not forgotten
And to complete our family, our princess has arrived 
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Posted By: Nefertiti
Date Posted: 21 May 2008 at 7:31am
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There was talk about this awhile ago. And I remember most women saying about half an hour.
Myself, I just stayed in bed for as long as I wanted. I've never had a UTI in my life from staying in bed after sex so it was never an issue. If fact this last month that I got preg, I did get up to go to the ensuite to get some tissue paper to blow my nose, then got back in bed....and that was the time I think I conceived! Good luck! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: rachelsea
Date Posted: 21 May 2008 at 7:39am
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If it's at night time, I just fall asleep afterwards haha, then when I wake up needing to pee in the middle of the night I get up. If it's in the morning before work, I just stay in bed till DH finishes in the shower then I get up (so about 30mins) ------------- DD 4yrs DS 2yrs http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: tiptoes
Date Posted: 21 May 2008 at 8:15am
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I'm the same as you rachel, if it's night time I just don't get up at all (ew yuck, I know) and in the morning, as long as possible. ------------- http://alterna-tickers.com">  
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Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 21 May 2008 at 2:57pm
I think when we were TTC I left it 20 mins and did the feet up the wall trick (hey, it worked!) but I have had UTI's before from not going to pee, so I always did. Plus I can't stand sleeping in a wet patch anymore, don't know how I used to. Ew 
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Posted By: Phat_Cat
Date Posted: 21 May 2008 at 3:17pm
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LOL emz - even after going to the loo the wet patch can sometimes be there and isnt it funny how its always on OUR side of the bed??? As far as I know 20 mins is usually long enough... ------------- Tristen - 24/06/07 Rylan - 11/12/08 Angel Babies -14/08/05 & 21/01/2010 Curtis - 26/02/12 |
Posted By: NeoshasMummy
Date Posted: 21 May 2008 at 4:02pm
I go straight away because I had kidney reflux and get constant uti's and I have managed to get preg 4 times all up So I guess its no hard and fast rule
*Also* Am I the only one who changes the sheets straight after? I kick DP out of bed and change them, thought everyone did  No wonder he used to think I was weird.------------- https://secure.fertilityfriend.com/home/30c4ec/" rel="nofollow">  Mrs Te Kani ❤️ Neosha 26/5/2007 |
Posted By: rachelsea
Date Posted: 21 May 2008 at 4:18pm
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haha, nope i only change the sheets in the weekend! Imagine how much washing there would be if we had to change the sheets every time we BD'd lol ------------- DD 4yrs DS 2yrs http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: NeoshasMummy
Date Posted: 21 May 2008 at 4:23pm
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yeah well it wasnt so bad before ttc but it is a tad excessive now and when MIL comes around she asks why there are so many sheets drying ------------- https://secure.fertilityfriend.com/home/30c4ec/" rel="nofollow"> Mrs Te Kani ❤️ Neosha 26/5/2007 |
Posted By: Plushie
Date Posted: 21 May 2008 at 6:31pm
my DP always wants to change the sheets after as well! I thought it was just him, i'll make sure to tell him other people do it as well 
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Posted By: WestiesGirl
Date Posted: 21 May 2008 at 9:00pm
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Thanks ladies.
lol neoshasmummy!! Thats classic!  Nope I cant say that I change the sheets everytime, but thats very organised of you  .
I too also get UIT's if I dont pee as well, and I want to avoid it as much as possible because I cant function when I have the darn thing. So painful!!
Emma thats a brilliant idea lol  .... I had never thought of putting my legs up the wall! I do put a pillow under my hips and bum though. ------------- Our Angel July 08 Gone but not forgotten
And to complete our family, our princess has arrived
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 21 May 2008 at 9:03pm
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No changing sheets here lol.
And I am a peer, I have kidney/bladder/UTI issues so it's a no brainer for me. -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Nefertiti
Date Posted: 21 May 2008 at 10:09pm
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LOL we did the legs up wall to conceive our first,,,but wasn't up the wall....lol I was lying upside off the bed lmao
NeoshasMummy - my daughter used to get kidney reflux but when she was only 2yrs she had a bilateral reimplantation of the urethras and never looked back! As for the sticky patch.....guess thats the advantage of a super king size bed.....plenty of room lol ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 21 May 2008 at 10:22pm
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I have to say, I went to the loo if i needed to, otherwise I stayed in bed.
The night we conceived this little one, I stayed in bed... but we hadnt BD'd for a while so I was a bit tired -------------   
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Posted By: TraceyA
Date Posted: 22 May 2008 at 10:01am
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Once a week sheet cleaning is enough for me. I stick a towel under me (when I can), that solves the wet patch issue. At the moment I have one towel rolled up to pop under my hips and the other to catch any drips When we inseminate at night I usually just curl up on my side and drift off into sleepy land. In the mornings I read my book for about 30 minutes before getting up. I also find that if I have an orgasm right after insemination then I have very little drips to worry about. Also, in the sex draw I have some baby whips to clean up messes and wipe down toys so I don't have to worry about them right away, very handy. ------------- TTC #2 |
Posted By: RunningT
Date Posted: 22 May 2008 at 6:56pm
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MIL looking at multiple sets of sheets drying... sex drawer.... LOFAO Seriously: I used to get lots of UTI's but am really focused on TTC.... Hard balancing act for us girls. |
Posted By: WestiesGirl
Date Posted: 22 May 2008 at 11:18pm
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lol!! Thanks for your comments ladies. Must say this has been rather entertaining
Tracey wipes are a great idea... We have tissues and just usually put a pile of them under my butt! May start using towels to save the trees .------------- Our Angel July 08 Gone but not forgotten
And to complete our family, our princess has arrived
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Posted By: rachelsea
Date Posted: 23 May 2008 at 8:52am
I used to get UTI's heaps too, but it hasn't been a problem while TTC so far! dammit now I've said that I just know I'll get one 
And as for wet patches... I just keep my undies around one ankle and quickly pull them up afterwards so nothing gets on the sheets and then change my undies when I get round to getting up, hehe------------- DD 4yrs DS 2yrs http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 25 May 2008 at 5:12pm
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ahh the sex towel....
I must admit, thats the real reason I dont get up afterwards
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Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 26 May 2008 at 10:59pm
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Oh, the sex towel!
I seriously recommend the feet up the wall thing, just think gravity ladies! Let's face it, men aren't the most intelligent creatures, so you can't expect their swimmers to be either
OMG Phat_Cat, that is so true! I even got so frustrated that I used to wriggle over while we were BDing to try and get it on his side but alas DH caught on to that little trick. I'm sick, but I kind miss the messiness of it all! Condoms till October..
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Posted By: Gazelle
Date Posted: 29 May 2008 at 1:32pm
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I used to get UTI's all the time but haven't had any for a while as I always go to the bathroom after sex and I take cranberry pills. Does anyone know if it is safe to keep taking these while ttc?
Also does recurrent UTI's mean you would need a specialist rather than a midwife? I have reflux nephropathy according to the dr. It is all getting real now. I start taking Elevit this weekend! ------------- TTC our first baby- Cycle 5 |
Posted By: GuestGuest
Date Posted: 29 May 2008 at 2:29pm
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Hi Gazelle, I used to take cranberry tablets because of recurrent UTIs but have stopped since TTC.
I have read that because it lowers pH levels this makes it harder for sperm to survive. But I have also heard that cranberry can help if you want to conceive a girl because the X sperm can survive anything!
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Posted By: NeoshasMummy
Date Posted: 29 May 2008 at 4:50pm
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Hi,
I was told to stop the cranberry tablets whilst ttc but be vigerous when it comes to preventing uti's (I was operated on twice for reflux but I still have trouble) So things like going toilet straight away and making sure you drink loads of water, going to the toilet as soon as you feel the need and making sure you finish properly and the obvious stuff like wiping front to back dadadadada. ANYWAY when I was preg with number one my midwife sent be to a OB regularly becuase of the whole reflux thing, he kept an eye on things and my urine was tested all the time so they could catch a uti if one crept up. But u will still be under the care of a midwife, if she thinks your case is severe enough you will see a ob once a month as well. After baby I had to go in for these scan thingys to check the kidneys as well
Hope I helped lol ------------- https://secure.fertilityfriend.com/home/30c4ec/" rel="nofollow"> Mrs Te Kani ❤️ Neosha 26/5/2007 |
Posted By: NikkiB
Date Posted: 04 June 2008 at 7:04pm
That worked for me too ------------- A very lucky mummy to two gorgeous boys: RB 3/10/2008 JB 29/12/2009 |
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