7 years later....
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Topic: 7 years later....
Posted By: Snickerdoodle
Subject: 7 years later....
Date Posted: 12 April 2008 at 10:07pm
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....and I'm still curious about something.
I wonder about this from time to time but never really asked a doctor or my mw or anyone about it. I don't think I ever told DH, either. But today is the "anniversary" of the occurance (I have a weird thing about remembering random dates). (This could be a little TMI, but what is OB without it, huh?!!  )
7 years ago, DH and I had been living together for about 6 months in a new city, about 8 months into our relationship. I was prone to fairly heavy irregular periods so this one wasn't out of the ordinary, but I was in the shower one morning and I heard a slopping sound, looked down and there was a fairly large (like the size of the palm of my hand) clot type thing on the shower floor. I just kinda flicked it with my toes to help disperse it so it could be washed down the drain. But it was a solid blood covered mass. I actually had to flush it down the toilet (which I did, totally without thinking - being a naive 19 year old). I didn't tell DH or a doctor as I wasn't in any more pain than normal and I had my usual heavy period.... But the more I thought about it (and even to this day) I wonder if it was a miscarriage. I don't know why I'm writing this...but I guess it's a bit of catharsis as it's the annivarsary and all. Funnily enough, if the miscarriage I had back in '04 had been a successful pregnancy, that baby would've been 3 this coming Tuesday. I guess having Hannah makes me think about these things more. Anyway. Thanks for reading...I guess I just needed to get it out 
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 12 April 2008 at 11:26pm
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That's ok, we always live an wonder. and it's good to get things out.
I have spent the day waiting for mike to remember that 1 year ago today we had our routine scan and found out our baby had died a few days before. I have left a small reminder that he'll see when he goes to close down the computer later cos i can't bring myself to tell him that he forgot.. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: Freesia
Date Posted: 13 April 2008 at 8:45am
Charly, I don't know what it's like to miscarry or if there are other things that can go on down there that could cause a clot but I imagine the 'what if's' must fly around in your head. I hope sharing it has helped a bit and hopefully someone might be able to enlighten you as to whether it could've been a mc or not. 
Mum2paris, I hope your DH did remember. Most men I know (including my DP) are absolutely terrible with dates but it doesn't mean they care any less. Hugs for you at this sad time -------------  
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Posted By: Snickerdoodle
Date Posted: 13 April 2008 at 9:51am
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Janine ***hugs***
I agree with what Freesia said. But it's still a touch hurtful that they don't remember when we seem to remember these things as if it were yesterday. I hope you have a nice day, regardless. Make sure you give your lovely girls lots of cuddles
Freesia, thanks
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 13 April 2008 at 9:55am
| Janine - I hope he hasn't forgotten but has instead chosen not to say anything about it. That's what my DH would do. |
Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 13 April 2008 at 5:32pm
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Hey Charly I don't know much about mc either but to me it sounds like one
Janine
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Posted By: Bobbie
Date Posted: 13 April 2008 at 6:48pm
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Charly
I can't think of anything I could add that would be helpful or meaningful but I'm glad you shared. -------------  
 
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Posted By: Danash
Date Posted: 13 April 2008 at 8:59pm
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Ditto to all of the above |
Posted By: LittleBug
Date Posted: 14 April 2008 at 10:14pm
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