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Topic: Working...
Posted By: ElfsMum
Subject: Working...
Date Posted: 27 March 2008 at 9:59am
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ok..advice from you Mum's out there...
We need more money.. at least so we can keep Sky and other things we like:) solution,...i work Saturday or during the nights(which is interesting as my qualifications are all for the day time teaching /ECE hours) but I don't mind what i do for a job.. anyway Dh is a carpenter so makes easily 2/3 times what i could make working....he wants to do the 6th day... I don't want him to as 5 days is enough but i can see his logic in that he wold make heaps more money....i want to feel like I'm contributing though ... but if i worked nights we wouldn't see each other.. so has anyone had a similar situation..what did you do? do i put my foot down and go get a Saturday job(as DH is super happy bout staying home with Ethan) or do i let him do another day and make heaps more money? (hard because his job atm leaves him very tired but weekend jobs are different..not as intense.. ) ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
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Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 27 March 2008 at 10:04am
| How about using your qualifications and doing in home care? |
Posted By: arohanui
Date Posted: 27 March 2008 at 10:08am
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Or how about doing tutoring? If you go through somewhere like Kip Mcgrath, you don't need to worry about gathering resources or the 'business' side of things. I'm planning on doing that if we find that we really need some extra $$ this year. They only take trained teachers so you're up there with that.
Or, you could always do 1 day a week in an early childhood centre and take Ethan with you. I have a friend who does this (don't think she has to pay for her baby, or it's cheaper) and it works really well for her. ------------- Mama to DS1 (5 years), DS2 (3 years) and... http://alterna-tickers.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 27 March 2008 at 12:13pm
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nzpiper- thought about that..but you have to get the house looked at and fixed up and there has to be a place for them to sleep etc.. :( so it would take ages and we dont have anywhere for them to sleep etc.. :( and while he;s this young it would take away from the quality of care i can give him.. when hes older we may look at it (assuming we move)...which reminds me are you coming on saturday?
oh never thought of kip..good point:)im trained primary but havent worked in primary..does it matter? yeah as for taking him with me its the same..i dont want him to miss out atm.. (which i think he would0 my old boss wanted me back there taking him for free but i just couldnt do it..:(no matter how hard you try you always favour your own child ....or as they get older are too hard on them.. (at least from what ive seen) ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 27 March 2008 at 12:22pm
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Hard choice....in our case, if I do overtime I earn more than if B does overtime so I'm always now the one to pick up the extra work. That said the difference for us is that becuase I start work around 5.00am tacking on overtime either before or after has no effect on how much we see each other.
I do remember what it was like before I went back to work and B always did overtime on Saturdays, it really sucked! 
Does the 6th day have to be a permanent thing or just an occasional thing? ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 27 March 2008 at 12:34pm
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no he can just do it whenever....he did saturdays for 6 months before we had Ethan and it was awful..on Sunday all i wanted to do was hang out with him and all he wanted to do was sleep:(! ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 27 March 2008 at 12:40pm
| Yeah I find it harder now that DH is doing longer hrs plus working Sat's too. I used to earn way way more than him, but its not an option for me to return to my former job, so we are just sticking to him working longer hrs at the mo. Usually 55 hrs a week. |
Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 27 March 2008 at 12:46pm
| Oh and give working for families a call and see how much $ you would loss, if you earnt enough $ to put you into the next income bracket. It might not be worth going back! |
Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 27 March 2008 at 1:37pm
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thats true..though atm..it goes on my work until i left (at 20 weeks) so it way more than we actually earn atm..and it sucks:( ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 27 March 2008 at 1:48pm
| I work 11 hours a week as a deeds clerk, earn way less than what I'm actually trained to do (primary teaching) but it gives us just a bit of extra money. I work at night and DH looks after Jack. Maybe give Kip McGrath a call? I would love to do tutoring but I would have to do a whole week as we would be pushed up to the next income bracket and then lose WFF. You should get more money as of 1 April though? |
Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 27 March 2008 at 2:01pm
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i dont think so...i havent filled out any new forms..they havent said anything adn i only just sent them the last ones.. they just sent me a thing for end of this financial year though (15$ a week:( )\
my friend who worked same as me had to wait the whole of the year but then her boy was born in July....maybe i should call them? surely i dont have to wait a whole another year?:( ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 27 March 2008 at 2:18pm
| I wouldn't think so, I'm pretty sure it goes on what you would be earning in the financial year, 1 Apr 08 to 31 Mar 09. So if you estimate that, they should then tell you how much you will be entitled to. I would give them a call, you might be pleasantly surprised (I hope so anyway!) |
Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 27 March 2008 at 2:19pm
| Yep ring them, it can be adjusted at anytime. Ours was when DH changed jobs. |
Posted By: pekemoemum
Date Posted: 27 March 2008 at 3:08pm
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agree with the others...'estimate' what you 'think' you and DH will earn this coming tax year apr08-march09 and they will sort it out based on that.
As someone else said, it's probably not worth it for the money you would get doing a supermarket job or the such ... different if you were doing to pick up some relief teaching?? pretty good money in that I think!? Or you can do what we did... cut sky! ;) boohoo..!! oh well!! we are very similar kawwww. I am primary trained, but haven't worked in that sector.. have done 'health' and secondary since being trained! haha.. all the best... ------------- Gina, Reef 15/6/03, Tyde 12/2/07 http://www.pekemoe.co.nz - Peke Moe - Unique NZ Made Baby Sleeping bags for babies who get out of swaddle/wrap |
Posted By: popcorn
Date Posted: 27 March 2008 at 3:54pm
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hey kaww
im an ece teacher too and have been relieving at work which is giving us some extra pocket money! I know your boy is still quite little just yet but T copes really well in at preschool and while they are young its fine to be in there with him. Once he gets older and more aware it might be a different story but for now he is quite happy eats,sleeps plays just as he would at home |
Posted By: popcorn
Date Posted: 27 March 2008 at 3:55pm
| and by the way probably gets more attention there than he would at home! being that I have house work and other bits to do! the girls cluck all over him! |
Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 27 March 2008 at 4:00pm
i think part of it is just getting out in the world..i love being at home just need a little break with adults:)! would love to relief teach but cant at nights and weekends:) i guess they didnt point out that i should change and tell them my new circumstances..they good at taking money not giving..(though i had crap advice that said i couldnt get PTC till april but i applied 4 weeks late and got it and they put it through in 4 days so they arent always bad i guess...i will call them tomorrow:) yeha i liked primary but my heart wasnt in it....and ECE i loved the children but i need a break..so not sure what i would do .. but relief work if it was at weekends would be great:) when i go back to work not sure what i will do.. (later i mean) ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
pekemoemum wrote:Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 27 March 2008 at 4:02pm
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Could you do some babysitting, nights and weekends? Maybe put a flyer out with you details around your neighbourhood and then just do whichever nights etc that suit. Could you arrange with your DH that he can work one Saturday a month? ------------- 
 
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 27 March 2008 at 4:03pm
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as for sky yes i know you arent supposed to watch it while feeding bu ti always have done!!:)
simone but thats it..some days hes great other days needs more attention than what i could give him while i was working as well... just not my scene yet for him.. maybe when hes more settled..so that leaves weekends... its hard to explain about what i mean about working with him..i just am not a fan of it..ive seen it work out but ive seen it not as well:( but as you say he wouldnt be short of attention:) ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: popcorn
Date Posted: 27 March 2008 at 4:11pm
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yeah I have seen it be an absolute disaster when I worked with a mother and her 3 year old terror! It was a complete nightmare and I swore I would never ever do it! But they got really desperate at work so I said I would do it for 1 day and have been working Tues/Thurs ever since. I would say he is too little yet to cope in that sort of loud/busy environment (OVERSTIMULATION) but once he is more settled it may be an option. I started doing it when T was about 5 months old so in a great routine etc. He is a really cruisy baby too
I looked into home based care as an option too but it was quite a rigmarole. What about nannying one other child? could advertise in paper, Ethan would still get heaps of attention or babysitting would be a great option at night. People would love to have a trained teacher and you can get up to 20$ an hour for it too |
Posted By: katie1
Date Posted: 27 March 2008 at 4:12pm
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Am not doing it at the moment but I found relief teaching (primary) really easy money and enjoyable. No stress and paper work. You can just go in and enjoy a day in the classroom. You are out of there by three so it is good money for the hours you do.
I guess it depends on if you have someone who can look after Ethan though. Would be great if you could do relieving for ECE and take him with you. |