TTC when you are over 35 or an OAP
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Topic: TTC when you are over 35 or an OAP
Posted By: Rashika
Subject: TTC when you are over 35 or an OAP
Date Posted: 06 February 2008 at 8:09am
Thought I would start a new thread about us OAP's or over 35's. 
Yes you never thought that you would qualify in that category but here we are! So how has it been for you? What has been good... and what bad? And for those of you who have succeeded... tell us about it. And those who are trying again now after already having a child... how is it different this time round? Usually most health providers put you in a different category once you hit that 35 mark, some ways its bad... you know with all those possibilties of things going wrong but other times it is a good thing. You get offered every test you'd like along the way (younger ones seem less likely to get tests or maybe they are just not encouraged to get them? I dunno...), and lets face it, we have a whole heap of life experience that must help us somehow! So what are your thoughts? And I would really like to hear from those who have gone thru it and come out the other side as well (if any of you are there!). It would be good for those of us still trying to know it CAN and WILL happen. |
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Posted By: mylilmosaic
Date Posted: 06 February 2008 at 8:25am
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hi rashika, great idea and I would be interested to hear from others who are or have been through ttc over 35.
I guess I always thought it would just happen really easily and that has been the hardest thing, although I don't focus all my energy on ttc because it would then rule our lives. I would be interested to know at what point/or after how many months ttc did others decide to get some tests carried out to see whats going on?  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Rashika
Date Posted: 06 February 2008 at 8:59am
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How long have you been TTC Jaxs?
I prob could find out by reading back somewhere but too lazy this morn! My doc told me initially that if we hadn't conceived within 6 months to come back and have tests. I THINK usually its about 1-2 years for younger ones |
Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 06 February 2008 at 9:09am
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I will be 35 in June so I guess I fit into this category. I get what you say about tests, I was flabbergasted that I qualified for the glaucoma test when I last had my eyes tested.
I'm not quite on the TTC journey yet, getting married in a few weeks time, and what with one thing or another we will be aiming to start this time next year. I have been pregnant before (I terminated at 9 weeks) and not sure if this is giving me a false sense of my own fertility. Did it once without trying so can't think why it would be any different. I posted a similar thread a while ago and I was surprised and reasured that there are a number of older mums on here having their babies at 36, 38 it made me feel I do have time. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: mylilmosaic
Date Posted: 06 February 2008 at 9:41am
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Have been actively trying for about 3/4 months since November, so by the time we get home from honeymoon would be 5 months (begining of March). So am thinking if no go by then we will get basic tests started e.g. I think there are some blood tests they do to check that I am ovulating and a sperm analysis for dh. I want to be sure everything is working ok and we are not trying our hardest every month to find things arn't ok, that would really bum me out IYKWIM.
My cycles are really normal so I think everything is working ok, and it could be just a time thing but I am very aware that Im 38 and time is ticking on  I suppose its like you said Rashika it is just Im not very patient at waiting and not knowing when it is going to happen is frustrating!LOL I always like to know when its all going to happen and I suppose there are some things I can't control  I will just have to learn some patience------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Vanillabean
Date Posted: 06 February 2008 at 12:39pm
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As you know from the other thread I am 35 and have been trying since March 2007. I honestly thought I would get pregnant the first or second cycle. My mother did both times she got pregnant, as did my cousin three times. I also have a couple of other friends of similar age who get pregnant at the drop of the hat. Then I thought I would get pregnant on my honeymoon in September but that didn't happen either.
In the last few months I have been getting quite down about it all and getting quite distraught whenever I get a BFP and particularly when I get my period and then feeling very sad for a few days afterwards. While we have been ttc for 10 months it has actually only been about 6 cycles (for various reasons). I had literally made an appointment to get a referral to a fertility specialist when I got pregnant in January. Unfortunately, the pregnancy only made it to 5 weeks but the doctors tell me this is a positive sign in terms of fertility. Now I'm just waiting to ovulate again after the miscarriage so I can get back on the horse and hopefully I'll be pregnant again within the next 6 cycles. |
Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 06 February 2008 at 2:25pm
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I found it took longer the older I was - Josh was pregnant at a drop of a hat (was 19 and NOT trying) Brooke first month got pregnant(25) Rhyley took 3-4 months (which was long for me since the previous ones and I was 33) IF we had another one I would be 36 and well not too sure I wanna go there. If it was my first have no hessitation but 4th?? Umm...
Good luck all you trying TTC ------------- Ann 
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |
Posted By: 1apple
Date Posted: 06 February 2008 at 4:29pm
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Hi all
I was 36 when I conceived our now 8 month old daughter. I had surgery to remove some ovarian cysts which resulted in the removal of my right ovary. The advice I got afterwards was to get TTCing asap because of my age. The O & G specialist said that just having the one ovary shouldn't make any difference but to come and see him if no luck within 6 months of trying. Anyway, we got married in July 2007 and we were "officially" TTC after that - it took two months which was a real surprise as I thought it would take a lot longer. I got quite scientific about it and timed BDing with the right days etc and it seemed to work! We are planning the second (and last) when DD is 18 months old. I have heard that the second can take a lot longer so we'll see. I always said I didn;t want to be 40 and a new mum - but I'm open for that thought to change! Being an "older mum" has its advantages - that life experience definitely comes in handy but BOY was I tired! Those first three months and sleep deprivation were REALLY difficult and I often wondered if I had done this 10 years ago whether I'd have handled the sleep thing a lot better. Good luck to you all on your TTC journeys! |
Posted By: Redbedrock
Date Posted: 06 February 2008 at 6:39pm
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I was 36 the year we got pregnant with Fay, I had been on the pill for 15 years and found it took 9 months to cnceive but not sure if that was due to being on the pill or being 36, we are starting to think about the possiblility of another but not yet and then i am 40 next year so we might run out of time too.
I like that I have done all those things in my 20s and early thirties like travelling, socialising experimenting with my lifestyle, i feel I have done everything I needed to and don't feel like I am missing out, infact i feel glad to have the excuse for not going out everynight and staying up late and not being able to drink as much. I like the idea that Fay will keep us young for longer IYKWIM ------------- http://www.babysfirstsite.com"> 
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Posted By: Rashika
Date Posted: 06 February 2008 at 8:29pm
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Actually Redbedrock, I can totally agree with having an excuse to just blob at home in the evenings, and yeah agree about having lived life a bit before babies.
Even tho we might moan about seeing younger pregnant women while we are trying to hard TTC, we really do have a big advantage of not feeling like having missed out on things. I wouldn't change the past one little bit!
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Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 06 February 2008 at 9:15pm
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1apple when i was 16 they remove one of my fallipin tubes due to ovarian cysts and a cyst tumor in my fallopin tube (which rubtured) anyway result was that my ovary (one of them) was danaged (bruised or something like that forget now - it was a wee while ago LOL) anyway I have gone on to have 3 lovely children. 2 as I said before very quick to concieve.
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Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |
Posted By: 1apple
Date Posted: 06 February 2008 at 9:37pm
| AnnC - they said it was something similar for me - the ovary was all crushed by the cyst which meant that it was no longer functioning. I read somewhere that if you have one ovary - it goes into double-time which can mean a higher chance of conceiving than if you had the two - not sure how true that is though! |
Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 06 February 2008 at 10:36pm
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yeah i got told that the one ovary left works for both ovaries.. at first i thought they had taken the ovary but a scan a few years ago for a different reason told me otherwise that the ovary was sitting there but think it doesn't help with getting pregnant as no tube for the eggs to come down. They left it there cause apparently you go thru menoposes earlier - and cause i was only 16 they left the ovary there. Guess thats why your dr told you to try sooner rather than later incase you go into early menopause??? ------------- Ann
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |
Posted By: JasmineTaz
Date Posted: 10 February 2008 at 11:30am
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Just joined the forum, good to see a NZ based one. I use Fertility Friend for charting and another ttc forum. I'm 39 and ttc #3 after my two have grown up and left home. Wanting to refeather the empty nest.
I hope the future holds for me a new baby. Tick tock tick tock, the biological clock is ticking. Sadly. This is my first post, off to explore now. But I'll be back! |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 10 February 2008 at 8:18pm
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I have a couple of friends who have had/are having babies recently who are in their late 30's.
AnnC - my Mum kept one ovary for the same reason, she had invasive endo and precancerous fibroids so she had a full hysterectomy at 36 but coz she was refusing to take HRT they left one ovary behind to help regulate her hormones. She's been going thru menopause over the past couple of years and she's in her mid 50's. -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 10 February 2008 at 10:14pm
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i am having my third (hopefully very shortly lol!) and this will be 3 under 5 for me and i am 38 and frankly i really wish i had done it sooner... I feel way too old to be having babies. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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