Not even pregnant...
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Topic: Not even pregnant...
Posted By: almostthere
Subject: Not even pregnant...
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 11:23am
Is it weird that dh and I are starting to look at nursery gear? I mean, i want to have a bed in the nursery, plus DH's sister has offered her cot from her last child (brand new, they have 5 kids before him  )
and I saw the most wonderful chair that looked really comfy and good for feeding in etc etc. We're not pg yet, not even actively trying, but i want to buy things that could come in handy as I see them while we have the money.. I feel its a bit weird.. I guess im just looking for a bit of reassurance that im not going nutty... ------------- http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/2128f6"> 
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 11:25am
| Daniel was unexpected so I can't say I've done that. But you could always put away the money while you have it into a seperate account so when you are preggers you can really go nuts |
Posted By: almostthere
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 11:30am
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Well thats kinda what i want to do, just start very slowly accumulating things. Im terrible at saving money and I know that when we drop to one income things will be tough, so i want to make sure we are ready!
THe things i wont need to buy: cot, change table maybe a pushchair... but the rest, well i just wanna slowly build up the items... Im glad that im not going nutty.. ------------- http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/2128f6">
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 11:38am
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We bought a few things before we were pregnant...the only down side to consider is will you be ok seeing that stuff if takes you a while to fall pregnant or will it be a horrible reminder?
We only bought little things that could be packed away out of sight, we didn't buy anything big until we were pregnant. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: alexbabe
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 11:42am
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Nah your not nutty-just normal.
part of me so wants to do that and buy all those things, but then i have this deep down thing of dont count your chickens before you hatch and if for some reason i cant get pg-then i have to look at the cot and then give it away and dont think i can handle that. so for now i shall just save the money. 
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Posted By: ezza
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 11:43am
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i havent bought anything, only becuase i had an inkling it would take us a long time to get hapu and i was worried that seeing the stuff lying around would have been a reminder of, what i feel, is my failure.
but thats ME i wish we could buy stuff so bad! i reckon its pretty personal and up to you guys as a couple.  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: almostthere
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 11:47am
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hmm.. good points.. I guess i hadnt thought about how i would feel if it took a long to fall pg and I had to look at those items.. hmm, something to ponder. ------------- http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/2128f6">
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Posted By: TraceyA
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 11:50am
You've hit it on the head for me Paws. A friend has a box of baby gear she is giving away and I so want to put my hand up and take it, all in the name of preparation, but then I worry about seeing it if it takes a while, and worse, what if I don't get pg... It's a hard one, especially when my dh is not as fixated on it as me. He's more the, when it happens it happens and we'll cross that bridge then *sigh* ------------- TTC #2 |
Posted By: ezza
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 11:52am
ARGH! thats EXACTLY what my hubby is like TraceyA. 
its SO Annoying. he's like, just relax honey, it will happen.and i'm like... i want to harm you right now hahaha. bless his heart, i love him, but god give me strength sometimes..... ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Aprilfools
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 11:56am
| We have bought some things already and have friends and family that are holding onto other things for us. It doesn't really bother me too much seeing it even though we're not even pg yet. I look at and think if it's not our own baby that uses it then it will be a friends or family members who will still be very special to us and I'd be happy to gift it someone. |
Posted By: almostthere
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 11:58am
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i hear ya.. Mine was like that about even trying for a baby! He was like: lets just wait and see what happens. Hmm, how about no?
I had to explain to him the reasons behind why we cant just 'let it happen' and he finally understood. I guess i just dont want to be caught unawares but then, how can i be if i have to plan it so throughly? lol ------------- http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/2128f6">
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Posted By: Konagirl
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 12:04pm
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Well for me I've decided to buy stuff I'll need while preg, mainly clothes. Just off TM and it's not very much so far. This filfulls my need to buy things.
I've decided not to buy baby stuff till I'm preg because I don't want to see it around and it's been 9 months of ttc so I'm glad I haven't. I've done lots of research on cloth nappies and buggies and stuff though and will be giving dear bf a powerpoint presentation on what I suggest we buy the day after I find out I'm preg!!! Kidding bout presentation. |
Posted By: alexbabe
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 12:14pm
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Yeah, my DH was like that as well- lets see what happens and with time, you will get pg.
Now that i am going to the dr for test's he is changing his tune. I think it just comes down to personal choice,and if you can handle seeing the items you have bought when things dont go to plan. |
Posted By: Chickoin
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 12:18pm
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We have got a few things but they're all hidden . The biggest thing is a cot because DH's boss sold it to us for a fantastic price and it's really nice. But it's all in bits and covered with a big blanket. I refuse to make up a nursery until I'm very pregnant!
I'm with you Almostthere, it's good to get things when it's a great bargain but just don't go over board, it *could* be years before bubba comes along. And you'll still have 6 months(ish) to go nuts! |
Posted By: The_Stuarts
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 12:33pm
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We had nursery furniture (cot, change tabel etc) and boxes of clothes sitting in our spare room wardrobe before we even started trying for our baby. ------------- http://lilypie.com">   http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Parki
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 12:34pm
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We have purchased a few things, mainly really good deals on gender neutral clothing etc. Just basic stuff like all in ones etc.
DH thinks I'm a bit nutty but I would rather buy things now while our money is free flowing! I must admit, I did get a little sad when I saw the stuff sitting in our spare room (emotional AF day) and so I put it all in the wardrobe out of site. I don't think we would go as far as to buy 'big' things like cots etc as we may take years to have a baby and that can't fit in the wardrobe! DH thinks we are better off to put the money in a seperate account, which I agree with.... but then I see stuff on TM and I can't help it! No self control when it comes to spending!  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: alexbabe
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 12:51pm
| The only thing i have bought is beatrix potter books-because i loved them as a kid and a book that records babies first's. Those are all nicely in a book in the storeroom-so i dont have to look at them and get all emotional. |
Posted By: almostthere
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 12:54pm
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I couldnt buy the clothes or anything yet.. its just the cot thats the main on as its an awesome gift form dh's sis and i dont want to turn it down cos if we do, she will give it the church and hey, if I can get it free, why not?!
the bed, well we need another spare bed soI can justify that.. the chair, ok,maybe not the chair.. ------------- http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/2128f6">
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Posted By: kobec
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 1:06pm
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Hey almostthere I totally know know where you are coming from. For the 18mths we were ttc I was constantly looking at baby stuff when in town and if DH was with me would just raise his eyebrows and say "NO! and drag me away so we didnt buy anything until we found out that I was pregnant. Good idea about the bank account tho. It is really hard to resist tho.
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Posted By: Parki
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 1:17pm
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Almostthere, I say if DHs sister is offering you a fab deal then take it! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: ezza
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 1:31pm
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^^ co sign
free stuff is free!!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: IVFGirl1111
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 1:45pm
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Def grab it if it is free! Why not!
We have brought a few neutral clothes just like all in ones etc, but then I got sad looking at it so it all went to Mums house! We wont buy anything more now until I am pregnant but what we have done is set up an account and DH is putting $250 into it a week so that gets him use to paying extra while Im off work and then we will just use all that extra money to buy the big stuff that we need. Yah fun times ahead for everyone
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 1:47pm
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Well...i personally wouldnt, Df and i had a m/c in july last year and i got stuff as soon ai was pregnant(like a few clothes etc) and it was SO hard to see that stuff sitting there knowing that id lost my baby. this time, we didnt buy anything until iw as 3 months along.
But its up to you, if you feel its what you want to do then go for it, but like kebakat said, maybe just save the money instead and then when the time comes to buy things you can go nuts, trust me its SOO fun getting the baby stuff when you are pregnant and know its going to happen ------------- |
Posted By: alexbabe
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 2:05pm
| almostthere-free is always good and do what will make you happy |
Posted By: almostthere
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 2:23pm
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i think we will be taking the cot.. its free, and worth more than what we would probably spend ourselves.. but i think we're gonna put off buying other things until we are pg.. its just i dont want to turn around and say no to it and then wish we hadnt! but yea, i can see how it would be so much more fun to shop when you are actually pg! ------------- http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/2128f6">
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 6:49pm
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almostthere I know exactly where you are coming from, I started planning my wedding day 14 months out, and my plans for mother hood are on a similar idea.
I so want to buy baby stuff even though we are still a long way from TTC let alone being pregnant and having a baby. I am always worried about money and how we are going to manage so for me buying little bits and pieces when I can is a motivator. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: ItchyFeet
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 8:09pm
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We have a few things, e.g. portacot and bedding, highchair, mostly stuff we can use when friends with kids come to stay. We justified it by knowing that if the worst happens and we never have a child, then we will still have got use out of our stuff. One of my best friends stays a couple of times a year and we could make do with what we had when it was one kid, now it's two, it's just too tricky. Also our house isn't set up for kids at the moment, and I got sick of seeing my new carpet smeared with food and cringing watching a toddler try and use my good crockery because I didn't have any alternatives. Next on the list is a splatter mat, sipper, baby spoons and crockery. We'll always use it, even if not for our own kids, and it means I can give into my cravings to nest but at least in a practical way. And it prevents me from buying all the big stuff because we're not telling our friends and family, and we'd have a hard time explaining away a cot or nappies!
Also, the TTC journey could take us a very long time, and part of it is me acknowledging that I have to keep positive that it will happen for us. It's a bit more tangible and I feel better knowing that we're prepared with a few things. |
Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 8:14pm
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Our home isn't child friendly either we don't have plastic anything and lots of glass, and now that my friends children are 2 and 3 it can be a bit nerve racking and I don't want it to be. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 05 February 2008 at 4:40pm
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Oh free stuff definitly take! Id just hold out on buying stuff until you are past 12 weeks ------------- |
Posted By: Vanillabean
Date Posted: 05 February 2008 at 7:06pm
| I started knitting baby clothes before starting to ttc and have continued to do so for the 10 or so months of ttc that we have been through so far. Most of the time it feels good to do the knitting but occasionally, when I'm feeling despondent, I have to put it away for a while. It always gets a bit awkward when people ask who I'm knitting for. I sometimes actually answer "my yet to be conceived child". |
Posted By: yummymummy
Date Posted: 06 February 2008 at 5:55am
Free stuff =  so def take that
As for buying, we didn't really buy much until I was over 20 weeks - don't forget you have quite a bit of time anyways. Good luck TTC ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: JenKH
Date Posted: 06 February 2008 at 10:22am
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Hey Almostthere
I bought one or two things while we were TTC, but one of my friends had a baby in Feb last year would come over and "drop things off" in our spare bedroom. Most of it was bagged up etc so I couldn't see it unless I went to peek but it was sweet of her, made me feel quite positive about the whole thing? I would avoid looking at all the stuff when times were a bit hard but good days it was nice to look through! BTW you'll be getting stuff from me, I can promise you that Take anything that anyone is going to give to you for free as well,(we've been given basinet, change table, baby capsule etc and I am ever grateful) see how you feel about having it out in the open and if you aren't comfortable, just pack it up so it's not in your view all the time.
Goodluck! ------------- Me 25, DH 29 DD1 17/05/2008 DD2 01/03/2010 |
Posted By: almostthere
Date Posted: 07 February 2008 at 10:57am
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Aww, thanks darling!!! but hey, you might need it yourself!
Man, im so excited! im coming off the pill after one more month!! so one more month of pill  ------------- http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/2128f6">
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Posted By: AuntieSarah
Date Posted: 10 February 2008 at 10:59am
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hehe my dh and I are the same, always looking at baby stuff even though we won't be ttc for another few months yet. Have resisted buying anything as yet - with the exception of nappies. I think my collection of mcns is very impressive considering there's no baby on the horizon yet! I've only bought a few but have been making them too
I figure when we start ttc we'll probably start buying stuff though - will be much easier to spend the money over a period of time rather than all at once (well that's my story and I'm sticking to it! )
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Posted By: almostthere
Date Posted: 12 February 2008 at 10:11am
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Well, we are picking up the cot on Sunday and we should ebe getting the family basinette from my nana soon..
Cant wait! off the pill in a month and counting! ------------- http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/2128f6">
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Posted By: alexbabe
Date Posted: 12 February 2008 at 11:17am
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almostthere-only one month and counting?
okay that means i have one month of peace left(heehe jokes) |
Posted By: alexbabe
Date Posted: 12 February 2008 at 8:53pm
| almostthere- did you end up buying that chair for the nursery you really liked? |
Posted By: almostthere
Date Posted: 12 February 2008 at 8:57pm
Nope  totally sucky!! I really liked that chair too!------------- http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/2128f6">
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Posted By: alexbabe
Date Posted: 13 February 2008 at 8:51am
| aww-maybe next time, tell DH its not just for when ur pg, you can use it now |
Posted By: almostthere
Date Posted: 13 February 2008 at 12:19pm
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Yea, maybe. need to get rid of the futon in the spare roo too so we can have somewhere to sotre the cot etc.. Theres stil room, but i dont want it cluttered... ------------- http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/2128f6">
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Posted By: alexbabe
Date Posted: 13 February 2008 at 1:28pm
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yeah clutter not a good thing, hey only a few days away and u get to pick up the cot, man im getting all excited and it aint even my cot ------------- http://pregnancy.baby-gaga.com/"> 
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