ARGH! To know or not to know??!!
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Topic: ARGH! To know or not to know??!!
Posted By: Maya
Subject: ARGH! To know or not to know??!!
Date Posted: 01 February 2008 at 9:28pm
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I really, really don't want to find out if wee Iggle Piggle is really an Iggle Piggle or in fact an Upsy Daisy, but Willie does want to know. I reckon it would be nice to have a surprise on the big day since it's our last baby, he reckons he's too old for surprises and what do we gain by waiting.
Help! What do I do? I mean, I know at the end of the day it's up to me coz he won't even be at the scan, but is he right, is there no point in waiting? In my defence, I have to have scans at 32 and 37 weeks so if I don't find out at the 19 week scan we do get other opportunities, but I just don't wanna know! -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
 (02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 01 February 2008 at 9:33pm
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Well as you say it is up to you...but you know me...I'd side with Willie...I don't think I could handle not knowing!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: floss
Date Posted: 01 February 2008 at 9:36pm
Sorry Emma I side with willie to & if it is a blue one think of all the shopping you get to do before its born ------------- My beautiful big girl Sienna 15.04.06 Double the trouble double the fun Noah & Lola 10/11/07 |
Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 01 February 2008 at 9:41pm
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I'd have to know too. Do you have a feeling at all of what this little person is? ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 01 February 2008 at 9:43pm
| I'd rather know. |
Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 01 February 2008 at 9:45pm
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Ems he has my vote too lol. And yes the shopping if it was blue how much fun would that be!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
Busy mum to Miss 15yrs, Miss 10yrs and Master 4yrs |
Posted By: gemsmum
Date Posted: 01 February 2008 at 9:46pm
| I'm with you Emma. It's such a nice surprise at the end. I didn't find out with my two but was sure I knew what they were (and I was right both times). Personal choice though. |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 01 February 2008 at 9:48pm
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I suspect it's a blue one, have from the beginning. But I am totally OK with waiting, it won't drive me nuts at all.
I could always tell him they couldn't see... But then if I did find out, think of all the nappies I could buy!! ARGH! ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Millie1976
Date Posted: 01 February 2008 at 9:53pm
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I think I would have to agree with most of the other girls and would find out but that's just my personal preference! I am soooooo looking forward to finding out at my next scan but don't know how I am going to keep it a secret from my family as they want me to keep it a surprise from them. ------------- Sebastien 2 years old Olivier 3 3/4 years old |
Posted By: Bubbaloo
Date Posted: 01 February 2008 at 9:57pm
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I'm with you to Emma Jesse wanted to find out what we were having but he said since I didn't want to that we wouldn't it is nice to have that surprise and as my midwife says it makes you push harder because you want to find out what it is.
------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  Was danni-chick Mum to James My Angel 28/07/08 |
Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 01 February 2008 at 10:09pm
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DON"T DO IT!!!!! DON"T FIND OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: susieq
Date Posted: 01 February 2008 at 10:11pm
| NO Dont do it Emma I'm with you too make this one a surprise as it is your last |
Posted By: Mazzy
Date Posted: 01 February 2008 at 10:11pm
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I'm with you Emma - don't find out! This will probably be our last too, so I'm feeling the same way, I want to have the experience of a surprise. I don't reckon you gain much either way really, totally personal preference. Would Willie be able to keep it to himself if you got the technician to write it down in a sealed envelope to give to Willie? ------------- Mum to two gorgeous girls! |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 01 February 2008 at 10:19pm
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I didn't find out with Andrew and it drove me nuts. But when I have my next one i'm still not sure if I want to know either. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: CindyD
Date Posted: 01 February 2008 at 10:22pm
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Noooo don't!!! Those last few weeks are so exciting when you don't know. It's like being a kid at christmas again! I didn't find out with the first two and won't with this one either. If you like you could get them to write it down on a bit of paper, put it in an envelope and give it to willie, that way you don't have to know but he can. Just make him swear not to tell you! i love surprise's and baby surprises are the best!!!! -------------    
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Posted By: shelleybean
Date Posted: 01 February 2008 at 10:26pm
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Nope keep it a surprise ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: BabyOnBoard
Date Posted: 01 February 2008 at 10:33pm
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I would have to know!!
Power to those of you with patience 'coz I've got none ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: myfullhouse
Date Posted: 01 February 2008 at 10:38pm
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I say don't find out. We didn't find out with jack and it was a lovely surprise especially as I was expecting a girl - all first babies in our family are girls.
Tony wanted to find out and I told him that as I was doing all the work it was my choice!! :) ------------- Lindsey 
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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 01 February 2008 at 10:42pm
I'm with you Emma, don't find out! Its your last one and it'll be awesome not knowing 100% until s/he is here in person  ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 02 February 2008 at 7:29am
nah dont find out emma i wish i hadnt found out with james and if i have another one i wont ind out then either ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: yummymummy
Date Posted: 02 February 2008 at 7:51am
As you don't seem to want to find out, I'd wait if I were you. We found out but it's a personal choice  ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Jennz
Date Posted: 02 February 2008 at 8:05am
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You're never going to have another opportunity to have a surprise like this again- I would wait
Good luck with deciding! ------------- Jen, Charlotte 7 & Kate 3 
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Posted By: mylilmosaic
Date Posted: 02 February 2008 at 8:47am
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With my son I didn't find out so the surprise was lovely but then I always thought I was having a boy.
If we are lucky enough to have another then I would be tempted to find out cause I would have alot of fun shopping for the baby 
But I think it really is a personal choice and I would wait if you are looking forward to the surprise. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 02 February 2008 at 8:54am
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Wait and see you may change your mind before your next scan.
If Willie really wants to know he'll have to come along to one of your scans with you. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: hailstones
Date Posted: 02 February 2008 at 9:11am
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I really wanted to find out, DH didn't and in the end she made the choice for us by crossing her legs! But even though I wanted to know, it was such a lovely surprise!! I don't think we'll find out next time. I agree with Fleury, I would wait for the next scan too ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Joelle
Date Posted: 02 February 2008 at 9:19am
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I agree with Fleury - wait for the next scan and see what the feelings are then.
We both wanted to know so that made it easier. DH kept saying it was a boy and the scan confirmed it but I will want to have it checked again at the next scan with the first one being early. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 02 February 2008 at 9:39am
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we found out with jack but didn't with charli....it was nice to have a surprise at the end.....DON'T FIND OUT....just tell willie you couldn't tell ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: Mama2two
Date Posted: 02 February 2008 at 10:15am
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I would do what you want Emma. If Willy won't be there, just tell him that they looked but legs were crossed
I personally couldn't do it though - far too nosey here (Also maybe because I am a complete shop-a-holic ) ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 02 February 2008 at 11:25am
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I think since you really dont want to find out you shouldnt and if Willie has a prob with it tell him he can find out at the scan when HE is pregnant , haha, or just tell him the legs were crossed
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Posted By: EmDee
Date Posted: 02 February 2008 at 1:21pm
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I'd find out, but that's just me!
If you want to wait for the surprise, then wait. If you wouldn't mind Wille knowing (and he wouldn't taunt you with it!) then maybe get them to write it down and pop it in an envelope. Though the temptation will then be there for you! So maybe get them to do it at a later scan ... ------------- DS 8 DD 6 DS 4 DD 2 |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 02 February 2008 at 1:21pm
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I knit. Therefore I wanna know.
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 02 February 2008 at 1:24pm
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P.S. Though personally I quite liked the surprise thing. And if you have found out with previous pregnancies then it might be nice to experience the other side
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 02 February 2008 at 2:33pm
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Could you get them to write it down for Willie?
Personally I think the surprise is more than it's worth haha I'm far too impatient and I like to find out when I'm 'with it' (ex drugs or labour!) ------------- |
Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 02 February 2008 at 9:18pm
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DON'T DO IT!!!!! lol! ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 02 February 2008 at 10:07pm
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We didnt find out with Hannah and it was great to have that little extra incentive at the end of labour, to find out what it was. This time we did find out tho and it has been great as well being second time around. If I was you I would wait and see how you feel later on, esp cos you found out with the others. ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: fire_engine
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 11:28am
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Stick to your guns! You push it out, you make the decisions. And yep, if you change your mind, you can find out later. ------------- Mum to two wee boys |
Posted By: Bobbie
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 11:38am
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Don't find out. I wanted to all the way through but DH didn't.When I had to have an elective C the birthdate wasn't going to be a surprise so I was glad that there was one unknown there. -------------  
 
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Posted By: The_Stuarts
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 12:38pm
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We're taking turns. I wanted to know but DH didn't so we found out with Michaela at 20 weeks but next one we'll wait till it's here. I'm kind of excited about it being a secret now (ok, that's a bit weird since I'm not pregnant but hey) the first time round everything was new but now I'm an old hand at this (LOL) it'll be nice to leave the babies sex as a mystery.
One thing I hated about finding out was the number of people who felt they had the right to tell me I shouldn't have found out and I should have kept it a surpise "um, excuse me, it was a surprise when we found out and mind your own business." ------------- http://lilypie.com">   http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: The_Stuarts
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 12:39pm
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ps. If willie found out could he keep it secret from you and the girls? ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 12:58pm
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Ah but you see if I don't find out Willie doesn't get to either! He can bloody well wait too! Otherwise it's not fair! ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: EmDee
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 1:16pm
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LOL Emma! Def stick to your guns then and leave it as a surprise ------------- DS 8 DD 6 DS 4 DD 2 |
Posted By: The_Stuarts
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 1:17pm
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LOL fair enough. Well I say don't find out and keep a bit of mystery there since it's your last time around ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: The_Stuarts
Date Posted: 04 February 2008 at 1:52pm
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My SIL found out with hers kids. She had a son by her first hubby and 2 girls by her current DH and then they were told at 3 scans they were having another girl so when their son asked if it was a boy could he name it they said sure.
What a suprise they got when their 4th child turned out to be a little boy. He wore pink for several months (and was almost named Michael Jordon but they managed to get the name shortened to Jordon). ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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