Coping, not coping, hmmm....
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Topic: Coping, not coping, hmmm....
Posted By: Maya
Subject: Coping, not coping, hmmm....
Date Posted: 24 December 2007 at 3:01pm
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I am getting more and more anxious as the anniversary of my m/c comes up. It will be 2 years on 2 jan since I had the d and c, but I started miscarrying on New Years Eve morning in the bathroom at mum and dads place. Now here I am back at Mum and Dads and pregnant and New Years Eve is fast coming up and I can't even go into the bathroom downstairs where it happened (which I know is stupid coz I have to go up two flights of stairs in the night just to go to the toilet!) and am having awful flashbacks of the exact moment I knew our baby was gone. Plus I have to have my NT scan here some time next week and it looks like I will have to have it at the same place where I had the u/s and found out our baby had died.
So in the middle of all the Xmas chaos I have all this playing on my mind and I just had to get it out there. Last year wasn't so bad as we were in NZ and the gremlins were tiny so I was focussed on them, but this year I have faaaar too much time to think. Ugh, I think I'm mad! -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
 (02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 24 December 2007 at 3:06pm
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I don't think you're mad, it's all a bit deja-vu and no wonder you're having flashbacks. I still tend to find things trigger off memories of little bits around that time especially also coming up to xmas and seeing my nephew and all the pics of the gorgeous nov 07 bubs and just wondering what if.
Hang in there Emma, go have your scan, see that beautiful iggle piggle and remember the good. I think you need to find something to do on that day day to make new good memories to replace the old ones. hugs! ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: Mama2two
Date Posted: 24 December 2007 at 3:27pm
Big Hugs Emma. I remember going through the same feelings when pregnant with Sam and not wanting to jinx it! My first scan (at the same place that told me I had lost the last one) was so nerve racking but of course everything was just fine! Just let me remind you that Iggle Piggle is not the baby you lost and is doing really well in there.
Chill out, put your feet up and enjoy Xmas :) I am looking forward to sharing my b-day with your Iggle Piggle  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 24 December 2007 at 4:56pm
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I have no advice to offer but can only give big hugs!
I can totally understand why you would be jittery! Hopefully though the next scan will go beautifully and you can relax and enjoy little iggle piggle!  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 24 December 2007 at 5:55pm
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Big huge hugs from me too Emma! ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 24 December 2007 at 8:53pm
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BIG BIG HUGS EMMA ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: Smartmum
Date Posted: 24 December 2007 at 9:06pm
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Aww hun you have every right to feel the way you do, it is a bit Deja Vu isnt it ;-(
Like one of the others said though, try and find new memories, never know maybe new years will be the day your iggle piggle gives you a kick you can feel!! Big hugs. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Bubbaloo
Date Posted: 24 December 2007 at 9:21pm
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Posted By: yummymummy
Date Posted: 25 December 2007 at 9:50am
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Big big hugs! Hope everything goes well and you manage to keep your mind off it - it gets difficult in the quiet hours of the night
Best of luck for the scan! And Merry Christmas!  ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 25 December 2007 at 5:41pm
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I know how you feel...i was so sad i went to a totally different place cause I was scare I would jinx it..lol.. go along and see your little one and make some wonderful new memories with that beautiful baby! ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 26 December 2007 at 10:18am
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Posted By: kezplanet
Date Posted: 26 December 2007 at 11:38pm
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Heck Emma, as if you don't have enough going on for you, I hope things get eaiser for you and you soon have more wonderful memories to hold onto. ((((((((((((((((((((((HUG)))))))))))))))))))))) ------------- Kerryn, Mum to Ashlyn(29/3/04), Anastasia(1/11/05) & Abigail (24/02/09) |
Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 27 December 2007 at 7:42am
| ive just had the anniversary of when i lost the twins aswell. Funny but the same day I was cleaning out some drawers and found all the paperwork from the hospital, was horrible. Will be thinking of you this new years and hope you can have a little fun. |
Posted By: Snickerdoodle
Date Posted: 28 December 2007 at 8:21am
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You're not mad at all.
I don't know how you cope with so much going on! You're a trooper!! 
I had to drive past the radiology place where I found out I'd miscarried every day for 2 and a half years before getting pregnant again. Living in Tauranga it's really the only place to have u/s's done, so I went back there (VERY nervously) to have my 12 week scan with this one and I was on the verge of throwing up every time I opened my mouth. Even DH was beside himself with nerves. We were lead into the SAME room with the SAME radiographer and I had told myself that was it. But of course, it was all fine. And you will be too! Iggle Piggle's already a fighter and has three beautiful big sisters ready to play 
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Posted By: tropics
Date Posted: 29 December 2007 at 9:54pm
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HUGS Maya I know how you feel Im feeling aprehensive too and Charly its the same place and same radiographer for me too since I live in a small town, my bubs now is due 30th July and mc bubs was due 30th Jan so its kinda freaky that its 6 months exactly apart so strange that dates co-inside
big big hugs xoxooxoxoxoxxo ------------- http://lilypie.com">    [/url]
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 29 December 2007 at 10:15pm
| How's it going Emma? hope you are feeling a bit calmer - knowing you, probbaly not, so hoping the gremlins are taking your mind off things a wee bit. |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 30 December 2007 at 11:54pm
I'm hanging in here. Less thank 12 hours to go  Just listened to bub on the doppler which was reassuring, but feeling a bit anxious. If I wasn't pregnant I'd probably take a sedative! Trying to focus on just getting thru till the morning, then getting thru tomorrow, then have my NT scan on Thurs.
Thanks for thinking of me! ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Bumble
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 11:42am
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Thinking of you ------------- formerly known as "Bee" Ethan ~ March 2003 Big 6 year old school boy! Micah ~ Aug 2008 ~ Smiley pants who loves telephones! |
Posted By: emmaohara
Date Posted: 31 December 2007 at 12:13pm
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Hey Emma, I am in the kind of same boat right now ( if not floating on similar seas...!), bubba would have been due January 1st and for some reason I keep stressing that this bubba is going to be born then which is madness but I can not get it out of my head at all as it would be too early for bubs and well its not really going to happen
I guess our heads try to deal with things for us and mine is dealing with the uncoming date by freaking out about this baby, wish it would stop its all I can think about so I know its a stressfull time for you, hang in there and enjoy your scan ( so jealous ,wish I could have another one!! i'm well addicted to them!) ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 01 January 2008 at 10:05am
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Im feeling a bit sad as Feb gets closer, our baby would have been due on the 20th Feb. But then I feel this little one kick me and know that the baby we lost is watching over us and this little baby has a guardian angel in its little brother or sister that we lost
Big Hugs hun **hugs** ------------- |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 03 January 2008 at 9:37pm
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Big hugs Emma, hope the 1st passed quickly for you!
I survived, but only just! I have been going mad! Baby is happy in there tho, had my 12 week scan today and all is good. Am spotting again tho UGH! Not good for my sanity! Still, at least I can keep track of bub with the doppler. Thanks for all your thoughts ladies! ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 04 January 2008 at 9:04am
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So glad to hear the scan went well Emma!
Bugger about the spotting tho! This little bub is going to turn you grey before s/he even meets you huh? Thank goodness for the doppler to reassure you. Take care chick xx ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and:
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 04 January 2008 at 9:59am
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Glad the scan went well Emma. Heres to the rest of your pregnancy going smoothly and no worries... Hows the MS? ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |