baby in daycare; im a crazy!?
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Topic: baby in daycare; im a crazy!?
Posted By: BaAsKa
Subject: baby in daycare; im a crazy!?
Date Posted: 14 December 2007 at 4:28pm
I went in to Bays daycare today for a birthday farewell lunch for my nephew who also goes there and has just turned 5...so anyway i was chatting to the teachers and they asked when Astin was starting there which made me think that maybe it will be a good thing to put him in a few hours a week after xmas so i went and booked him in...but then when i got home i though maybe its just really unnecesary putting him in daycare seen as i have no current intentions of going back to work and i dont want to loose my bond with Astin
Is it unnecesary to put him in daycare for no reason or do you think itl do him some good???? at the earliest he will be about 7 months old.... TIA |
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Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 14 December 2007 at 4:43pm
im not sure why you are putting him in? if you are going back to work ok but if not then find other things like mummy and me programmes...plenty of classes of things out there...I know as a working mum cause all the classes that catch my eye happen at 10 or 11am workdays!!!
and a few hours doesnt let a routine develop very much...some of the most unsettled kids at Ellas DC are the one or two day or half day kids...and her half day last week was the worst they had seen of her for a while!!! |
Posted By: ShellandBella
Date Posted: 14 December 2007 at 4:47pm
I don't think it will be bad for Astin, just more work for you getting him organised and you missing him so much  . Bella will be going into daycare at least 3 days a week when I go back to work and I think it will be good for her as she's a bit of a bashful baby and the socialisation with other babies will be good. It will also help her be a bit more flexible (hopefully) as at the moment, if she's out of routine, shes a cot-case
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 14 December 2007 at 5:01pm
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Well Andrew went into care at 5 months old. He did 6 hours a day 3 days a week as I went back to work. If you don't need him to be there I would wait. I have done that with Josh and he isn't going in till just after he turns 1 next year. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 14 December 2007 at 5:12pm
Astin sounds a bit like Bella Shell hes very social and loves to play with other kids and unfortunately we dont have alot of mummy/baby groups around here i use to take Bay to quite a few in Tauranga but the only ones here are in Whakatane which would mean i would have to travel an hour each time (and Astin is NOT a great traveler!), and we would have to juggle cars with DH working out of town as well so unfortunately those groups arent an option for us
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 14 December 2007 at 5:28pm
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james went into daycare at 8 months old so he would have some time with outher kids and for my sainty he loves it there and i have had no problem with bonding or keeping the bond with my child if at all i would think full time kids would have more of a problem but then its up to you and if you dont think he needs to go ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 14 December 2007 at 6:20pm
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I don't have children but have been a preschool teacher for 5 years..and if you have a sociable youngster then i don't see that it would be a problem.. it would be good for if you (and him) then decide to go back to work and a few hours wont break a bond..and having some you time is very good for both of you too .. it is true some children who just go occasionally are more unsettled but some are not..they come straight in are fine and everything goes well..esp if they start young..and preschool teachers love little babies:) i think its a good option esp if you don't have the choice of going to groups etc. ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: 3boys
Date Posted: 14 December 2007 at 8:11pm
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If you are taking Bailey, it might be nice for Austin to go too just for a few hours. I think you bond will be fine - nothing can replace you as his mum.
A few hours a week for yourself might be really nice. And yes, you are working - just not paid!!!!! I will be going back to work in feb - cohen will be six months old and will start doing two days a week. I totally understand your concerns, I am hoping he fits in ok, but am really unsure as i rock and feed him to sleep - not sure that this makes for a good fit with DC ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Alisa
Date Posted: 14 December 2007 at 9:27pm
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oooohhhh scary stuff for me, Sam is still little but it is my intention to return to work but it wont be till end of July beginning of August (at this stage anyway) then Sam will be in care more or less full time.
I have a mate who has a bubba and a 3 yr old and the 3 yr old goes to pre school even tho my mate is home with bubba. And I see that it works for her, 3yr old gets play and interaction time and mum gets time with bubba. ------------- http://www.bump-and-beyond.com/"> 
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Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 14 December 2007 at 9:47pm
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yeah but arent you just talking about a couple of hours a week....if you are talking three days then that would be different but a few hours seems a little silly.
Do you have a playcentre or something? BTW can i ask why Bays in DC? |
Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 14 December 2007 at 10:06pm
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I was going to suggest playcentre. We just started and we love it. There is all the activities daycare has but I get to stay. When they are toilet trained they can go on their own (but you do mother help so their not there alone every time). I don't even want time apart from Caprece.
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Posted By: miss
Date Posted: 14 December 2007 at 11:41pm
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It could be good for some you timne - not sure how often you get it, but even having kids free time to do grocery shopping might be nice. My DH looks after Lily loads so I have plenty but I know not everyone is as lucky as me. -------------  
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 15 December 2007 at 8:10am
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It all depends what you want to do. I decided to be SAHM and review DC or otherwise after 2yrs. As it turned out my eldest prefers smaller groups and felt quite overwhelmed in preschool type settings in favour of smaller mums groups etc. So we have ended up settling into those.
What about setting up your own mums group for people in your area? Maybe contact Plunket and see if they know anyone who might be interested perhaps. Otherwise take him and volunteer yourself as a helper for that time until you feel that he's settled - and then either continue helping or go do some shopping. -------------  |
Posted By: fairsk8
Date Posted: 16 December 2007 at 8:12pm
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Is there any sort of playcentre or playgroup in your area? Then Astin can socialise and so can you plus still be spending that time with him. ------------- http://www.bump-and-beyond.com/"> 
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Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 16 December 2007 at 8:27pm
| I think it would be a good idea. I have both mine in even though Im not working yet. Kobe has always gone for 3 mornings and when Addison started wanting to stay and play I decided to give her a go and she loves it. In saying that I did put her in when she was about 5 months old and she hated it, and i hated it so that was a huge factor and I ended up leaving my work and Im only going back now and both kids will be in full time. I would do at least 2 or 3 mornings though because I know Kobe had trouble adjusting when he was only going in for one full day and the teachers said that often happens if the kids arent there very often. |
Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 16 December 2007 at 8:31pm
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im enrolled in more study next year so i will need the extra time kidless BUT in saying that i think i might go and check out the one (yes 1!!) playcentre that we have here anyway
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