A little confused
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Topic: A little confused
Posted By: ElfsMum
Subject: A little confused
Date Posted: 06 December 2007 at 2:49pm
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I lost my first baby in Feb..and am now very blessed to be 30 weeks pregnant with Ethan..i really thought Id dealt with my m/c I think about her sometimes but mostly just when i see the August mum's babies and sometimes like on her due date..
but now the new august Mum's are coming through (and I'm not really a 'bad' date remember type person) but i do remember it was dec 15th i found out I was pregnant ..and I see the new august thread it makes me sad...:( I'm not sure why...I guess it's normal? ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
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Posted By: Kazzle
Date Posted: 06 December 2007 at 5:02pm
i think its perfectly normal, dec 15th is the day you got wonderful news, so i think its normal to feel sad as that date rolls by...you are never going to forget your little angel, but it will get easier as time goes by.  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 06 December 2007 at 5:07pm
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yeah but dont you think its weird i feel bad about there being new August mums(even though I'm happy for them?:) ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: Kazzle
Date Posted: 06 December 2007 at 6:51pm
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No, its just something that you need to deal with, even though you are pregnant again, it doesnt negate(sp) the fact that you have lost a baby...I think you may find that once the 15th as passed you will be okay. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 06 December 2007 at 7:29pm
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yeah i hope so.. mostly i sometimes just think how old she would have been (same age as their babies ) and why did it happen to me etc etc.but yeah I just thought i was over it all that's all!
guess loss is a crazy thing:( ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 06 December 2007 at 8:22pm
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I think grief/loss comes and goes like waves. It does get easier with time. I've only recently stopped having little sad moments about my m/c from Feb 2006, the due date would have been in October and I sailed through October (this year) and then remembered after! But last year I definitely felt it. -------------  |
Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 06 December 2007 at 10:12pm
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thanks its good to hear others have had similar experiences..i think meeting the august mums(at the meetups) has been good for me ..just sad as I was the only one (oh actually sally belly at 7 weeks) that didn't get to have a baby.. and this time last year was a very hard time for other reasons too..
at least this year has been 1,ooo,ooo times better and we only have 9 weeks left to go till our healthy baby boy:)! I guess i just have to acknowledge the feelings and talk about them and move on.. ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 07 December 2007 at 8:03am
kawwwww, even though I was one of the "other august mums" I felt a little sad to see the new aug thread start up. It always reminds you of times good or bad. With the good ones you realise how fast they are going. my little boy is growing so fast and I' afraid I'll blink and he'll be all grown up and am I catching enough memories.
You have a new one to look forward to and all us august mummies will be incredibly jealous of your little newborn bundle 
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 07 December 2007 at 8:07am
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lol i posted it in here cause i didn't want you to see it and feel bad..but i do think it important to acknowledge how i feel...I'm not jealous exactly...? because I'm super happy for you guys..it just makes me a bit sad.. little things like having to be pregnant all through summer when i should have a 6 month old..but of course I have so much to look forward to :) I guess it's more of a why me?than a jealousy thing..and I also seriously thought i was past feeling like this.. had a good talk to DH and feel lots better.. he thinks its because this time last year was hard for the m/c and also for a couple of other really major things that went on in our lives..
as for my new bundle..I'm sure you will have one soon too!:) ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 07 December 2007 at 7:52pm
You gotta watch comments like that....you'll have everyone thinking I am pregnant (which I am not!!!) dont think things are working properly yet and dont you have to have sex or something???? 
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kawwww wrote:Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 08 December 2007 at 7:47am
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lol yes true but we all know you want another one very soon..who can blame you with such a gorgeous boy:) !!! ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |