Anyone else??
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Topic: Anyone else??
Posted By: nzmumto3
Subject: Anyone else??
Date Posted: 13 December 2005 at 5:20pm
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Hi all
Just wondering if anyone else is in the same boat as me. I have two adorable children, one ds who is 4 1/2 and one ds who is 5 months old. My problem is that I desperately want another baby, (yes already) and dh is determined we are done. Has anyone else managed to sway a determined husband??? I know I could have a little accident if I had to but I don't like to betray him like that, I want him to want another baby too. Any suggestions??? TIA ------------- Three beautiful boys. |
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Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 13 December 2005 at 7:57pm
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hi sorry don't have any suggestions but i completely understand where you are coming from.
hubby has already told me we are stopping at 2 kiddies. we have a son jack, 17mths but i'm so afraid that the next one will also be a boy. it's just that i'd really love a daughter. guess i'll just have to cross that bridge when i come to it. good luck  ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: lenabeanz
Date Posted: 13 December 2005 at 10:58pm
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My partner and I were the other way round, I didn't want anymore kids (traumatic experiance for me) - but he wants 2 if not 3.
We have since sat down (quite a few times! and yelled... ALOT!) about reasons for and against - but I have now changed my mind... I think the best way around it is to sit down and say why you want another child, if you can afford it (this was a sticky point for me - as well as labour / birth), and how the other two children will react to a third child etc etc... Be prepared to look at it from his point of view and ask him to do the same for you... Not sure exactly what David and I said to each other when we were going through the same but when I remember bits and pieces I'll let ya know!! Good Luck
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Posted By: nzmumto3
Date Posted: 14 December 2005 at 9:54am
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Thanks guys, I know I should be happy with two but something in me wants one more. And it is not just to get a girl, because I know the odds of that are fairly slim when we already have two boys. I just want a third child. I will keep perservering and hope he changes his mind.
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Posted By: lenabeanz
Date Posted: 14 December 2005 at 3:34pm
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Give it time - your lil boy is 5 months so enjoy his growing up fast stages! and just keep talking to your hubby!
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Posted By: mitch
Date Posted: 19 January 2006 at 4:44pm
| I feel the exact same way, I have two beautiful children a girl who is just about 3 and a wee boy who has just turned 1. I love them both to bits but I would like to have another, my husband always wanted three but now that we have one of each he doesn't want anymore which I thinks completely unfair as you have a baby for a baby not a sex. Also everyone assumes that because you have one of each you won't be having anymore! |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 19 January 2006 at 4:56pm
I feel the same as well -i have 2 girls, and while part of me would like a boy,i have nannied boys and dunno if i could see myself as a mum of a boy, lolol, i think 3 girls would be pretty neat too.. (and less expensive cos i already have everything) Mike has said we are DONE, sometimes he seems like i could sway him, but he has told me that he REALLLLLLY does not want anymore. sometimes i feel like i reallllly want another, but then when it's hectic and crazy and the kids are being nuts and i haven't slept properly for days, I can see where Mike is coming from - cos not only does he have to deal with the kids too, but he also has to deal with me when the kids are like that. lolol poor guy. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: kasbee
Date Posted: 21 January 2006 at 4:23pm
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Hey yep i'm sort of in this situation. This may sound crazy but i think i want one more so i can do one baby again because its so different with 2 babies. My husband has said thats it no more, but i have managed to talk him round abit and he has said that he will consider it when the twins are 5, which is fine with me because i want a big age as i'm not sure what my chances are of having twins again are, so the bigger the age gap the better. For me anyway. ------------- Kelly, mother to 4 wonderful children. http://lilypie.com"> 
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