Spicing up the Baby Dancing
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Topic: Spicing up the Baby Dancing
Posted By: emachan
Subject: Spicing up the Baby Dancing
Date Posted: 02 October 2007 at 8:59pm
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Random subject title I know, but I want to know (you don't HAVE to share intimate details or whatever but...) you know how after a few months of trying for a baby, BDing sometimes (for me at least) a bit *mechanical* or some other word like that!
Anyways - people are always saying, just forget about it and you will get pg, but I CAN'T! I KNOW when I ovulate each month and when my next AF is due.... how can I relax and just DO IT and enjoy making love rather than just BDing! Don't get me wrong, we do have intimate moments but when it comes down to the crunch - we are making love to make a baby! But poor DH sometimes feels the pressure himself and I DON'T want him to - I want him to forget about it as well. Has anyone got any spicy ideas (obviously this site is moderated to a certain degree but you know....!) of how to change BDing into making love again (while still BDing! if you know what I mean!?)  thanks in advance!
emma ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  DD#1 Sept 08 DD#2 Oct 09 |
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Posted By: Brenna
Date Posted: 02 October 2007 at 9:04pm
I got given a booklet of 'vouchers' at my hens night! I think you can get them from places like Bras n Things - have fun!  -------------  My beautiful 2 girls...nearly 4 and 13 months
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Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 02 October 2007 at 9:08pm
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and I'm selling shagvent calenders, they ROCK *ahem* We are doing them for a fundraiser for marlborough parents centre, a few off here have bought them. check out www.shagvent.com and flick me a pm if you are interested. ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: MummyFreckle
Date Posted: 02 October 2007 at 9:16pm
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It seems like a long time ago now that we were "trying".....but yeah I was starting to feel the same way a little bit (all a bit mechanical!). One of the things that I found helpful was not limiting "it" to the bedroom or to nighttime. Sat / Sun morning lazy lie-ins with the paper and coffee, spur of the moment "cuddles" when you least expect them....and the other favourite "the quickie"! Hope thats not TMI!! Good Luck! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 02 October 2007 at 9:37pm
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Yep I agree with SimSam, spurr of the mommet is always good!. Just do somethihng like.....When he is in the shower sneak in too, or just jump him while hes watching tv or something wearing something to "Catch his eye" Hope that helps!! hehe ------------- |
Posted By: kezplanet
Date Posted: 02 October 2007 at 11:19pm
HAhaha - Sorry have to laugh only because its soooo sad, I had almost forgotten what a Sat/sun morn lazy lie in with a paper & coffee was. Now its is only the spur of the moment 'cuddles' when we least expect them and it usually ends up being a quickie lol I hope you find something that makes it more fun for you both so it doesn't seem like a chore. Maybe try dressing up for dh & doing a stripteeze show for him?? sorry not much help. Good luck ------------- Kerryn, Mum to Ashlyn(29/3/04), Anastasia(1/11/05) & Abigail (24/02/09) |
SimSam wrote:Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 03 October 2007 at 8:10am
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i remember only too well hubby saying to me how he didnt want to do it anymore cause it felt like a chore.
what i found helpful was to seduce him and be romantic at other times not just when i knew it could make a baby. and somtimes tho you do have to stop. maybe one day dont have sex when you think it is the right time. feeling like you have to takes the fun out...maybe lose the thermometor (or whatever it is you use) for a month. and stop thinking that you are only having sex to make a baby, cause at the end of the day people do still have sex when that isnt the desired result. |
Posted By: emachan
Date Posted: 03 October 2007 at 9:30am
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Thanks so far for all the *ideas* Without going into too much detail last night DH and I were BD and my brother (who lives with us) came home from work and upstairs to the spare room to get my laptop when we were doing it! We felt like we were naughty kids who'd almost been caught by our mum or dad or something! kinda funny - lucky my brother didn't come in - I think he knew something may've been happening with our door almost shut completely! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> DD#1 Sept 08 DD#2 Oct 09 |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 03 October 2007 at 10:33am
The gremlins were conceived on the spare bed in my office  We were very much the same as you Emachan after 12 months of TTC BDing had become a chore, almost to the point of "do we have to?" "yeah, it's the right time of the month" *groan*
But after the miscarriage we were taking things a little less seriously coz I was in a weird head space, and one evening when I was working Willie came into the office and sat on the spare bed and started talking to me and then one thing led to another and there we were on the spare bed with the curtains wide open for all the world to see. Thank God for the big row of trees in front of our house! It was nice that it was so spontaneous, and I knew I wasn't ovulating till the next day so I didn't feel pressured to 'do it', I was thinking I should hold out till the next day. The next day my friend's little boy passed away so we didn't BD, and two weeks later hello BFP! ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Helen21
Date Posted: 03 October 2007 at 11:39am
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Although it hasn't become too much of a chore for us yet I think maybe it helps that I've stopped talking to him about my cycles so he never really knows if I want it "just cause" or because it's the right time of my cycle. Sometimes I will text him something a little bit naughty while he's at work (the kids go to bed a bit early on those nights! ).
Making the effort to light a few candles and giving each other a massage before bed always seems to work too. 
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Posted By: Mama2two
Date Posted: 03 October 2007 at 8:49pm
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We were exactly like that too. After 5 years of trying it definitley becomes a chore!!!!
Anyway we had decided that it was going to be our last month of fun before we got DH tested and were determined to make it relaxed. In the end we have worked out that my DD was concieved outdoors when things got a little too adventurous on a nature walk 
I think the best thing to do is just have fun and try to remember the times when you first started doing IT. The days when you could hardly keep your hands off each other 
Sorry TMI (I can't believe I actually wrote that  ) How embarrasing ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 03 October 2007 at 9:09pm
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We like to hang together and just enjoy each other's company and let things lead on, but not every time either. I don't know if you are abstaining from alcohol, but wine and crackers and choccies are great ------------- |
Posted By: bumblefoot
Date Posted: 04 October 2007 at 2:11am
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Ok, so a little more honest than I thought I would ever be to 'strangers' ehem, but what the hey, I feel like I know y'all well enough by now. We were finding the same problem, it felt like we were just going thru the motions as it were, and almost doing it out of obligation due to the whole 'got to be in to win, no BD, no chance this month...' type thing. So I stopped telling him about my cycles, and if I had to temp I'd do it in the bathroom so he wouldn't see. Emails and txt messages of a 'sensitive' nature helped with the anticipation, and I have to agree with the above comment on the outdoors, and the potentially getting caught. Outdoors rocks, especially in a thin tent with other campers about! And as for getting caught, we 'ehemed' once at my parents place while on holiday, and we both knew they were pretty light sleepers, so that had a real element of danger to it. I think what has helped is just being spontaneous, and still sensual. So touching, and sensual foreplay certainly help to bring back that 'first date' feeling where you couldn't keep your hands off him. And if you can bear it, maybe stop charting, temping, counting for a month and see how you go, just whenever the whim takes you. Anytime, not just potential baby time. Sorry if this has been TMI, but just thought it was a pretty important issue I had to put my 2cents worth in, for what its worth. Best of luck, and by the by, those calendars are apparently REALLY worth it! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: Helen21
Date Posted: 04 October 2007 at 2:09pm
Not that this has too much to do with it but both my girls were concieved on the night of a 21st party after lots of drink then going back to stay at parents place, in my childhood bedroom while my parent were in the house!!! It all sounds so so very wrong! ....However we are going down to Picton to stay with my parents in a couple of weeks(around the time I ov) no 21st's on though.
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Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 04 October 2007 at 2:38pm
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its my wedding then, tho... ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: Helen21
Date Posted: 04 October 2007 at 3:28pm
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Oooh how exciting if I didn't move up here I wanted to get married at montana, it's just so pretty there. Or I wanted to get married at the founder chapel in nelson since it was born in Nelson. Where about are you having yours? I'll be going though to blenheim on the Saturday to take my Nana out for lunch I might see your wedding car!!
(this is so random but) Next time you go to Nelson you have to stop at Rai Valley and go to the brick oven(it sell country chicken now) there are photo's of my Family there because my Grandad baked the world's longest loaf there! Am I just way too proud?!
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Posted By: emachan
Date Posted: 07 October 2007 at 8:31pm
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for anyone else who's interested - the latest Cosmopolitan magazine has a 'range' of O-positions - to spice up the lovelife and encourage the big O! Was reading it on the plane back home today and tried a couple of the moves on DH this arvo!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> DD#1 Sept 08 DD#2 Oct 09 |
Posted By: emachan
Date Posted: 07 October 2007 at 8:33pm
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oh - also talking about taking the BDing out of the bedroom - DH and I did it in a little remote beachside cave once when we went on holiday! Was rather romantic and Caveman like! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> DD#1 Sept 08 DD#2 Oct 09 |
Posted By: Helen21
Date Posted: 08 October 2007 at 10:36am
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Good on you Emma! Thats a little more adventure than I would be brave enough for. Hopefully the change of scenery has made this your lucky month! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
Chloe 12/7/03 Miya 5/11/05 |
Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 08 October 2007 at 12:51pm
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hiladies, i thought i would pop in and say hi.
We are patiently ttc but stil with no avail. DH isn't really interested in sex and only seems to want to if he knows i'm ovulating or it's the right time etc. i would appreciate some suggestions too please. -------------   
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Posted By: emachan
Date Posted: 10 October 2007 at 9:26pm
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chonny - your DH sounds the opposite of mine! Although my DH does want to know when I am due to ovulate, he'll still want it anytime I'm willing to give it to him! I would just say to your DH that everytime you BD is an opportunity to get pregnant - cos in reality it is! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> DD#1 Sept 08 DD#2 Oct 09 |
Posted By: AngieBabe
Date Posted: 11 October 2007 at 8:24am
Chonny, your DH and mine made out of the same mould it seems! My DH was even getting put off by that so we were down to maybe only twice a month as he was feeling the 'pressure' so I've stopped letting mine know what stage in my cycle I'm at and that seems to have helped reduce the pressure he was feeling to perform as well as getting him out of the mind-set of when he can 'do it'... if that makes any sense!!  ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  
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Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 11 October 2007 at 11:09am
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Angiebabe, i'm lucky if i get it once a month! It's only if i tell him that im ovulating that i usually actually get it -------------
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Posted By: emachan
Date Posted: 11 October 2007 at 3:50pm
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chonny - you definately need to be BD more - not just for baby purposes but just to get going more! I am pretty slack and could go without it for a month or two myself, and sometimes it almost used to be a chore, but as they say, the more you do it, the more your body responds and...... it just gets better! So tell your DH that he needs to get his booty going! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> DD#1 Sept 08 DD#2 Oct 09 |
Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 11 October 2007 at 7:52pm
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i wish it were that easy.........
he claims that because (as christians) it was drummed into him sex is bad, that it means he doesn't want it all the time..... almost three years after being married, it doesn't sit right with me.....but oh well....sorry if TMI -------------
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Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 11 October 2007 at 7:54pm
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i wish it were that easy.........
he claims that because (as christians) it was drummed into him sex is bad, that it means he doesn't want it all the time..... almost three years after being married, it doesn't sit right with me.....but oh well....sorry if TMI -------------
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Posted By: AndysMummy
Date Posted: 12 October 2007 at 8:34pm
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Hi everyone. Just thought I'd say that I have really appreciated reading all your advice as we are having the same problems. Thanks heaps ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 20 October 2007 at 12:18pm
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Well ladies...we are downt o sex is a chore now...and only to serve it's purpose, getting me pregnant. lolo. DH's words not mine..... lol -------------
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 20 October 2007 at 1:26pm
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Oh you poor thing. Perhaps your DH needs counselling (sp?) to get over the whole sex is dirty thing, either that or try slipping some viagra into his dinner lol ------------- 
 
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Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 20 October 2007 at 10:08pm
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well no, now it's because we never seem to have much success with BD. Early release etc so we just going to work on things a bit, but just use it to get me pregnant at teh moment. It was strange hearing it come from a males mouth tho! lol.
How is everyone else's ttc coming along? -------------
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Posted By: bumblefoot
Date Posted: 21 October 2007 at 6:19am
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Chonny, just a thought, but do you think it might help if you perhaps spiced it up a bit, or approached him when he least expects it? Sorry if its TMI, but I know for a fact that most guys can't resist waking up to a bit of a roll in the hay, as it were, ie. waking him up by a bit of touchy feely. Feel free to tell me this is none of my business, just thought that from what you have been saying, you haven't really got anything to lose by trying. Also you could sit down with him and write down all the things he likes you to do to him (in THAT way) and you do the same. You put them in a jar and each day, or every 2nd day (whatever suits you) you pull one out, and have to do it before the end of the day. I guess if all else fails then perhaps it is time he saw a councillor regarding some of his deep set personal issues with sex. (coming from a Psychology student here) it is likely that his being raised christian has done some damage in the way he regards sex, and a councillor could definitely help. But I guess that is all based on him actually wanting to go, but I would say that he would be eager to work thru it for the sake of your relationship. All the best with this, I hope you get some sort of resolution soon. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: bumblefoot
Date Posted: 21 October 2007 at 6:32am
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Oh, and Emachan, it would seem that we are both due to test on Wednesday, funny how it times out like that huh. Best of luck, I don't hold out much hope for us this month, but hey, every month is a lottery isn't it. Babydust to all, and hope you are all managing to spice things up in the boudoir! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 22 October 2007 at 10:33am
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Thanks bumblefoot, that's a relaly good idea about the notes etc.
This is probably tmi but we are trying by just lubing him up and going in me straight away. seems to be working. Otherwise previously he has been trying to get me ready for fun and by the time i'm ready enough to take him, he's about to blow. Yea sorry probably WAY TMI! Deffinately food for thoughyt tho. Thanks. Good luck to all those testing over the next few days. Babydust to all.... Chonny -------------
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 22 October 2007 at 10:46am
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Hey you could try using jonnies when you are not ovulating. We are using them as contraception at the moment and DH takes forever cos he says there is less sensation. (TMI I know but hey its that kind of thread) -------------
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Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 22 October 2007 at 11:05am
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yea we have used them in the past, but DH doesn't like that lack of sensation. lol -------------
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 22 October 2007 at 11:12am
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Men, there's just no pleasing them. lol -------------
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Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 22 October 2007 at 7:56pm
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ain't it the truth
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Posted By: bumblefoot
Date Posted: 23 October 2007 at 10:24pm
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Hey Chonny, have just noticed that you are still breastfeeding Vincent. I'm not sure if you are aware, but for most women, breastfeeding is equal to the pill as a contraceptive. So I'm guessing that your lack of success is largely down to this. Plus, and this is def going to be WAY WAY WAY TMI, BUT have you considered on the days that he isn't interested in sex, then perhaps he could 'do it by hand' into a clean vessel and then you can do the turkey baster technique... I know, not very sexy, but hey, there would be more chance of you getting pg. Apparantly according to new studies in the UK, we need to be BDing every day to two days in order to be more successful. Good luck to you luv, I know how hard this can get. Babydust to all! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 24 October 2007 at 6:56am
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Bfing only works if its exclusive and i'm also pretty sure that you still have to be doing night feeds. There are plenty of people on here who are pg and still bfing. -------------
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Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 24 October 2007 at 12:12pm
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Yea, my doc said that it's not guaranteed to keep you from getting preggy.
After stopping the pill, even with only feeding two to three times a day, i wasnt getting my friend. couple of months later it returned, so at least i know all is working. But even with breastfeeding, my doc said i can stil get pregnant, but might take longer and b a bit harder... -------------
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Posted By: bumblefoot
Date Posted: 24 October 2007 at 4:40pm
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Yep I realise its not foolproof for everyone, so if you are getting AF then it would seem that everything is back to working. But I would agree that it may take longer than usual (ie. if not BFing) And indeed there are many women that use this method to prevent getting pg. (My mother for one!) I personally think its great that you are still BFing, I only hope I can BF our wee one for that long, I think the bond between mother and child is just amazing, and can't wait to experience it. All the best with your TTC, and may we all have a whole bunch of *BABYDUST* to all that are hoping for their little miracle this cycle. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: bumblefoot
Date Posted: 24 October 2007 at 4:45pm
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Ok, just read my last post and realise that it makes it sould like my mother still BFs to stop from getting PG! So to clarify, she USED to when she had us as littlies. But obviously no longer, she had a historectomy nearly 16yrs ago now! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Helen21
Date Posted: 25 October 2007 at 10:04am
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Just thought I'd mention that a friend of mind was (exclusively) bfing and wasn't getting AF at all and fell pg when her son was 10weeks old! Even though she wasn't really wanting another one so soon she was so happy because it took her three years to concieve her son. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: emachan
Date Posted: 31 October 2007 at 8:51pm
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grrr - my DH is the lead architect on a new hotel thats being opened in Christchurch (tomorrow if everything is installed in time) and he's been working like crazy for the last week - they've apparently got bookings for tomorrow and when I went yesterday there was still soooo much to be done! but anyways - he's tired, I'm tired (had swollen glands and sore throat) and that has equalled no BD (even though its not Ov time yet) but without the occassional BD in between, it makes BD during OV feel even more mechanical - cos we're only doing it then!
anyone know how I (and DH) can get some more energy to BD? (I'm not a morning person - I love to sleep in as long as possible, BD or no BD!) ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> DD#1 Sept 08 DD#2 Oct 09 |
Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 31 October 2007 at 9:22pm
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hmmmmmmmmmm - coffee, berrocca? Maybe try offering to massage him after his hard day at work and if it turns into BD great, or share a bath. -------------
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Posted By: Emmecat
Date Posted: 01 November 2007 at 12:00pm
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Emachan- I SOOOOOOOOO know how you feel! My DP has a very physical job, as well as (by nature) not the highest libido I've ever seen! Maybe we all need to have ealier nights and more B12?! -------------   http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 01 November 2007 at 7:54pm
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Hey ladies, i kind of know how you feel as often when i'm in the mood, Dh is too tired. It really sucks. Unfortunately i got no tips on getting more energy sorry. Altho i do find that i have heaps more energy the day after BD, maybe that could be an incentive? PLus it usually helps the guys sleep better i think.... nto me... it doesnt tend to make me tired....am i strange? lol -------------
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Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 07 November 2007 at 11:33am
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i hope you are all going well with the BDing. I was told by a peadeatrician yesterday that it's very hard to actually get pregnant when you are breastfeeding unless you have really high prolatin (?) and estrogen (i think thats what it was)...
As you can imagine that was kind of sucky to hear. Well, breast VERY Sore and engorged, AF not here yet, wondering if i should be patient til say monday or if i should test... Any thoughts? Baby dust to you all..... i hope you having more success than we are... Chonny -------------
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 07 November 2007 at 12:15pm
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I would test...but then I am super impatient with these things and just can't wait. Sensibly you should probably be patient and wait till monday.
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Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 07 November 2007 at 12:38pm
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lol, so i'm not the only one impatient. lol.
I really wanna test, but i really don't wanna get my hopes up etc. Last time it took a while for my HCG to be high enough to show up... mayb i should wait? I just would not cope with too much dissappointment at the moment. nad every other time i test, i get my AF the next day or so.... i'm not sure....???? -------------
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 07 November 2007 at 4:36pm
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I would wait, as you might just get a test that doesn't tell you either way and that would probably be even worse. I know with Spencer, I tested got a negative, then tested and the test didn't work and then tested again and got a positive, but didn't believe it and took another test. Think if I had waited a bit longer I wouldn't have gone through all that. But I had actually lost count of my cycle so didn't really know whether AF was late or not but it was over a week of testing before I got a proper answer and that was horrible. -------------
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Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 07 November 2007 at 7:39pm
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i had similar with vincent, and yea it was horrible, oh well, wait and see what happens i get. I don't feel as if i'm about to get my AF but who knows...
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 07 November 2007 at 8:04pm
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Hi chonny, in my experience the less you are feeding in the day the more ok your fertility is. I bf my first 2 up until about 11 mos, by which time I was already a month pg with the following baby. Engorged breasts can mean anything, especially if Vincent has recently drunk a bit more or less than usual - or even changed times slightly. AF late is promising, but yea I'd wait til Monday. Hope you get the answer you're wanting! ------------- |
Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 15 November 2007 at 9:40pm
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hi ladies, no preggy this time round, really sux...so much so i burst into tears...tragic i know...
My best friend had her babyon Saturday, sooooo cute, made me even more clucky tho...lol How is everyone else going with their BDing? -------------
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Posted By: emachan
Date Posted: 20 November 2007 at 9:23pm
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baby dancing mainly for the purpose of baby making only at the moment sad to say,.... ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> DD#1 Sept 08 DD#2 Oct 09 |
Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 21 November 2007 at 10:48am
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Same here mostly Emma.
Altho having fun with it. -------------
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Posted By: catie
Date Posted: 21 November 2007 at 11:10am
Hey ladies There's a herbal/vitamin supplement that you might want to get DH to try. You'll probably have to go to a specialist health shop to get it. It's called - seriously - Horny goat weed complex . It's in a box, I can't remember the brand, but if you can't find it let me know and i'll check. It's got general male potency and sperm-enhancing herbs and vitamins. Or if you can't find it, or think DH might be put off/insulted by the name, the same company make Tribulus Complex, which is similar. Good luck!
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Posted By: yummylittlemummy
Date Posted: 26 November 2007 at 10:50am
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What about sexy lingerie? Suspenders, teddies, corsets, sexy nighties?
I'm not into the whole toys thing, but I love dressing up and looking sexy for my man, and he loves it too! Teasing him throughout the day about what's to come, jumping him when he least expects it... |
Posted By: yummylittlemummy
Date Posted: 26 November 2007 at 10:51am
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And also, you can get your period while breastfeeding and still not be ovulating.
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Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 28 November 2007 at 9:59pm
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i wouldn't think so because that's what your preiod is, the discharge of the unfertilised egg. -------------
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Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 24 December 2007 at 11:49am
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HI All, anyone had any luck getting preggy yet?
We still trying... Hope you all haev a greta christmas of baby dancing... -------------
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Posted By: sezzyg
Date Posted: 24 December 2007 at 12:03pm
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I have ovulated for the past 2 months put i still get a real heavy period
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Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 24 December 2007 at 3:52pm
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i have been ovulating i'd guess but mine have been light the last couple of months -------------
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Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 27 December 2007 at 1:04pm
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HI Ladies, just wondering if anyone else has pain when they are ovulating? I seem to know when i am as i get these pains in the sides of my lower abdomen, aka where i think it would be my ovaries. But usually only last a day or so, it's stil here today, and started Tuesday avo. Any ideas? I'm starting to get a little worried...
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 27 December 2007 at 1:13pm
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Hey Chonny. I have been having pain ever since AF came back. The docs have done a load of tests including an ultrasound to look for cyst (which they didn't find). Not sure what is going on now, but I get the pain midcycle the first couple of times it lasted for a day or 2 then the next time it lasted for 5 days and this month it started a week after AF and went on pretty much till AF arrived after a very short 26 day cycle. I had the scan towards the end of this cycle so i'm wondering if as the pain was so much worse that i had a cyst that has now popped (which is quite common apparently). Am waiting to see what happens this cycle now before going back to gp.
The pain i have had has been real low, the first few times it felt as though it was all across (but worse on right hand side when doc did exam) last time it was very localised to the right hand side. When I have the pain it is uncomfortable to sit/stand and go to the loo (like the realise of pressure is painful not the actual weeing). This last time walking was very painful and could feel the pain pretty much all of the time no matter what i was doing. Anyway that's probably not much help sorry -------------
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Posted By: NikkiB
Date Posted: 27 December 2007 at 3:51pm
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I've certainly read this thread with interest lol
I can't really offer any new ideas on spicing things up, but I did get ovulation pains (even though they hurt, I found it great because I knew when to do the BD )
I believe I fell pregnant when I stood on my head after doing the BD . My SIL also believes she feel pregnant doing that too! Worth a shot (if not a giggle!!! )
All the best - baby dust your way!!! ------------- A very lucky mummy to two gorgeous boys: RB 3/10/2008 JB 29/12/2009 |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 27 December 2007 at 6:59pm
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I have similar symptoms to cuppatea except that I more feel it with bowel movements and less often with bladder stuff. I was getting pains for 5-7 days before ovulation but then from the day I stopped bleeding until ovulation Now I'm on the pill and the pains have eased substantially and I'm on the waiting list for an op with the anticipation that I will need endometriosis removed
As for spicing things up, we've been talking about this a bit in the last couple of days. We discovered that, coming up 5yrs married and 3 preschoolers, we don't make much time for ourselves during the day. So, particularly while we are on holiday, we are making an effort to kiss and affectionately touch and affirm (words) several times during the day. What a difference it makes!! ------------- |
Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 07 January 2008 at 8:09am
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Thanks guys, the pains dissappeared after about four days, but it was exactly as you described it cuppatea.
Busymum, i wish my hubby was affectionate like that lol. Well, i going to go to dr this month after AF and find out about getting some hormone pills. I have read about them helping breastfeeding mothers to up their levels. Not sure what will happen or whether you can get them in NZ or not, but i figure it worth a shot right? -------------
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Posted By: aussiemum
Date Posted: 08 January 2008 at 8:44am
| Wow, interesting thread! We're onto our 3rd month of trying. I've decided that if I'm not in mood I'm not going to do it even if it may be the right time! I just want to keep things fun at this stage. But outdoors? Ha, not for many years!! |