Kids and nudity

yeah you guys are possibly right about the bath houses BUT i was more referring to home life and bringing up baby.
my brother has been married to a japenese lady now for..years and lives over there. i have been there and they have been here alot. they have two kids now and things are done very privately here AND there. they bath very privately at home (showering before bath) and found it odd for me to suggest doing kids together(very kiwi apparently)
nudity is not embraced or encouraged in the home unless of course bathing and changing which is obviously needed. but there is none of this ' mum and dad waking up and walking around naked bullsh*t....get dressed (even just underwear is okay)!!!kids shouldnt need to get to the stage of feeling uncomfortable....
washing, yes..getting dressed, yes...toddlers running around, yes.......cant think of much more thats acceptable.
am i a prude???? hahaha
dont jump down my throat either...i cant be bothered arguing...im just giving my opinion.

You obviously have very strong feelings on the subject....

I dont mind if my girls see me naked, ,my big girl is pointing out my 'boobies' cause Im breastfeeding, and she has started pointing out her baby sisters too. I think she likes that we are the same
DH tends to be quite quick about chucking clothes on etc , cause she has started to look, we dont think now is a good age to discuss this subject - she is likely to announce it somewhere very inappropriate
DH has never showered or bathed with our babies, not that it was an issue he just hasnt, but I wouldnt like him to shower with our eldest now, shes almost as tall as his 'hip'
I dont when any thing like this should stop - but 14 is too old for showering - I think modesty is a good thing to teach - cant have them showing there good bits around - they need to learn boundaries - even if it is your folks

kiwisj wrote: I grew up in a home where nudity was definitely ok. We used to camp at mapua, near Nelson, which is still clothes-optional part of the year and only stopped going when I was about 8 or so because mum thought it might make me uncomfortable (seeing other ppl, I think).

Haha, my parents took me there during 'clothing optional season', I think I would have been about 6 or 7. I remember suddenly noticing that people were naked. I have a clear memory of watching 2 men playing tennis with their bits wangling about. That was a little disturbing, any older and I would have been scarred for life

I only think its inappropriate when its little kids in the nake at a very public beach or something, just because you don't know who's looking.

I would be extremely uncomfortable showering with my 14yo but if mom and daughter are cool with it then thats all good!

I will have to work on my naked shyness as i don't want baby to have the same hangups i do. I can't even pee if someone is nearby and turn the taps on full even at home and despite being with my ex for years i still never showered with him or walked from bed to bathroom naked, or stripped off in front of him i'd make him close his eyes or take a sheet with me. That, IMO, is not normal and don't want to raise a repressed child!

I remeber being about 4 or 5 and talking to my dad while he was in the bath all i did was ask what was floting in the bath lol and it was the last time i was allowed in the bath with dad. W ith James and Hemi we are pretty non plused about nudeity the boys love being nakey and have only just started wee togs at the beach on hot days but at home i dont get a chacse to hide it will stop as soon as he or we get abbrassed

DS still jusmps in the bath every now and again with me or Dh and I'm not fussed about getting dressed in front of him. He is nearly 5 so I can't see it going on for much longer but we'll see how we go.

DS is best mates with the little girl next door who is a couple of months older. They kept getting nude when they were playing together. I wasn't too fussed about it but her parents were really freaked out and made a huge deal out of it like they were about to start having sex or something. It actually bothered me I felt like they were calling my 4 year old a perv.

I have no problems being naked in front of my 3 year old DD. Like someone else said, I would hate for her to have body issues - I am a large build (aka fat!) and I like that she can see my body and see that I am not ashamed of my size.

I grew up with a mother who blamed me for her stretchmarks and my brother for her sticky out tummy (because if it wasn't for him needing to get out the sun roof at 26 weeks gestation her tummy muscles wouldn't be rooted). My mum had/has body hang ups and I don't want to be the same and pass these onto my daughter. DD knows that my stretchies are my "special lines" from growing her in my tummy - not something to be embarrassed about.

DD will hopefully realise that people come in all shapes and sizes and that is ok.

DH is a bit funny about being nude in front of her but in saying that he does shower with her. He comes from a different sort of family than I do.

I guess I want my kids to think of body parts as body parts and nothing dirty or to be ashamed of. Although I do like DD to have modesty in public - god I hate her even showing her knickers in skirts or dresses - she has to wear leggings or matching bloomers.