Just wondering

I have been wondering alot lately, and after reading many of the postts, why people try different methods to choose the gender of their baby and why people find out the gender at one of their scans. I was never worried about trying for a particular gender baby and didn't know what gender we were having until Jack was born. I am a very organised person (well I was before jack arrived) which is why I think quite a few people were surprised that we didn't find out.
I don't mean to offend anyone, I am just curious. So why did you find out?

Edited by Linzy

i really wanted to know...for similar reason to mel..but i had my heart set on a boy and wanted to know if i was right.. also a lot of relatives wanted a girl so i wanted to know..and i felt like I deserved to know after going through the mc..lol.. and it did help me 'bond' more with him too.. also i assumed they would have to look closely because my brother has a genetic bone disease so i figured i would find out then as well(in the end didnt have a CVS) ..at the time i couldnt understand why people didnt find out.. but next time we may not..not sure:)

I had to find out becuase I'm so darn nosey!! I can't even wait a week or whatever to find out what my Christmas are so I was not waiting a full nine months to find out the gender!

For us it also a lot nicer to be able to think in terms of "her" instead of "the baby" or even worse "it" and we could shop accordingly for clothes etc.

We didn't try for a particular gender though, we would have been happy either way. Heck the month we fell pregnant was the month we weren't even trying!

we named him that day:) and we dont regret it either(well i dont DH never wanted to know)

We found out because we're too impatient.
DH really wanted a girl, as did I, but at the end of the day we'd have been happy with either.

One of the biggest reasons was so we could bond before she was born. I didn't like the idea of saying "it" about the bump. I liked that I could say "ooh! She's being a ratbag in there!!".

We'd picked her name before we even knew but we kept it to ourselves, never referring to her as "Hannah" until she'd arrived, so we kept her name as a surprise to everyone, even though they (and us) knew she was a girl.

But I completely understand why people don't, too. I often thought how lovely it would've been to find out when she was born... but I'm glad we chose (and were able) to find out.

Sort of the same as babykiwi, with my first preg where I lost my boys at 20weeks we had not found out and this time we did from the emotional side, I needed to feel like I had some control over everything since with my boys we had really had no control over anything after we had the 19 week scan.
Next time I don't think we will find out. I really don't mind what sex. Looking back we are really pleased to have found out we were having a boy again, gave me time to deal with everything before he arrived on the scene!

I am a big planner too - you should have seen the planning that went into our UK holiday a few years back! . Yet I was happy to wait the 9mths, we painted the room yellow and I bought yellow, white and green clothes. I can understand many of the reasons mentioned for finding out. DH wanted to know and he said he wants to know for any future babies, but the meanie that I am said no, I'm doing the work and I don't want to know. Plus he couldn't keep a secret to save himself!! I found out I was pg when I was only about 4wks, told him and within days he had spilt the news to my brother!!

Curiousity got the better of us and buying all white/green/yellow stuff was really boring. All the super cute stuff I thought was blue or pink so I wanted to be able to buy everything I wanted before he arrived.

Initially I didn't want to know and DH did, which is funny cos I'm the one who shakes the xmas pressies under the tree

Anyway once we found out it was twins we figured that was surprise enough

I was adamant i wasnt going to find out with Eden, DH said he wanted to know (we knew with Izobel) so he could 'plan' but really it was because he was JUST NOSEY!
But then i saw Edens legs really clearly at the scan realised there was nothing in between them and because i thought she was a girl already i said "shes a girl isnt she?" and the scanner lady confirmed it, i was so please we found out in the end, but for the next one we wont find out!