How do stop feeding her to sleep?

I'm not sure if this is much help but I found that getting our daytime routine sorted really had a good effect in the night. I started doing the feed, play, sleep thing in the day - the first time I tried it I was sure it wasn't going to work but it did (much to my surprise) and although it's taken a wee while to really get it down pat it seems to be working a treat now. I was still feeding Blake to sleep at bedtime though but in the last few weeks I've started putting him down awake and it's been fine, I think because he's so used to doing it in the day that he knows what to do. It didn't seem to make much sense not doing the same thing for every sleep.

I don't really know how to help, I'm still finding my way, but I would suggest trying to establish some kind of pattern during the day first when hopefully you're not so tired - who can think straight at 2 in the morning! I also found the Baby Whisperer books and the Sleep Sense programme really useful too ( I have the Sleep Sense on my computer if you'd like me to send it to you) and I also wrote down what my 'plan of attack' was going to be and what to do if it didn't go to plan so that I didn't have to think at the time, I could just refer to my notes.

I really hope things get better for you, we had a few weeks of Blake waking every 3 hours during the night and I felt like I was going insane, sleep deprivation really is torture!

Haylie refuses to take a dummy, she has since birth. She also refuses to take a bottle.

I really like the idea of writing down a plan. I think this is what I raelly need to do. Last night I tried PUPD, and after 30 mins it seemed to work but then she got very upset again and I gave in a fed her. I'm still feeding her to sleep in the day so I think if I can stop that then it might make night easier.

Hugs hun, it must be so hard especially with a 3 yr old running you ragged as well!

One of the things The Sleepstore articles said that really resonated with me is that you have to be consistent with whatever you choose - if you're strict about self settling all day then feed them to sleep once you're back at square one. I just went to look up the article that said that and actually there's a case study that's very similar to your situation (feeding a 7 month old to sleep) so you might want to look that up.

Good luck!