Help! Getting 3yo to sleep in own room??

Since hes now sleeping well on the mattress in your room I would let him sleep on that mattress but it his room,...or even progressively closer to your bedroom door then in the hallway etc.
My son is 2 1/2 and has never been a good sleeper. After his bath we read books in his room, then DH cuddles him in the dark then lays him down, tells him its bed time and to stay in his bed and he walks out and DS goes to sleep. This is HUGE- it took ages of DH laying on the ground next to DS's bed til he fell asleep then progressed to this. He still wakes at night but is settled by a quick cuddle. We have found that sleep spray from Manutuke Herbs has helped heaps too!

Cos he is over 3 possibly a reward chart will work too. It was about that age that we got DD (now 5 1.2) a clock from thesleepstore that glows when she is allowed to get up in the morning- we started with making that til 6am since we struggled to get her to sleep in til 5.30am,..and did this in combination with a star chart.

Make the chart for something subjective not objective- like - you will get a sticker on the chart in the morning if u stay in your bed all night. Make the goal reachable- like maybe 5 nights of sleeping all night in his own bed gets a reward.

Good luck, hope some of that helps!

Yeah I should add thats its very common for kids to still be needing comfort/reassurance from their parents in the night until they are 5. We battled with all sorts of methods but Isla was 4 3/4 til she finally got to the point where we knew she would sleep through every night.

You might find u all sleep better with him on a mattress in your room than having to get up to him in his room. It wont be forever!

We had a similar issue with DD1 recently which I *think* we've sorted. She started coming into our room not long after we had DD2. At first it was 4am or later and not very often. It gradually became earlier and more often until it was every night, starting at about 11pm. I was too tired from getting up to DD2 so let it slide. The habit stuck and eventually, none of us were getting much sleep.

So what I did (after being suggested on a parenting forum) was explain to her that from now on, she was to sleep in her bed and if she came into our bed/room, I would take her straight back. Honestly, I didnt think she would comprehend what I was saying but what did I have to loose!? DH had to be fully on board with it as if DD2 woke, I needed to feed her so he needed to help with DD1.

The first night I put her to bed with a little chat of 'stay in bed or I bring you back'. It was the usual story, in she came at 11pm so I took her straight back to her bed. I sat with her til she settled (didnt take long luckily as she was pretty dozy), then went back to bed. This happened about 4-5 times, each time straight back. It was vital I didnt just give in so I persevered.
Second night, little chat before bed again. She came in onceat about 1-2am, I took her back and she stayed there the rest of the night.
Third night, little speech, stayed in bed all night. I was speechless!

Since then, Ive had to take her back the odd time. Some of those, Ive just put her in bed and walked away. Some Ive ended up sleeping in her bed with her but overall the difference is amazing! We are all getting much more sleep and a better quality of sleep without being kicked in the head by a toddler

It might not work for everyone but I have heard of loads of others doing the same with great results. I still do the little chat with her every night - I think she understands more than I gave her credit for

Good luck, either way it wont be forever and if him sleeping on a mattress in your room gets the most sleep for everyone (especially with little miss waking lots), it might be best to leave it a little longer, or perhaps even letting him sleep on the mattress but in his room as Kellz suggested

You have to be consistent. Every time the child gets in your bed in the middle of the night you have to put them back to their own bed. My middle child was a shocker at sleeping in our bed and it was horrible cause nobody but him would get a decent sleep. My husband would leave him in there and then complain how tired he was. Once he started being consistent though it get easier and he eventually got the message and stopped coming in.
Also diane levy has some really good methods in her books for this kind of problem so i would suggest getting one out of the library.