Sleeping progress - or not!

One thing I need to keep reminding myself is every baby is different, and I need to stop comparing Blair to others his age. As a first time Mum, I find it really easy to see what another bub the same age is doing and wondering why B isn't doing that, or when he will - rolling is a prime example. I figure that these things will come with time, and will happen when they do. B was sleeping thru - ok it was only for about 3 weeks and has started to wake again, and sometimes it's once a night, sometimes twice, sometimes he's mega hungry, sometimes he's not.    It's not really an answer, but letting you know you're not alone

Not to depress you but Jack is 10 1/2 mths and if he only wakes twice in the night then it's a brilliant night for us! Everyone in our coffee group seems to be sleeping through and I find that hard sometimes, especially when they have a little grumble about their baby waking once during the night! You will possibly find that sleeping patterns continue to change as different milestones occur such as starting solids, crawling, teething etc. Apparently babies practice things in their REM sleep so at the moment Jack practices his crawling which is I think one of the things that wakes him at the moment.

Sorry I am not giving you a very positive answer!

Thanks everyone, all valid comments. You're right, he is only young (although it seems a lifetime ago since I gave birth) and I should be patient. I don't compare anything else he does with other babies but I guess night sleeps impact directly on me. I'd be more than happy with J waking a couple of times a night, but four times every night is beginning to take it's toll. He also seems to be feeding longer too - 20 to 30 minutes each time, whereas in early days he only needed 5-10 minutes at most. I wonder if there's something up with my milk?

What is his feeding like during the day? Babies need to get a certain amount of calories in each day, and if they dont get them during the day they will get them at night. How many hours apart is he feeding? Perhaps make the gaps slightly smaller and slip in at least one more feed.

ALternatively, is he snacking during the day? You know what I mean - feeding frequently but never taking in a full fed? If so, then get tough and have at least a 2 hour gap between feeds (from start to start). I personally found 3 hours worked best with LIly during the day and yes, I woke her to achieve that for most feeds (the dream feed I would let run to about 4 hours if I was staying up). Lily only ever woke once for a feed during the night - around 3 am, becasue I could be sure that she was taking enough full feeds during the day.

Thirdly, are you cluster feeding in the early evening? Going from the feeding schedule to basically side to side swapping any time from around 5pm (annoying I know as it is dinner time bt hey, sleep is even more important!) can fill them up with high calorie BM and get them sleeping longer stretches.

Finally remember that only 25% of babies sleep through at 3 months, and a sleep through is anything from 6 hours. So your bubba is normal - sadly - but the above things can help you get the extra sleep you need.

My 1 year old slept through form about 4 weeks, till she got to about 5 months, and now I get up to her twice, soemtimes more a night, and have done since the 5 months mark. There is alot of delevopmental stuff going on when they are so little like your wee man, and just when you think you have got it sussed, the go and change the rules on you. It is very hard, especially when "everyone" elses babies "sleep through", and it's really hard to not compare yourself to the "coffee group myth". Personally, I would take it with a grain of salt. Some peoples "sleeping through" is different to others. Technically, plunket etc say sleeping through is only doing 5 straight hours, so....
Some of these mums may be starting the day at 6am, and baby may be waking for a feed before mum retires for the night, so in reality, it's only 6 or 7 hours.

It does end, my 2y 9 m son has only just started sleepign though in the last 2 months.

Don't beat yourself up! You are doing a great job, and every baby is different, and you will learn to cope withthe tired, lol, and it will become your new normal!

By the way I am a single Mum so no partner to take over nightshift unfortunately