sleep at 5 weeks

right lots of people seem to have babies who are sleeping through....not mine:) but he does 3-4 hour stretches of sleep which is fine by me...during the day he mostly goes back to bed(with a little play) and a bath at night.. i just go by his cues...

i do try the one hour turn around but it doesnt always work and he will have one 2-3 hour at a time awake period during the day(better than4am like it used to be) :)

anyway today the lack of sleep has got to me (probably the bleeding thing :( making me more tired and grumpy))....anyway so my question is when trying to keep to the one hour turnaround(or close) when he goes over that time and is overtired it takes ages to settle him..or like last night i did nothing different at all and first time straight to sleep next time up 330-530:(

any suggestions for faster turnaround...

I'm not against formula feeding at night.. or rocking to sleep(even that takes 45 mins if he doesnt wanna sleep)i know if they dont wanna sleep you cant make them but man at 530am i was sooo tired..then he woke at 7am:( (not normally what happens) or anything that works:)

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thanks for that link..co-sleep scares the crap outta me..its mostly due to being forced to at the hospital and twice falling asleep after feeding at home on the chair it freaked me out..even though i know its mostly safe.. yeah bed early is a good one..i have to start doing that..I'm so stubborn:)!when he is asleep in the bouncer im too scared to sleep worried bout blankets on him etc.. though getting better now he used to do most day sleeps in bouncer...he just does the first one normally now(though not today of course)

Also have you thought about having a couple of bottles ready (breast or formula) one night a week and telling your DH he’s on feeding duty from 10pm – 7am that one night every week?

as far as this no.....he's supposed to do last feed with EBM but he will fall asleep before then or i send him to bed as he has to work and its useless forcing him to stay up.. i would love him too and sometimes he gets up and is great other times like last night he slept through everything including accidental alarm being set off...i get a bit pissed off..he's our baby not just mine:( in the weekends easier sometimes to just do it myself (breasts getting full etc) and if i keep expressing we end up wasting it though i have freezer bags now... i guess i just need to tell him what i need as he puts it...cant he figure it out.....:) lol...sorry anyway those are fab suggestions and i must actually start doing them instead of being pig headed:)

As the OB article says “just do what you need to do to enjoy the first few months with your baby.”

lol...i love Ethan and enjoy the day times and being a parent but i gotta say i thought the first few months would be a little more.. shared with Dh (who goes on about how he's soooooo tired after 8 hours sleep..lol) and a little less scary:) still its getting better!

Tom didnt sleep through until just recently but I got very good at feeding half asleep. I also found things got easier when I didnt have to change his nappy in the middle of the night.

As for your DH, they often dont know what to do with little babies and he will get better as Ethan becomes more interactive. I would make him get up over the weekend.....even if you have to get up and express. I found it was nice to have the company if nothing else. My DH had bruises in his back during that time

Even now he is slow to get up and doesnt hear Tom and by the time I have woken him up I wonder if it is just easier to do it myself (and I normally have to join him anyway) but I continue to make him get up and he (says) he doesnt mind and that is what he is there for.

He is actually really good at taking Tom in the morning to let me have a lie in. He will bring Tom in for his feed and then take him away and I can go back to sleep.

Funnily enough the very first night tom slept through was a night when I had said to DH "i am so exhausted, please please please can you deal to him this night". So DH slept lightly so that he wouldnt miss him and little bugger slept 12 hrs! and has done since....bloody murphys law.

nzpiper- yeah atm i have to change him every feed...he pooes EVERY feed so if i didnt have to change him that would make a huge difference.. when did that stop for you?

yeah atm i try to get him up..half the time he doesnt get up the other half he looks like a walking zombie then is 'soooo tired ' all day but if i say get up he will its when i and i quote' dont exactly say what i want him to do' that he ignores me and goes back to sleep...I'm like you are not an idiot you can see what i need doing..lol... sometimes its just not worth the drama.. but then i get sick of doing it myself too! but when he does help he is brilliant.. !!he always baths him too i must admit!

i just rea don..yeah well DH says he doesnt mind once hes up but then all day hes so tired and grumpy and really i cant be bothered with it sometimes.. as i told him last night and i think he got the idea as he rang at lunch just to see how we are:)
i guess when Ethan is bigger it wil be easier..but there's no way he would her him first..he can sleep through the monitor by his head unless 'he knows hes in charge' ....lol the perils of marrying a blokey bloke builder!:)

so thats all i have to say to get him to sleep 12 hours..awesome:)!! though i panic when its longer than 3 atm!!hehe cant win.

I agreeing with only changing the nappy if it's pooey or really wet. I wish I know this earlier as I only started doing this a few months ago and it has helped as nappy changing really woke Jack up. I just smoother him in a bit more nappy cream than usual.

What I also found good was feeding Jack in our bed when he was little - I too was scared of bed sharing when he was younger and have only just started to do it now that he's bigger. He slept in our room and I would just put the bedside light on prop myslef up with a tripillow and feed him in bed. DH didn't mind as he generally slept through, I didn't seem to wake up so much either and found I wasn't as tired, plus it wasn't so lonely even though DH was asleep.

I does get easier... my oldest two didn't sleep through until 10-11 mos

thanks everyone.. yeah i will be just much happier when it takes less time at night and he just wakes up once..that would be wonderful:) i just read 10 % of babies dont sleep through at 12 months!!!!!!!!!!!!

last night slept 4 hours then up for 1.5 (even Dad tried and it didnt work to get him back to sleep and i tried EVERYTHING..) and then slept 3 hours...up for 30mins and back to sleep so its getting better:) ..though DAd is leaving for work now and his big stupid noisy car sometimes wakes him up:( !!!

The otehr interesting thing about sleeping through is what peple count - I read that over 6 hours is sleeping through...

Yeah well Luke has been sleeping at least 6 hours from 6 weeks, but has just started doing 12 hours this week. I don't want to skite, but was just trying to understand what people meant by sleeping through.

Yeah body was still waking, and so I was going in to tuck himin /check on him or whatever. But last night he slept right through - so I did as well!!!

Also, he built up from 6 hours, adding on about 1/2hr more each week... He has been doing over 10 hours for the last month...


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