So..... how’s your perenium? (TMI)

Because mine's not great.

It *still* stings like a bearch when I have a BM. And I can feel where I tore just inside my vjj and there is a stingy bit there too.

Went to the Dr today but it was a locem and he was really nervous (as in he couldn't even say 'vaginal birth') and only checked my bottom as he had to have the nurse in to watch if he checked my vjj and she was busy.

He prescribed me some lactulose (at my suggestion) and said my vjj is fine (yes, he must have been a psychic dr....)

Anyway, I have been to scared to try 'special cuddles' at all since the birth.

I just want to know if anyone else took this long to heal (it was a 2nd degree tear) and also whether I will ever be able to have relations with DH again???

I mean, I know my bits will never be the same, but does anyone else have a 'sore bit' and still manage relations without, y'know, breaking it?

Yeah, I did hold paper on my perenium for quite a few weeks but now it makes no difference.

I will get a second opinion but I need to wait a few weeks until I have more money. Cost me $35 today, it's a lot for our tight budget.

Good idea Kellz.

6 months later, things don't feel back to normal - bit sensitive and sore inside on the rare occasions we have sex! Some positions are better than others. Lubricant helps. Condoms are horrible and I am sorer with them. (Might help if I didn't keep forgetting to take the pill).

I don't have a clue if I tore - I had a whopping episiotomy (done by registrar) - my MW's reaction when she saw it was "ouch, that's the worst I've seen in a long time" so am guessing it wasn't just a small nick!

So, in long, yes, you can have special relations! Do it at a time when you are relaxed and there isn't time pressure!

i also had a 2nd degree tear with lots of stitching. i know there is still scar tissue there, and i have numb areas down there too! lol i second the lots of lubricant, and fortunately i've been good at remembering to take my pill, as the thought of condoms is ouchie. i've been trying to keep up with my pelvic floor exercises, and think they have helped a bit.

tbh, alot of the issue for me was that i was expecting sex to hurt alot, so i was really tense, but it actually didn't hurt that much at all. lol

I had an episiotomy and a 2nd degree tear inside and I feel completely normal, no pain with BM or wees. Nothing hurts when I move or sit etc. haven't tried sex yet as am still bleeding but I don't think it is gonna hurt, hope it doesn't anyway.
I would definitely go back and see the doc again, could you book in with a female doc at your surgery? The last time I needed an internal exam that is what I did, that way they don't need the nurse there and it's a little less embarrassing all around.