SAHM Domestic Goddess - nah uh

AGHHHH, I'm a SAHM but HATE doing the daily domestic crap. I LOVE being a mummy and spending all the time with my boys but am getting so so sick of the daily cleaning, washing etc etc. I used to really enjoy my previous job pre-baby but now I don't (SAHM)! I've never been a domestic goddess & am realising why. DH does dinner & helps clean when he gets home but there is still so much daily crap to deal with.

The days I venture out I just come home to a messy house & I don't like that either - I'm stuck. Really just ranting away here sorry but any advice out there on how you cope. I think I need a hobby or something.

Rant over

I feel your pain, only it must be much worse for you having two munchkins to deal with! (Just wait until they're crawling and pulling out everything you've just put away )

One of my aims for these school holidays was to get on top of my CHAOS (can't have anyone over syndrome), well there's only a couple of days left and it hasn't happened yet... I better pull finger

I'm loving the Totally Together blog (same lady as 'A Year of Crockpotting' which I'm always recommending), go have a nosey at her site. It's split into 'Personal Development', 'Clean Less Play More', 'Meal Planning' and 'PROM' (Purge, Remove, Organise, Maintain). In particular I'm trying to implement her 'Daily 7 for a Highly Successful Household'. (I'm really struggling with keeping my kitchen sink empty and completing my laundry - it gets washed and dried ok but the end of the cycle is a problem!) She has a book coming out soon and I'm thinking of ordering it.

Oh yes, with you here. For me its like groundhog day. DH is keen on us getting a nanny and will do that for a term via the Nanny College but I wonder if what we really need is a clearner who maybe comes in twice a week. I just don't prioritise it because being on the computer is higher up the list than doing cleaning.

Haven't come to any conclusions yet and luckily DH is not fussed about having a tidy house or anything but I know I feel better if the house is tidy

Oh I feel your pain too!
I went out today and came back and wished I hadnt!

Right now I feel like running away. I have tea to cook, feed the kids , dishes to do, washing to dry and fold. Then its vacuuming all the crumbs from afternoon tea off the floor, DHs lunch to make, baths to do... stories...mine and DHs room to clean as a mini hurricane went through it just as I was getting ready to leave this morning. Argh! All before inspector DH gets home from work at 7pm. Im on here procrastinating.....

Oh man, I know how you feel about not really being a Domestic Goddess. I love taking care of C and I also love cooking/baking but that doesn't really fit so well with a 4mo at the moment The cleaning is waaaaaaaaaaay down my list. We are lucky that it is relatively cheap (and easy) to get home help here so we have a cleaner once a week (sometimes twice) ... if you can work your finances so you can afford it I HIGHLY recommend a cleaner vs a nanny if you are happy doing the kid thing. What is the point paying someone to have fun with your kids so you can do the housework?

My MIL was here last month and I felt pretty inadequate as she was constantly telling me how she used to get everything done with her two kids. Hmmm that's nice, but it didn't take her 3 hrs to do the grocery shopping (round trip) and she had a car (just as an example).

But her tips were probably valid - chose ONE thing to do each day (eg clean the bathroom or vaccum the floors or whatever) and don't stress about the rest. Personally, that would drive me mental coz then nothing really looks done so you might as well not do it I much prefer going hard all in one morning but I concede that that isn't really practical now we have a baby so hiring a cleaner it is!

Daisy - Grrr to DHs that make themselves food and leave the mess for you to clean up. My DH has been spoilt for too long!!!!!

OMG - am SO with you Anakk, I think that's the worst part. You clean & clean just for it to get messy the next time the boys eat & don't feel like you've got anywhere just to go to bed & start all over again!

I like the site Rach, will do my 10mins tidying before I go to bed. That way I can rope DH in on it too.

Daizy: Boo to DH. Likely my DH is great though so I can't complain there. If he has time he does a bit of cleaning in the morn & when he's home for lunch he sometimes hangs the washing out ( I hate hanging the washing out) & he cooks so all in all he's great.

kiwisj: Boo aswell to MIL, they don't realise that we may not enjoy the duties of being a domestic goddess unlike them back in those days where they would pride themselves on being a great housewife & 'caring' for their DH! Especially hard when you have important 'work' (OhBaby) to do on the computer!

oh boy do i hear yah guys, i get so frustrasted that i clean up and then 5mins later its like a hurricane has gone through the place.

we have those 3 tier storage bins for toys, and we are teaching dd that she has to put away her toys before another one is played with, and at the end of night just before bath and dinner (when dh gets home), she helps us do a quick tidy up

I have a Monday to Saturday list on the fridge. It's not hard and fast but it helps to keep things on track. For example, on Tuesdays I take out the rubbish, clean the toilets and mop all the floors. Fridays I vacuum upstairs, tidy the study and change the beds... you get the idea. Basically I do a room per day plus a couple of smaller chores. If I don't get everything done one day, I know it can wait until the next week. And if I get everything on my list done in a day, I feel very pleased with myself and I sit down with a cuppa and let everything else await its designated day - instead of taking on too much at once.

I was born with a defective Domestic Goddess gene, periodically it functions perfectly but for the most part it is nonexistent.

I pay a cleaner once a week, best $65 I spend each week. And I tend to only have visitors on a Thurs or Fri after the cleaner has been and before the kids have had time to demolish the place again.

Oh and my nanny does the laundry