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Bexee 
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Posted: 18 April 2009 at 8:59am |
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Right, so I'm now 23 weeks pregnant and have made my way through many of the pregnancy books - what good ones would you recommend about what to do when bub's actually arrives. I haven't had much experience with babies and am starting to get terrified!!!
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Posted: 18 April 2009 at 9:01am |
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I would go with "The Baby Whisperer - solves all your problems" I wish I had of read this before bubs was born. There are alot of copies on TM usually or fishpond has some good deals on it too sometimes.
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Posted: 18 April 2009 at 9:19am |
The happiest baby on the block! It has the most awesome settling technique out there 
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Posted: 18 April 2009 at 10:37am |
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Oh yeah I'm with LF the happiest baby on the block is great! I also used Babywise right from the start and Jake was sleeping through by 7 weeks, was really happy and I liked having a routine. I really recommend it!!
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Rachael21
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Posted: 18 April 2009 at 10:59am |
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It really depends on your whole philosophy on parenting. Maybe go to the library and flick through a few to see what you like.
Personally I love the 'Womanly Art of Breastfeeding' by the La Leche League and 'Baby and Child' by Penelope Leach
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Posted: 18 April 2009 at 2:24pm |
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The library is your friend. I really like save our sleep and it has really helped us with my sons sleep.
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Posted: 18 April 2009 at 4:40pm |
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I agree, it kind of depends on what you want.
I am a real routine person and needed something that would give me any clue what to do with a baby so liked Gina ford and the baby whisperer.
As for sleeping etc.... you kind of need to know if you think you'd be ok with letting your baby cry a bit or not, as different books have so many different methods.
I would also say pop to the library have a look at a few and see which one you think you like.
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Posted: 18 April 2009 at 7:42pm |
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Personally I like "Sleeping like a Baby" by Pinky McKay and the "No cry sleep solution" books by Elizabeth Pantley as they suit my parenting style. Even if they don't quite match yours though they are really good at understanding how babies sleep.
I originally got them both out from the library and have later purchased them
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Posted: 18 April 2009 at 8:48pm |
I agree with the others that it depends on the syle of parenting you think you will do. I personally found the following ones great reads:
- Understanding Your Crying Baby by Sheila Kitzinger
- No Cry Slep Solution by Elizabeth Pantley (already mentioned)
- Night Time Parenting by Dr William Sears
- The Fussy Baby Book by Dr William Sears (actually any book by him)
I borrowed mine from the local library, they are a great source to get a feel for what is out there. I personally stay away from implementing anything by authors like Gina Ford and Tizzy Hall because they seriously clash with my views on how children "should" be raised...but you can read them to get a perspective on what is out there; it's what I did. LOL
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Posted: 19 April 2009 at 1:34pm |
Agree that it definitely depends on your style and what you think you will be like HOWEVER you if this is your first you probably won't know until bubs arrive what your style will be and what will make you (and baby) happy.
I read Gina Ford and the Baby Whisperer books many times before C arrived (because of my job lol) and thought that would be the way I'd go .. I think there's a lot of great info in any of those. If you like the Baby Whisperer, her second book "The Baby Whisperer solves all your problems" is far more detailed than the first book so I'd recommend that.
For general parenting I have found Robin Barker's Baby Love excellent. No nonsense and fairly balanced and nothing too in your face. Plus there's a great chapter for Dads to Be as well 
Finally, the library is definitely your friend - and Oh Baby  No matter which style you decide is for you there will be someone on here doing something similar (or different!) to give you advice or suggestions if you ask
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Posted: 22 April 2009 at 9:46am |
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Yep definitely recommend the Baby Whisperer from the public library - I wish I had read it before my baby arrived!
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Posted: 22 April 2009 at 10:27am |
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Like the others said, use the library.
It really all depends on your parenting philosophy, and guess what, you won't really know what that is until baby is here.Believe me (Mine changed the minute Mika was born).
For me, I hate the "routine books". I did like "Sleeping like a baby", which Linzy mentioned. And I really recommend the books written by Sears. They are about attachment parenting, and even if you don't want to do everything they recommend, they never make you feel bad. I found that the routine books, which everybody seems to love, made me feel really inadequate, and it also goes very much against my parenting believes .
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Posted: 22 April 2009 at 1:19pm |
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I have a very well thumbed copy of Oh Baby by Kathy Fray. It's a NZ book and really practical. Liked the sleep and newborn advice.
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Posted: 22 April 2009 at 1:21pm |
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Oh, and I also have Dr Miriam Stoppard's 'First Time Parents' - again practical and lots of photos. Discusses the basics of bathing baby, changing nappies even!
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Posted: 22 April 2009 at 8:31pm |
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I liked both the Baby Whisperer and Oh Baby by Kathy Fray, but most importantly I think is to have the attitude of taking in ideas you like and discarding the ones that dont suit you and your family - dont let the books tell you if you are good mummy or not, use them as a tool box for parenting - some tools you use/need on a day to to day basis, others are pulled out in emergencies and others never even get taken out the packaging!
The Gina Ford books have some useful tidbits of info even if you are not into serious routine orientated parenting that she promotes.
But definately raid the library and see what takes your fancy and then once baby is here you might decide to puchase a copy of the book that feels most in tune you how you want to do things.
ETA the best thing about the Kathy Fray book is the section that details by age the typical developmental/emotional stages, things like at 17-18weeks this is a typically happy/sad/clingy/playful time etc etc many times I've been pulling my hair out thinking what is wrong with my baby and that section has confirmed a particularly difficult period and seeing that the following weeks have a sunny period always makes me feel better!
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Posted: 23 April 2009 at 8:45am |
 JessDub wrote:
I have a very well thumbed copy of Oh Baby by Kathy Fray. It's a NZ book and really practical. Liked the sleep and newborn advice. |
x2! borrowed this one from a friend and I wish I had read it before giving birth!!!!!
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