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Huggles 
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Posted: 20 May 2009 at 8:59am |
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i have a 5 week old baby and absouletly hates going to sleep during the day by herself.
i feed her which takes about 15-20minutes, change her then we have a little play. by about 1hour of awake time (when the signs start showing) i wrap her up and put her in her bassinet.
she will just start screaming without even lying there for a little bit. she is in such a state within 2 minutes that she is kicking all the sheets and blanket off her.
i go in to settle her except she is hysterical and nothing will stop her from screaming. how long should i leave her to scream?
i have picked her up, resettled her but then it doesnt take long for her to start up again. i do stay in the room to rock the basinett (cant do too much as only an ezyrocker bassinett).
She seems to be a fighter as as soon as she knows her eyes are closed she quickly opens them again. cheeky monkey. she is fine and goes to sleep in my arms however do not want her to get used to that!!!! once i put her in the bassinett she wakes up again. by the time that she gets to sleep she will only have 30-45minutes sleep before she wakes up for the next feed and i know that just isnt long enough for a wee baby to survive on that.
during the night she is fine as she is tired from not sleeping during the day!
help does anyone have any suggestions to help her like her bassinett and go to sleep!
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AuntieSarah
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Posted: 20 May 2009 at 9:38am |
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Ah I feel your pain. My boy has been surviving on 30-45 minute sleeps since 6 weeks (now 13 weeks). I have just started using music which seems to be working well, so I wrap him up, turn the music on while we have a cuddle then put him down, and he goes to sleep easily with the music (before it was taking 30-45 minutes of crying before he'd go to sleep - this is crying on me, I don't leave him to cry in bed). As for leaving her to scream - I wouldn't leave her to scream at all, I think she is to little to be left to cry.
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Posted: 20 May 2009 at 9:41am |
Others might have better suggestions than mine - but I always offer my bub a small feed before putting her in bed during the day.. she'll only feed for a couple of minutes then pull off but it seems to calm her a bit.
Also, have you tried a dummy? I was dead against them, but I tell you they are truely a god-send. Novella only takes them when shes really tired. When she wakes after 45mins its because shes gone through one sleep cycle, so if you maybe pop a dummy in and resettle her she might go back down. In terms of crying I have only just started to let Novella cry during the day a bit (5 mins) then I go in and re-settle her. 5 weeks is still really young and remember all babes are different - some like sleep more than others. Maybe Samantha doesn't need as much sleep during the day (some people will be scolding me right now). I wouldn't be pushing too much and in terms of letting her cry, I probably wouldn't let her get hysterical...
Anyway, that probably wasn't much help 
Hope things sort themselves out soon 
ETA - i forgot - When Nova jsut won't settle I get out the vacumn cleaner - works a treat! 
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SquishysMum
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Posted: 20 May 2009 at 9:43am |
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We've found the same thing as Sarah, Lydia would settle well with music if she was upset. Sometimes we'd have to turn it up quite loud for her to hear over her crying, but it worked a treat!
Hugs, it's hard when the only real "alone" time you get is at night when you're sleeping through it too! Hope you find something that works.
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Posted: 20 May 2009 at 10:05am |
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sometimes when they start to show the tired signs it means they are already overtired anyway...so maybe you need to try putting her back to bed earlier... and do you wrap her? i know that even tho some babies seem to fight wrapping it does help, it stops the startle reflex from waking them and gives them a secure feeling, akin to being in your arms.
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Posted: 20 May 2009 at 10:13am |
Bizzy is onto something there- even though the books etc recommend an hour of awake time- at 5 weeks your wee one might be overtired already. If you get a chance and have a plunket family centre near you, they have great dvd's that show babies tired signs. I know the dvd really helped me out when Ava was about the same age as Samantha and I thought I could read Ava's tired signs. turns out I was putting her to bed too late and she was over-tired.
One other thing- is she a windy baby? If I don't get all the wind out, Ava gets pretty hysterical when she lays down. I didn't figure that out until she was about 6 weeks old
Also as she is so young, any methods of getting her to sleep (rocking etc) might help and she won't get sleep associations with them.
Good luck
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Posted: 20 May 2009 at 2:27pm |
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Just another thought, don't know how you feel about her sleeping on you but I let Stu have a sleep in the moby each afternoon, then I know he's getting one decent sleep a day (sleeps 1-2 hours in there) and stops me going completely loopy!
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Posted: 20 May 2009 at 3:26pm |
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Does she sleep in the car? when i was having problems with sleep, i used to pop him in the car and go for a big drive. Didnt help with my lack of sleep, but i knew at least he was having a sleep and would be more bearable when we got home and the car stopped and he was awake again.. We used to go for big day trips in the weekend and he would sleep the whole way wake up for a feed and a play and then we would go home again lol and he would sleep the whole way back.
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Posted: 20 May 2009 at 3:59pm |
Sounds like she is getting a little over tired, so I would also do what Bizzy suggested and try putting her down before you normally would.
When Caden was a newborn I used to wrap him firm give him a dummy(It was a god send!! I love dummies!)and put him down awake before he started showing signs of actually being tired, he would lie there staring at his mobile(which always got turned on when he went to bed) and eventually he would drift off to sleep. Even now at 11 months old, I still put him down to for a nap well before he shows the classic tired signs, other wise a lot of the time he will have a huge tanty and then i just cant get him to sleep
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Posted: 20 May 2009 at 5:41pm |
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I agree, sounds overtired.
Finley is the same, I put him down now before the tired signs kick in.
Also at 5 weeks, do what you can to get them to sleep, I promise within a couple of weeks she will change again.
At that age we rocked Finley in our arms until he was sleepy or just asleep then put him down, then suddenly he would just be happy lying down and watching a mobile until he was asleep.
As we still wrap I am a big fan of that and we not longer use a dummy, something else he decided to give up, but we did in the beginning and it was great.
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Huggles
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Posted: 21 May 2009 at 5:44pm |
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Thanks everyone for your support and words of wisdom. Yes she must have been overtired and it just kept getting worse.
Yesterday i put her in a rocker and she slept for 4 hours. I also went to the Plunket family centre today and she slept for 2 lots of 3 hours.....grrr
They mentioned that i need to leave her then resettle her leave her then resettle her. she can put herself to sleep but she just needs a little bit more assistance than before. they are just wonderful at the Family centre.... i just need take about 20minutes of walking into her room and out.
Funny you should mention falling asleep in the car... not this princess she is usually wide awake unless so exhausted.
I still wrap her no matter how much she fights it.... She doesnt usually take a dummy as she wants to be heard! he just seems to spit it out all the time.
Happy sleeping little princess!
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