bullying - campbell live

i agree - at least we didn't have all the added extras of cyber-bullying and ending up on You Tube to worry about. any school that denies it has a bullying problem is either lying or really got its head in the sand

It also seems worse with the physical bullying coming out for girls. And since girls are traditionally pack rats then it does turn in to gangs.

But its not just the schools that have to do something about this, its society and the parents. The parents have either taught or let their children become the bullys they are and taught them its ok.

Hopefully campbell live are going to focus on it a lot more and bring it out in the open. Maybe change can come from it. I have never had a problem with bullying in my time in the middle east and in the USA. I bring my kids home to NZ and my son is kicked and punched in the playground and called a F'in american etc. He was born in NZ and only was in the states 3 years but that is beside the point. This went on for a week. My son was curled up in the fetal position being attacked basically. The school dealt with it really well.

I think that it is a parental problem. Whilst we are ok with it as a society and boys will be boys etc it has been ok. Now that girls are getting involved all of a sudden it isn't so ok. Not as tasteful so to speak. My 5 year old started school and she is now going thru it. An older boy pushing her over in the play ground and punching her. The boy was put in the library for two days and his parents called in so it was bad enough and this was without my promting. Once again the school dealt with it as best they could. But it is not up to teachers to teach values and respect. They can help and aid and support the principles but ultimately it is parents who need to instil these values.

ok will stop now and get off my soap box. The strange thing about it all is I have three very confident children who would be your last stereotype of getting bullied. They aren't your typical quiet type and have no reason to be bullied. Not that that is ok either but just saying.

It's so awefull. I was bullied at a private expensive girls school in the hutt. To the point where I didn't go to school for about 4 out of 5 days. My parents had no idea what to do, the school took the side of the bully as she had mental issues and home issues. There is no way in hell I would EVER send my kids to a school like that.

My bf is an electrician working on a college in Upper Hutt, on Tuesday he said two girls were just sitting on a bench and the next minute punching each other in the face, it just kept going and going. He couldn't say or do anything as he would be fired on the spot for interacting with the pupils. Anywho he was talking to a teacher later that day who said there was a massive brawl between the two colleges on the street, police involved and everything. It really is out of control.

It's awful eh?

I think you are right about morals and values being something that come from the home...but I also think it is really really important that schools/institutions (including work places) in which bullying occurs deal with it effectively - so, not ignoring it but acknowledging it, not re-victimising the victim, taking a firm but fair stand. The ethos or spirit in a place is pretty obvious when you go into a place...it's up to the leaders of a workplace/school to determine that ethos.
I was in a situation once where a teacher said about a victim "Oh, but she doesn't seem to mind the kids comments...she just walks away".........I thought that was one of the most ignorant responses to bullying ever!!! Brave kid to have learnt that walking away is a good thing to do...does not mean it did not hurt/have a lasting effect. Bad bad bad.