What’s it like?

I got a step dad at 31 and think he's great! We get along really well, in fact I have a better relationship with him than I do with my dad... though admittedly, my parents split more than 15 years ago so had lots of time to readjust to the whole thing.

Hope you find your peace with it all

not easy my mum and dad spilt about 3 years ago and they dont talk so that has made it harder just take it day by dy and you will get there

My Mum died when I was 18, and a few years after that Dad had a "girlfriend" (who I think was more of a companion, as Dad was well into his 70's by then!). It never really turned into anything, more because Dad felt he was being unfaithful to Mum's memory, but she was a nice lady, and made him go out and do things, so we were happy for him. Still was a bit weird though!

Depends who it is I guess!! DH's mum was with an absolute arse for about 6 years, so that sucked for him, but now she's found a lovely guy it all feels very natural!

Good question my dad died a few years ago and my mom is starting to make noises about dating and i'm totally weirded out by that!

I think in the end as long as they are happy then its all good.

My Dad remarried 2 years ago and I don't think of his wife as my 'step-mum' she's his wife not related to me in any way.
She has grown up children as well and her daughter has two children, one is only a couple weeks younger than Catherine and I don't think of her as my 'step sister' either or of them as cousins.

IMO gaining 'step families' in adult hood is different as your not being raised by them as such. They're no different to relatives by marriage.

I struggled with having her being called Nana as well as to me she's not Nana and my nieces call her by her name.
Will see how that turns out once Catherine starts talkin

I found it harder when my parent spit (my 'dad' is actually my stepdad & i don't have anything to do with my father) I get on really well with my Mums partner and have decided that I would like DD to call him Opa/Grandad/whatever she decides (which will probably just be his nickname that everyone calls him) he is a really nice guy and him and Mum are great together but like caliandjack said step families in adulthood is alot different.
My Dads partner is nice enough but not my first choice and I think he could have done a lot better but she makes him happy which is the main thing......her children though, well don't get me started on them...they will never be step anything to me or DD but I tolerate them to keep the peace (I actually just avoid them like the plague)

MummyFreckle wrote: I got a step-dad at 21, and I have never thought of him like a Dad at all. He is just the person that my mum is married to IYGWIM. The hardest part for me was not getting a step-dad, it was getting step-siblings and the rest of his family. They are very different from our family and have a very different set of values to the rest of us. I have to work very hard to include them where appropriate, but I guess I dont really think of them as "family" even after 10years.

This is how it's been for me too. Step-mum at 25, step-dad at 27 (? I think). The hardest part is that Dad's wife is really disappointed that my brother, sister and I don't want to play happy families with her (adult) kids. Dad met her long after I'd moved out of home and even out of my home town so it's not like we're all living together!

As others have said, take it slow, try not to have too many expectations (good or bad) and hopefully she is making your Dad happy which is the main thing!