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AngieBabe 
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 Posted: 12 February 2011 at 11:40am |
The only time being defriended had me a bit miffed was DS father  - we had our wee fling while he was a contractor at my workplace. During the time he worked there he had friended a lot of people but when his contract finished we all got defriended... he did warn me that when he leaves a job he deletes his old colleagues... my thinking was I had become just a bit more than a colleague  but meh, what's done's done and I'm not bothered by it anymore.
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Posted: 12 February 2011 at 11:41am |
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Well in real life, friendships have seasons, so it only makes sense to cull of people that you don't have anything to do with anymore.
Sometimes I get weirded out by how public facebook actually is, and am inclined to even defriend people that I am still friends with...
I figure (even though some people choose to take it personally), just because I defriend you on facebook, doesn't mean I don't actually want to be your friend in real life.
I know this mightn't make a lot of sense, but I have FB friends who I can tolerate in person, but actually p me off quite a bit on facebook, so don't want them to have access to my profile, or have to see every hour what they, their child or a person in the street have eaten.
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Posted: 12 February 2011 at 12:15pm |
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The only time de-friending bothered me was when my own mum de-friended me
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Posted: 12 February 2011 at 1:30pm |
 BriAndOlisMum wrote:
The only time de-friending bothered me was when my own mum de-friended me |
Ouch!
I dont really notice when people de-friend me on FB. the only 1 i noticed was a girl i work with and only because someone told me to look at something funny on her page
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Posted: 12 February 2011 at 2:23pm |
Yeah this thread made me think about my own FB friends and go through and do a big clear out, I got rid of about 40! I have been thinking more and more about the safety of FB and having so much stuff public.
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Posted: 12 February 2011 at 3:17pm |
I had a nice big clean out of friends. Only to realise my aunty de-friended me. Whatevz she's a b*tch anyway.
I haven't got a prob with people defriending me. Your loss. I'm awesome  
I think some people get abit carried away with FB. It's the internet. Goodness sake.
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Posted: 12 February 2011 at 4:39pm |
After a recent thread on here about your kids pics on the internet I went through and culled about 60 people that I haven't interacted with for ages, i.e. some old school friends I haven't seen since school days and we don't interact on FB either - it didn't really make sense to still be 'friends'. I haven't had anyone ask me about it.
The only time I notice if I've been de-friended is if I go to view someone's profile only to find out we're no longer friends It doesn't bother me as I realise that they have probably done it for the same reason I just have.
I'm interested to know how you responded too.
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Posted: 12 February 2011 at 8:02pm |
I have been defriended - mainly people off here (ohbaby) It doesn't bother me - aculls a cull and I am not a friend IRL life so I understand totally - I have done it too - and normally only discover it by accident that I have been culled :-)
i did get defriended by a daughter of my ex caregiver - then the caregiver then the whole family of hers - it really bothered me at first (reason I can only presume was cause I didn't take my kids back to her after maternity leave) as I said really bothered me at first as I thought I had done nothing wrong - but now its like Bah if she's petty like that I don't need friends like that!
Ouch to those of you who have had family defriend you 
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Posted: 12 February 2011 at 10:31pm |
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I have defriended some people...the vast majority cause i have nothing to do with in real life or just we arent friends.. and i have had several get really upset about it...:( it's nothing personal though!
re the limited profile if i knew how to do it i would but just cause i dont want all my relatives seeing some stuff lol:)
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Posted: 12 February 2011 at 10:31pm |
I have no worries about defriending 'randoms' who I've never met IRL, but if I've never done it to someone I actually know. I'd have to have a good reason for doing that. I'd be so embarrassed.
That said, I've been very careful not to accept friend requests from a couple of my OH's family. They're those really annoying types who open a FB page and never do anything with it, but want to be your 'friend' so they can snoop
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Posted: 12 February 2011 at 10:57pm |
ElfsMum wrote:
I have defriended some people...the vast majority cause i have nothing to do with in real life or just we arent friends.. and i have had several get really upset about it...:( it's nothing personal though!
re the limited profile if i knew how to do it i would but just cause i dont want all my relatives seeing some stuff lol:) |
lol I noticed last week when I went to write a birthday message on your wall for Liam's bday that I'd been culled. Wasn't upset about it though, its not like we know each other IRL!
I did a big cull a couple of weeks ago and deleted about 40 people, most were people I had added for games - they were already on a limited profile but cos I stopped playing the games I didn't really need them there anymore.
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Posted: 13 February 2011 at 7:07am |
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So glad that everyone does it. I didn't bother responding to the people that emailed me asking why I unfriended them. After everyones comments, I think they must have been fb stalking me to even notice, as I don't often update my status or post new pics. A bit creepy.
I do have a bit of a confession though....I just unfriended my MIL!! She is sooo annoying and texts DH if I ever update my status. If I say something like "just had a great day out catching up with xxx" she will then think that I have ditched the kids for the day (when they were with me the whole time) and have been going out drinking and generally being a bad mother. So I got so sick of it I have unfriended. Don't know what I will say to her if she notices! Maybe tell her my fb has been playing up and somehow she got deleted!
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Posted: 13 February 2011 at 9:49am |
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I seem to offend people by not accepting their friend requests in the first place. There aren't that many people that I actually want to know everything about what they're doing and definitely not that many that I want to know everything about me. But then I get angry/upset messages asking why I haven't accepted them as a friend and no-one seems to accept the explanation that I only really use it so my family can see photos of my daughter.
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Posted: 13 February 2011 at 10:49am |
hila1 wrote:
I do have a bit of a confession though....I just unfriended my MIL!! She is sooo annoying and texts DH if I ever update my status. If I say something like "just had a great day out catching up with xxx" she will then think that I have ditched the kids for the day (when they were with me the whole time) and have been going out drinking and generally being a bad mother. So I got so sick of it I have unfriended. Don't know what I will say to her if she notices! Maybe tell her my fb has been playing up and somehow she got deleted! |
My MIL is on FB but only to be nosey, she doesn't do anything with her page. I haven't added her as a friend as I don't want her seeing all my personal updates about things as I know she'd be stalking my page every second. I'd like some privacy in my life from her! I know it must bother her, as I'm friends with SIL and MIL's niece (Dh's cousin) so I'd say she'd hear things about what I put on my page from them which annoys me. She apparently said to SIL that she's waiting for me to invite her, she won't ask me first. So that's good cos I know I'll never invite her! And it'll be awkward not accepting her friend request if she ever asks me.
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Posted: 13 February 2011 at 1:56pm |
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FB is for social networking and thats how I treat it. I do have people set into groups so I can be selective of who sees what etc. I've been defriended, mainly by OB people, and thats fine Im not particularly bothered!
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Posted: 13 February 2011 at 2:29pm |
I have had my ex's family request to add me as their friend on FB, christ knows why! Granted I am B's mum, but he has his own profile (courtesy of ex-FIL, and orig set up without my knowledge or agreement  ) so if they want to see pics of him, they can see photos I have tagged him in. I dont want them knowing my business, when its none of theirs! Needless to say, I ignored those requests lol!
I've had a couple of 'friends' de-friend me, one went so far as to BLOCK me for some crap that went down between mutual friends that I was somehow 'involved' in and I had no idea until I got a lovely PM from her
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Posted: 13 February 2011 at 3:52pm |
I have been thinking of doing it to someone. I thought we were good friends but I haven't seen her in a year and keep telling her we need to catch up and stuff and nothing happens so I am not going bother anymore. It was her sons 5th birthday and she never asked me if I would like to come and gone to his previously ones if I had nothing planned that really hurt.
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Posted: 14 February 2011 at 10:55am |
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My FB account got hacked (by someone I know) and deleted a lot of people that was so embarrassing because it was like I did it - my best friend and sister got deleted too when the hacker did that! It was bad.
Have started readding the people that I know got culled again and explained myself - but the first I really knew about it was when they sent me a message or something getting angry, a guy I use to go to school with got really angry - wtf?!
I have been defriended, and totally understand if it's not someone that I talk a lot too, I get that really I do - but when it's someone you talked to quite a bit then I think that sux arse!
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