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Lieze 
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Posted: 26 April 2010 at 1:22am |
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Hi there, I am new to this and dont even know if in in the right section...
I have an 11 month old son and he has started headbaging when we say no to him. This is manageable but he does it in his high chair and during family meal times. He is our only child. He its his heas on the back of the highchiar with is wooden and just cries and wont eat. Anyone have any advice? We just dont know what to do about it and its scary.
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caraMel
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Posted: 26 April 2010 at 7:48am |
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Don't give it too much attention.
My son did this for a while too, on his cot rail, the floor, basically anything that was handy.
Making a fuss and trying to make him stop didn't work, he just kept doing it every time he got worked up.
Even though it was very worrying to see, the most effective thing was ignoring it and giving him attention when he stopped.
If he did it on something that was potentially dangerous eg: coffee table or fire hearth, we'd remove him to somewhere safe until he was calm.
If it is any consolation, Benji never hurt himself and the phase was over pretty quickly.
Good luck!
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Posted: 26 April 2010 at 9:46am |
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i agree with caramel..my son did it to windows and the floor.. everyone kept telling me he wont do it if it hurts..and he never hurt himself either.. awful to watch though eh:(
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Posted: 26 April 2010 at 10:38am |
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So would I just make sure hes is Safe and walk away?
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Posted: 26 April 2010 at 11:03am |
Yup, that's what we did.
Sometimes he would ramp it up a bit when we left him but it never took him very long to come around and then we'd just say "are you ready to .... now?" and carry on. Repeating as necessary 
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Posted: 26 April 2010 at 11:10am |
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Thanks for the help
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Posted: 26 April 2010 at 11:10am |
My DS was soooo bbad at doing this, he did it all the time, when i told him off, when he couldnt do something, when he was tired and it really freaked me out!
He started doing it around the time his sister was born(he was 14 months) and he has only just stopped doing recently at 22 months, he does it every so often, but now he is at the throw toys around and throw himself onto the ground stage lol.
I used to stop him when he started doing it, and I would try and explain to him that he shouldnt do it. Sometimes he did it so bad that he would leaves huge bruises on his forehead or carpet burns where he did it on the ground   then he would burst into tears and come running to me, so it was for attention. So he did hurt himself from doing it.
I was starting to get really worried about it! but it was just a phase and he is now out of it. (thank god!)
If he starts doing it quite badly, then definitely stop him, as they can hurt themselves.
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Posted: 26 April 2010 at 11:17am |
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I can Identify with this so once he done it and is crying and comes over to you do you pick him up and give him a cuddle?
By the ways thanks for shareing with me everyone
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Posted: 26 April 2010 at 11:44am |
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oh hugs about that sheza.. thats just what they told me:(
we used to stop him and if he kept doing it then ignore him and he always stopped.. he will hit himself in the head sometimes now for attention which we just tell him to stop and ignore as well.. it was embarrassing too cause none of my friend's kids did it!
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Posted: 26 April 2010 at 12:44pm |
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Hey Lieze, good to see you here.
Hope it gets better chicky. (see didn't I say these ladies were wonderful? lol)
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Posted: 26 April 2010 at 1:18pm |
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Janine you did :) thanks so much for letting me vent.
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Posted: 26 April 2010 at 2:09pm |
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My 18 month old has just started it too! I just ignore her - mostly its in her highchair and its padded (gosh the padded sounds bad!).
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Posted: 26 April 2010 at 5:27pm |
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You know, i've just realised that Thomas has stopped headbanging! LOL.
I ignored it and never gave praise when he stopped.
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Posted: 26 April 2010 at 10:15pm |
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Hugs
My daughter did this and being the third child I did what the others suggested and ignored it at first. But there is only so much you can ignore. She banged her head on tile floors and the coffee table. She would have bruises and egg shaped bumps and once gave herself a concussion.
We bought a helmet which looked like one of those rugby helmets.
For us there was an underlying problem which caused her frustrations. Once that was solved the headbanging stopped.
To watch your child intentionally hurt themselves is heartbreaking. Keep an eye on it and any other issues. It may be a secondary reaction to something else going on. For my daughter she had sleep apnea and needed grommets. Her speech was impaired due to her lack of hearing and she was frustrated not being able to communicate and of course being tired everyday from lack of sleep due to the apnea. Talk to your doctor if you are really worried. Most times they do stop and grow out of it.
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Posted: 27 April 2010 at 10:26pm |
Wow Kiwi2 that is interesting Glad it sorted it self out...
I would like to say there was only head banging at lunch today along with plate throwing... hes got quite an arm it seems threw the plate about 5 meters. But i just ignored it and finished eating my lunch picked up his lunch and gave him a few bites of bread and some fruit. then he was fine. There is a patton but just just trying to figure out the trigger...
But its going better...
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