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High9 
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 Posted: 29 June 2010 at 10:41pm |
Don't feel guilty about it!
Even if you just get a friend and pop down to a cafe or the mall for a quick coffee! 
Berg I plan to go back to Uni next year, for me 4 months is a bit young for me to leave Lily especially while she is still exclusively bf.
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WestiesGirl
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Posted: 29 June 2010 at 10:57pm |
VB I dont have anything further to add but just wanted to say dont be too hard on yourself. This baby rearing business is hard work. Be kind to yourself  And I also agree with Berg too
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Emmecat
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Posted: 30 June 2010 at 7:35am |
Aaaww man I looked at going back to uni next term and they're not taking any more enrollments grrrr so I might need to do an adult class just for interests sake lol
Vanillabean- feel free to pm me and pop around to mine any time you want....I'm normally around and Clodagh will show you how quickly the boring part ends and the crazy ripping your hair out part begins lol 
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tiptoes
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Posted: 30 June 2010 at 11:39am |
Don't feel guilty about going out! I try and get out most days even if it's just for a stroll around the mall. New places and houses are interesting for babies as they're seeing and smelling new stuff - so they're learning that way.
I know I found it quite hard at the beginning to get out as much as Cooper was only awake for about 45 mins at a time and didn't always sleep as well out and about but gradually I got more confident and he'd sleep in the sling or my arms. Now he doesn't do that really but he can stay awake for 2-3 hours so that's a good stint of time to go somewhere and then head home and play for the afternoon. I also found getting out for a walk, even for 30 mins later in the afternoon good if he was getting grizzly as often he'd be quite relaxed in the stroller and I'd feel good getting fresh air and some exercise.
But if you'd rather switch with your husband for a bit then there's nothing wrong with that either as then you might enjoy your time together even more.
I found signing up for things like the Plunket PEPE course and playcentre SPACE groups great. You learn a bit, meet some other Mum's and bubs have a new place to check out
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ElfsMum
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Posted: 30 June 2010 at 1:43pm |
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vanilla i was the same i felt guilty..i dont know why but everytime i went out but eventually i stopped....part of it for me is BFing.. I want to FF but he wont take bottle and is now dairy free so need to wait and get him onto special formula anyway..
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Posted: 30 June 2010 at 2:35pm |
Hey I haven't read much of the responses but saw a group that has been set up here in Wellington and thought you might be interested - Why I thought of you was that you were missing adult conversation and this group looked really good....
http://www.mumsinthecity.co.nz
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anon
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Posted: 30 June 2010 at 4:02pm |
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I can't really add anything to what other people have suggested but I will say that those first few months are definitely the hardest and it really is true that it gets easier. For me, the first 6wks were extremely hard because of the feeding issues and then I had challenges with his sleeping.. but as those resolved and my body adjusted to the night time feeds, and then his night time waking stretched out longer so I got 5hrs sleep all in one hit, I started to feel a lot better.
There is potential for you to end up with PND for sure. I had a lot of risk factors too, and so I will say take care of yourself and DON'T feel guilty about doing so - including taking a break or going out with/without baby as you need to. It's really important for your sanity and you will feel a lot better and in time, you will adjust to this new motherhood role and baby's routine etc. but it's essential you put in your day some things that are for you too. And if things don't improve, you have the option of going back to work while DP looks after bubs.
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LittleBug
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Posted: 01 July 2010 at 2:03pm |
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I found that getting out of the house and doing things with other mums, at that age, helps heaps. Even just going to the library with bubba and reading yourself, or strollering pointlessly around town was helpful to me. I found it easier as my kiddies got older and more interactive.
Although I do find myself enjoying being a parent a lot more now that I'm not a full stay at home mum. I like the mental stimulation, and I feel like I'm a better quality mum when I am spending time with the kids, now. I think it depends on your personality.
Really important to make sure you are getting "me-time" though and doing something for yourself.
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bun_in_the_oven
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Posted: 01 July 2010 at 2:37pm |
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when i had those moments I would get DS all wrapped up nice and warm, pop him into the buggie and go for a nice long walk outside..
fresh air is great and a bit of excersize is always helpfull after having a baby...
Hang in there.. as your baby becomes 'more interactive' you will fall in love.. then you will have the opposite and find it hard to leave them !!
keep an eye on that PND just incase..
hang in there mama
((((hugs))))
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struggling with being at home with baby
