New Posts New Posts RSS Feed - Sleeping - how bad is this?
  FAQ FAQ  Forum Search   Events   Register Register  Login Login


Forum LockedSleeping - how bad is this?

 Post Reply Post Reply Page  <12
Author
T_Rex View Drop Down
Senior Member
Senior Member
Avatar

Joined: 07 March 2007
Location: PN
Points: 2896
Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote T_Rex Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 30 October 2010 at 11:46am
Emme, how hard was night weaning? She's just a wee dot, even though she eats like a horse, so I kind of feel like she should be getting fed in the night still. Especially as she's down to 3 feeds - morning, lunch and bedtime - on daycare days. But I'd much rather feed her once or twice, not 4 times! And feeding isn't a guaranteed settle anyway. We were up for 90 minutes after the 3am feed this morning. I think lots of milk feeds triggers her reflux
Back to Top
millymollymandy View Drop Down
Senior Member
Senior Member
Avatar

Joined: 09 September 2009
Location: Taranaki
Points: 499
Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote millymollymandy Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 30 October 2010 at 2:15pm
T-rex my girl was about 6.5 KG when I night weaned her, gradually decreasing what she got and dream feeding before she woke herself. She didn't bat an eyelid and eats even more during the day. I did find that not feeding at night made it eaiser for her not to settle, as it was less confusing for her.
Back to Top
Emmecat View Drop Down
Senior Member
Senior Member
Avatar

Joined: 30 April 2007
Location: New Zealand
Points: 5068
Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote Emmecat Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 30 October 2010 at 6:21pm

T-Rex, suprisingly night weaning wasn't nearly as bad as I thought it would be.... Clody is also a bit of a dot, but shorter rather than skinny iykwim? She sits about the 50th percentile for weight for her age so I was never worried about her not getting enough calories or anything. And I'm pretty sure I would've been feeding her 3-4 times a day at that age? Maybe more? But yeah we had a looong BF before her bedtime, I just let her have her fill and she'd often fall asleep on the breast.

We went about night weaning by getting Daddy to go to her when she woke during the night. It took about 3/4 nights of her being a bit upset, but he was always there to hold her and cuddle her and give her a sippy cup of water etc, so it's not like she didn't have anyone iykwim? Now when she wakes she calls for Daddy and generally resettles fairly quickly.  I think I also made sure she was getting a good size dinner, complete with 'dessert' of yogurt and fruit and weetbix etc...stuff that I thought might fill up her wee tummy so I knew she wasn't waking from hunger.

You can only try it if you can't face BF bubs overnight! the only thing I would say is make a cut off time for BF that makes sense...ie a bedtime feed then the next one a morning feed. It's pointless (IMO) to say oh I'll feed her up till midnight, cos babies can't tell time lol so to her it's just dark iykwim? Dr Sears has some great advice in his books, as does Elizabeth Pantley  Oh I also told her that 'milkies' or-whatever you call them- where going to sleep too lol and that we would see them again in the morning


Back to Top
T_Rex View Drop Down
Senior Member
Senior Member
Avatar

Joined: 07 March 2007
Location: PN
Points: 2896
Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote T_Rex Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 31 October 2010 at 8:52am
Lol, Emme, I love the idea of *milkies* going to sleep. Do you think at 10 months, she'd understand that? How many night feeds was she having when you weaned her? It seems a bit mean to suddenly go from 6 feeds to none, cutting out about 2 hours of feeding in one hit. But I agree about it not being fair to feed her sometimes and not others. I was wondering about cutting her feeds shorter for a while, but that might just prolong the tears and confusion?
Back to Top
Kalimirella View Drop Down
Senior Member
Senior Member
Avatar

Joined: 14 November 2009
Location: Waipukurau
Points: 1882
Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote Kalimirella Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 31 October 2010 at 1:27pm
I did the cutting feeds shorter, then just cuddles, then just patting, she stopped waking within the week (though it was a week of hell!) So it does work but you have to be disciplined. But then I'm a bit strange, I don't mind my baby crying (depending on the cry) so long as I'm there to comfort her. So no crying it out but yes there was some crying involved but not left alone IYGWIM.
Kiara is 3 and Teagan is 2, now we're expecting our long awaited 3rd!
Back to Top
T_Rex View Drop Down
Senior Member
Senior Member
Avatar

Joined: 07 March 2007
Location: PN
Points: 2896
Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote T_Rex Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 31 October 2010 at 2:14pm
Thanks Kali, not strange, its somehow better if you are there for them. How fast did you reduce the feeds?

Edited by T_Rex
Back to Top
Emmecat View Drop Down
Senior Member
Senior Member
Avatar

Joined: 30 April 2007
Location: New Zealand
Points: 5068
Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote Emmecat Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 01 November 2010 at 1:22pm

Um we weren't BF 6 times a night (thank god and all his minions lol) but prob 1-2 times a night? We introduced a sippy cup of water during the day so she got used to using it, altho I'd still offer her breast first before water iykwim....but at night when DF got up to her, he would offer her the water and 9 times out of 10 she'd take it, which reinforced my belief she was BF mainly at night for thirst and/or habit. As DF was always holding her then she was getting the comfort side of things from him

I'm not sure if I'd go cold turkey on 6 BFs a night to none BUT then having said that, you want your last one to be very clearly the last one you're prepapred to do until morning iykwim? So if you choose a midnight feed then i would still somehow try to convey that to her- I know, not easy at 10 months old.  I would def start saying milkies/boobies/whatever you call them have gone ta-tas or byebyes etc during the day when you're done BF and then when it's your last feed of the day try introducing something more like 'sshhhh milkies sleeping now. See you in the morning milkies'. Of course she won't understand but hopefully over time she will. Clodagh def understands now and understood I think a good few months ago....of course it took a while but now I just need to say (if I don't want to/can't BF her during the day) 'sssshhh milkies sleeping, see you tonight milkies'...she puts her wee finger to her lips and says sssshhhh lol  And in the morning if she's watching me getting dressed she sees my breasts and does her milk signal then says byebye and waves to them (we recently dropped the morning feed). It's very cute. I feel a bit sad dropping most of her feeds btw but my nipples are literally gonna fall off if they don't get some rest before new bubs comes!

That's my opinion on how you might wanna try stuff anyway. I'm no expert though hehe



Edited by Emmecat

Back to Top
Emmecat View Drop Down
Senior Member
Senior Member
Avatar

Joined: 30 April 2007
Location: New Zealand
Points: 5068
Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote Emmecat Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 01 November 2010 at 1:28pm
Oh and yeah there will def be crying but it's completely different crying in Mama or Daddys arms and being comforted while doing so. It's not CIO or even CC.  Just keep making sure all her other needs are met- ie she's burped,warm,  dry, not hungry (for solids) or thirsty etc.

Back to Top
 Post Reply Post Reply Page  <12

Forum Jump Forum Permissions View Drop Down

Forum Software by Web Wiz Forums® version 11.10
Copyright ©2001-2017 Web Wiz Ltd.

This page was generated in 0.563 seconds.