WHAT WOULD YOU DO?

squeeee how exciting Nic!

Gee ok...thinking out loud here.

You have great support where you are and I know you have done an awful lot of work to make your wee place a home.
You and your DH are still young....plenty of time to buy a house before you're 30!

On the other hand you will have an awful lot on your plate with the study, business and a toddler let alone being pregnant and then having a newborn. Which of these things would be your priority to defer.....I can't imagine trying to do the lot at once, but that ultimately is your call hun.

Whatever you decide I'm sure you will make it work

It sounds like a lot on your plate tbh and in my situation DD is 1yo we'd love a #2 but realistically for us it's more important that we finish our quals first then have a number 2, so that's looking like another 6 years away which was not the age gap I had planned! But Like you DH, mine wants #2 sooner and we've started discussing end of next year, bare in mind I'm studying this year but won't officially be end of my first year until next year so depending on how that goes will depend on if we start end of next year or not.

We are lucky in the sense that we have great family support all around, his family + mine and are pretty lucky to not be renting (live with my family) but still pay board close to rent + our share of bills.

Is the business a business as such? Or just a bit of extra cash on the side sorta thing? Because it will be very busy having 2 kids, running a business AND studying whilst trying to save for a home, be a wife, yourself, etc... Also are you able to study later? Say after #2?

At the end of the day, it's your choice, but if it were me I would wait. You may find that things get worse with your PND by having #2 and trying to juggle it all.

Do you think you can manage a toddler and a newborn given your history of PND?
Personally I would wait till your business is established and you know how much of a time commitment your studies are going to be.
Study and a looking after Charlotte will keep you pretty busy. Without lack of sleep with a newborn.

Then I vote start your studies first and then look at having a baby, remember 2 years - Charlottes on 6 months now so that leaves 18 months to start your studies and see how that goes. I'm only doing 2 certs and I must admit the only study time I get is when she sleeps...

Yup I would keep to my studies if I were you, cos at the risk of harping on about it again.... 2 with a close gap is really hard . IMO of course.  No way would I be able to return to my studies atm, much as I miss it. But hey at the end of the day you'll know in yourself if you enjoy being a Mum more than the others things...cos with 2 little ones you'll probably have to drop the business and studies at least for a bit.

Question: Have you studied before? Or starting something from scratch?

I've just picked up one paper after 10 years of not studying & OMG it's hard trying to find the spare 12.75hrs a week to read stuff, got an assignment looming over my head already, starting up my own little business as well, plus all the other stuff. I'm struggling & I don't have PND.

I'm not saying don't do it, but be aware it's been harder than I thought it was going to be.