sleep settling help!

wait any advice but a dummy he has tounge tie and latching issues really dont want to mess with it

wind is my best guess too, i try and get it all up and he is a windy bub. might look at the dairy been suggested to me before. cucumber is a new one though! thanks for the advice.

Anything that makes you burp/windy will make him burp/windy too. You need to go dairy free for at least two weeks for it to get out of your system. I can eat cheese and yoghurt occasionally as they dont seem to do much but if I have milk she gets plenty of wind- still at 10months old!

You may want to have a chat to someone before you go cutting dairy out of your diet, doctor, midwife, etc... I actually got told off by my GP for cutting it out as the calcium is very important for me specifically but when DD was NB if I ate dairy it affected her wind, poos, etc. So I 'wasn't allowed' to cut it from my diet. Now days we think DD has a dairy intolerance but still waiting to see the GP about it as she won't do anything about it and keeps assuring me that if she does she'll grow out of it.

I second the wearing in a front pack idea and making sure the room isn't too over stimulating. Tbh it was easier to just get them to sleep anyway you could in the early days and once they get to about 3 months-ish you can look at breaking those habits.

I second the carrier, DS was the same and would have really good sleeps on me.

I would try cutting out caffeine, lots of potatoes, cabbage, beans, corn, spicy food, too much citrus, chocolate ( is bad for wind ) first before cutting out dairy and/or wheat.

DD reacted to all of the above and as long as I didn't have any she'd be fine. However DS reactes to dairy so have had to cut that out.

There are also plenty of other ways of getting calcium in your diet so don't be put off by that. Most rice/soy milk has calcium too.



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Not any new suggestions, but I just wanted to add a note about the dairy, it actually takes 6-8 weeks to get out of your and bubs system (turns out DD is allergic to wheat, dairy, egg, soy and peanuts) if you swap dairy for soy then you will still get enough calcium if you eat a varied and balanced diet, but if you feel you dont then you can get supplements (since I cant have dairy or soy then Im on 1000mg a day as decided by the dietitian).
I def recommend having a chat to your GP or similar if you do plan on cutting something major out of your diet.
Oh have you tried gripe water (or something similar?) I found the odd time DD had a trapped bubble then it was magic!

Vibrating rockers are magic for getting babies to sleep. My DS was like that for a long time he would only sleep when rocked and then when I put him down he would wake straight up again, or wake after 10 mins, 45 min max. Once I got the vibrating rocker it was great because I could put him down somewhere and he's actually be happy and nod off. I assume swings work the same but my DS never liked the swing.

I agree that during those first 3 months you do whatever you have to to get them to sleep and don't worry. My DS was terrible at first and now he self settles for the majority of his sleeps and he just started doing that when he was ready to, without too much effort on my part, and I did the rocking, patting, pram, driving in the car, rocking the bassinette, feeding to sleep etc etc etc but they have not become lasting habits. So I say do whatever you have to do.

Also, I found putting him in his room for day sleeps helped massively as there were no distractions and also having a routine I followed every day for sleeps ie. he go downstairs to his room, nappy change, swaddle, feed, cuddle a bit and then go to bed. He knows what is expected of him that way and now due to habit he's usually out like a light.

Also I found I would try something once then presume it didn't work if I didn't succeed right away, but it's a good idea to try something for a while. I have the radio on for every sleep for DS as some background noise and I find it helps him to settle if he does wake up.

Miracle blanket is also legendary. I would wrap rather than not wrap personally, less distractions from feet and hands etc hehe. I didnt wrap for day sleeps at first and his sleeps got much better when I started to.

Wow, heaps of good points there, i've been swaddling him after his feed instead of before, never thought of doing it that way around will try that as he's normally a bit more dopey after eating. And i've been doing day feeds in the busy noisy lounge and night feeds in the quiet room to encourage him knowing the difference but maybe i should try all feeds in his room too.

Onwards with the battle!